

Relationship Renovation: Marriage Advice, Intimacy & Couples Communication
EJ and Tarah Kerwin
Book a Discovery Call for Relationship Renovation CoachingTake the Emotional Safety Assessment QuizJoin Our Patreon CommunityStronger relationships start here. The Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosted by licensed therapists and partners Tarah & E.J. Kerwin, gives couples the tools to improve communication, rebuild trust, and create lasting intimacy.With over 20 years of experience for Tarah and 15+ years for E.J., and their proven Relationship Renovation Method, they share practical strategies, real-life stories, and therapist-guided insights to help you break negative cycles and deepen your connection.Each week you’ll learn how to:Practice couples therapy skills at homeStop fighting and start communicatingRebuild trust after conflict or distanceStrengthen both emotional and physical intimacyHear real couples share struggles and breakthroughsWith over 20,000 monthly downloads, Relationship Renovation is trusted worldwide by couples who want advice that is expert, relatable, and actionable.Whether you’re dating, married, or somewhere in between, this podcast is your roadmap to transform conflict into connection.Subscribe today—and start building the relationship you’ve been hoping for.
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Mar 29, 2024 • 30min
166 - Want to Snuggle? A Guide to Getting Closer with Your Partner
Are you and your partner on the same page with your levels of physical and emotional intimacy?How can you discuss and navigate differing desires without judgment or tension?What playful tools can you use to communicate about your intimacy needs effectively?Dive into Episode 166 of Relationship Renovation, where hosts EJ and Tarah unwrap the complex layers of physical and emotional intimacy in relationships. This episode introduces listeners to the "frisky scale," a unique and engaging approach for couples to gauge and discuss their intimacy levels in a non-threatening way. Learn how to establish emotional safety, set boundaries, and initiate the sex talk with ease. Whether you're in a bustling city or cruising down a country road, EJ and Tarah's insights on daily "frisky level" check-ins will guide you towards a more harmonious and understanding partnership.To learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.In a light-hearted yet profound manner, EJ and Tarah address how varying levels of friskiness can affect your connection, sharing their struggles and successes in maintaining intimacy amidst life's chaos. Discover how vacations, date nights, and open dialogue can reignite the spark in your relationship. Get inspired by their Relationship Renovation at-home program, designed to help couples fortify their bond week by week. Tune in to this episode—enriched with personal anecdotes and expert advice—to renovate your relationship and foster a deeper, more empathetic love. Don't forget to review and spread the word about Relationship Renovation for the betterment of love lives everywhere!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Mar 22, 2024 • 41min
165 - Transforming Struggles into Strength: The Marriage 365 Story
Do you feel like your marriage is missing the connection it once had?Are you struggling to communicate effectively with your spouse and resolve conflicts?Are you both open to using therapeutic tools to improve your relationship but unsure where to start?In Episode 165 of Relationship Renovation, EJ and Tarah welcome marriage experts Meygan and Casey Caston from Marriage 365 to discuss the renovation of their own union from the brink of collapse to a joyous and resilient partnership. With over two decades of experience, the Castons share candid insights into their transformation, the initial challenges of incorporating therapeutic tools into their daily lives, and the glorious triumphs that follow. They open up about their personal journey of self-improvement, how focusing on individual growth led to a stronger marriage, and why enjoyment should not be a sideline in your relationship. This episode delivers a powerful mix of vulnerability, wisdom, and practical strategies for anyone looking to strengthen their marriage.To learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Mar 15, 2024 • 25min
164 - Body Language: The Hidden Communicator in Relationships
In this episode of Relationship Renovation, we delve into the power of body language and body awareness in relationships.Are you interested in uncovering the messages you might be unintentionally sending to your partner?Do you want to create more vulnerable and connecting moments with your partner?Are you looking to understand how body language impacts your communication with your partner?EJ and Tarah explore how paying attention to the nonverbal signals our bodies send can lead to a deeper understanding of ourselves and our partners. They discuss how becoming aware of our body language can help in navigating difficult discussions, improving emotional safety, and fostering intimate connections. Tune in to learn how to use body awareness as a tool to strengthen your relationship and deepen your connection with your partner.To learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Mar 8, 2024 • 27min
163 - How to Stop Being Defensive in Your Relationship and Build Emotional Safety
How does defensiveness affect your relationship with your partner?What role do childhood experiences play in shaping emotional responses in relationship?How did EJ and Tarah work through their challenges and what lessons can listeners learn from their experience?In this revealing and heartwarming episode of Relationship Renovation, EJ and Tarah Kerwin open up about their own journey to emotional safety and intimacy in their relationship. EJ shares his struggle with defensiveness and the impact it had on their relationship, while also delving into the roots of his emotional responses that were shaped during his childhood. Tarah provides insight into the challenges they faced and the steps they took to navigate through them, offering valuable lessons to listeners who may be navigating similar issues in their own relationships.This deeply personal and insightful episode sheds light on the complexities of emotional connection and the impact of past experiences on our present relationships. EJ and Tarah's openness and vulnerability create a relatable and inspiring narrative that motivates listeners to embark on their own journey of self-discovery and growth within their relationships. Join them as they share their experiences, challenges, and the valuable lessons they learned along the way, providing a beacon of hope and guidance for all those seeking to cultivate deeper emotional and intimate connections in their relationships.To learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Mar 1, 2024 • 28min
162 - Prioritizing Your Relationship: Practical Tips for Deepening Emotional and Intimate Connections
Why do partners sometimes stop making their relationship a priority?What are the consequences and results of not prioritizing your partner and your relationship?What are some practical ways to reverse the trend of not making your partner a priority and strengthen the relationship?In this episode of Relationship Renovation, EJ and Tarah address the common problem of partners feeling like they are no longer a priority in the relationship. The hosts explore the reasons behind this phenomenon and its potential consequences, providing practical ways for couples to reverse this trend. Listeners will gain insight into how to make their relationship and partner a priority every day, no matter how long they've been together. They will discover tools for fostering emotional and physical intimacy and learn to navigate the process of prioritizing each other. Whether you're looking to strengthen your relationship or navigate a disconnection, this episode offers actionable strategies to rebuild and nourish your bond.To explore further tools and strategies for enhancing your relationship, check out Relationship Renovation at Home, our online program designed to help couples strengthen their connection and navigate through challenges together.Get the free introductory lesson now at Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course to start building a healthier, more fulfilling relationship with your partner.Watch the full episode on Relationship Renovation Youtube Channel and join the Relationship Renovation community for more discussions and insights on creating strong, lasting relationships. Don't forget to like, share, and subscribe for more helpful content.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Feb 23, 2024 • 28min
161 - The Complexities of Love: Overcoming Anxiety, Depression, and Communication Challenges in Relationships
In this episode of the Relationship Renovation podcast, hosts EJ and Tarah respond to a listener's email about anxiety, depression, and struggles in their marriage. They offer insightful perspectives on the challenges of early parenthood, differences in upbringing and love languages, and the impact of individual emotional struggles on the relationship. They emphasize the importance of compassion, communication, and intentional growth as a couple, providing relatable personal experiences and valuable advice.If you've resonated with the topics discussed, consider checking out our Relationship Renovation at Home program. It's designed to help you and your partner navigate challenges and strengthen your bond.et the free introductory lesson now at Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course to start building a healthier, more fulfilling relationship with your partner.Stay tuned for more episodes that will help you better understand and improve your relationship. Don't forget to subscribe, like, and share with anyone who could benefit from these discussions.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Feb 16, 2024 • 22min
160 - Breaking Through Relationship Barriers: How to Empower Change in Your Partner
How can you approach a situation where your partner is unwilling to change in the relationship?What are the potential reasons behind a partner's resistance to change in a relationship?How can you empower yourself when feeling disempowered in a relationship dynamic?In this episode of the Relationship Renovation podcast, EJ and Tarah address a listener's struggle with a partner who refuses to acknowledge their need for change in the relationship. The dynamic of feeling stuck and powerless when met with resistance from a partner can be challenging, but the hosts discuss strategies and insights to help navigate through this difficult situation.If you've ever experienced the frustration of trying to communicate your needs to your partner and feeling unheard, this episode is for you. EJ and Tarah, both licensed therapists and a married couple, share their expertise and personal experiences, providing valuable insight and support for individuals dealing with similar relationship challenges.To explore further tools and strategies for enhancing your relationship, check out Relationship Renovation at Home, our online program designed to help couples strengthen their connection and navigate through challenges together.Get the free introductory lesson now at Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course to start building a healthier, more fulfilling relationship with your partner.Watch the full episode and join the Relationship Renovation community for more discussions and insights on creating strong, lasting relationships. Don't forget to like, share, and subscribe for more helpful content.To learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Feb 9, 2024 • 27min
159 - The Intimacy Dilemma: Bridging the Gap Between Emotional and Physical Connection
What are the challenges couples face in maintaining emotional and physical intimacy over time?How do changes in life circumstances, aging, and hormonal shifts affect a couple's intimate relationship?What impact does trauma, big and small, have on emotional and physical intimacy within a relationship?Show notes:In this episode, hosts EJ and Tarah delve deeply into the intimacy dilemma faced by many couples. They candidly explore the challenges that arise in maintaining emotional and physical intimacy over time, shedding light on how life changes, aging, and hormonal shifts can impact a couple's intimate relationship. Additionally, the episode extensively addresses the impact of trauma, both big and small, on emotional and physical intimacy within a relationship. Listeners are invited to gain valuable insights and learn about the essential skills necessary for nurturing a healthy and enduring intimate connection with their partner.Join EJ and Tarah as they provide valuable psychoeducation and normalize the challenges couples encounter in maintaining an intimate relationship. Through a candid and insightful discussion, they offer essential guidance on building emotional safety, navigating the complexities of emotional and physical intimacy, and understanding the significance of vulnerability in fostering a strong and lasting bond with your partner.To learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Feb 2, 2024 • 22min
158 - Marriage Communication Tool: Six Words Exercise
How can couples use the "Six Words" exercise to define the qualities they want in their relationship?What is the significance of the "Six Words" exercise in the context of improving communication and decision-making for couples?How does the "Six Words" exercise help to promote a positive and intentional approach to nurturing a healthy relationship?In this episode of Relationship Renovation, EJ and Tarah Kerwin delve into the "Six Words" exercise, a powerful tool designed to help couples define and cultivate the qualities they desire in their relationship. Throughout the discussion, they walk listeners through the process of developing their own set of six words, sharing their personal experiences and insights. By exploring the importance of attentiveness, quality time, playfulness, and other key aspects, EJ and Tarah demonstrate how this exercise promotes deeper communication and understanding within a partnership.Discover how the "Six Words" exercise can empower you and your partner to strengthen your connection, make deliberate decisions, and nurture a relationship that aligns with your shared vision and values. Join EJ and Tarah as they provide practical steps for implementing this exercise and creating a visual reminder of these words within your daily lives. Whether you're seeking to reinvigorate your relationship or simply enhance the bond you already share, this episode offers a heartfelt and enlightening guide to building a lasting, fulfilling partnership. Tune in to gain valuable insights and make the "Six Words" exercise your own in order to foster a relationship rooted in trust, intimacy, and mutual growth.To learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Jan 26, 2024 • 30min
157 - Restoring Harmony: Effective Communication Post-Conflict in Relationships
Are you seeking ways to reconnect with your partner after a difficult fight?Do you want to learn the importance of understanding emotional triggers in your relationship?Are you wondering how to turn conflicts into opportunities for personal growth and a deeper connection?In this episode, seasoned therapists and married couple EJ and Tarah delve into the transformative power of conflict in relationships and the art of reconciliation. Through their personal experiences and therapeutic insights, they reveal how understanding the psychology behind upbringings and unconscious triggers can significantly bolster the way couples navigate through tough times. Don't miss their compelling discourse on the myth of perpetual honeymoon phases and the essential work both partners must commit to foster emotional safety and a secure bond.The episode also sheds light on the delicate dynamics of handling PTSD within a relationship, as our hosts address a heartfelt email from a listener seeking guidance. EJ and Tarah's compassionate approach to managing hormonal cycles, emotional reactions, and the concept of the "window of tolerance" makes this episode a beacon for couples striving to establish healthier communication patterns. Tune in to Relationship Renovation for invaluable advice on coming back together after conflicts and turning arguments into stepping stones for lasting intimacy and love. Share this episode with someone who could benefit from our strategies for rebuilding trust and understanding in the aftermath of disagreements.Relationship Renovation DiscordTo learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands