Relationship Renovation: Marriage Advice, Intimacy & Couples Communication

Join Tarah and EJ as they illustrate their journey through a recent conflict, highlighting their newfound skills in healthy resolution. They discuss the challenges of intimacy amid busy lives and the vital role of playful connections. Discover how honest communication fosters growth, especially for couples facing parenting challenges. With personal insights and practical tools, they emphasize the importance of resilient partnerships and daily rituals to strengthen emotional ties.

In this episode, Tarah and EJ share their new online program for couples, Relationship Renovation at Home.Our goal is to create a safe environment where couples explore their feelings and grow together. By establishing clear, honest, and compassionate communication, we help strengthen or rebuild the foundation of your relationship.Relationship Renovation at home is designed for couples facing struggles in their relationship and couples who want to strengthen their relationship. Relationship Renovation at home gives couples the tools to communicate in a healthier way and strengthen their intimate connection.This program focuses on developing a deeper understanding of yourself, your partner and your relationship. And by doing so, you will gain confidence in the resilience of your relationship. Each of the 22 lessons has a video with Tarah and EJ discussing key concepts of relationship wellness that help you understand underlying dynamics and common obstacles that couples face. The videos prepare you and your partner to work through accompanying exercises that stimulate conversation where you build the trust, empathy and understanding needed to achieve your relationship goals.Relationship Renovation at home includes: 22 lessons structured approach to rebuilding your relationship Exploration of underlying dynamics and common obstacles that couples faceSequential exercises focused on deepening emotional and intimate connections Access to a closed Facebook Group with 600+ couples sharing their experiences Get direct access to E.J. and Tara’s Relationship ExpertiseSign Up for Relationship Renovation Center at HomeSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Tarah and EJ interview Jessie Krall, a therapist who specializes in Somatic Experiencing https://traumahealing.org/. Somatic Experiencing focuses on body awareness as a way to connect to emotions. This technique can help couples communicate in a productive way even in challenging moments.This episode explores the importance of making the intentional effort to recognize and take in positive/joyful moments. They discuss negativity bias and how couples easily absorb negative interactions and let affirming and loving times pass by. All of this information is viewed through the lens of how to create the most loving and fulfilling relationship for your partner and you.Check out our 22 lesson program Relationship Renovation at Home A program developed for couples to work on their relationship from the comfort of their home with videos and worksheets guiding couples to a more fulfilling relationship.https://relationshiprenovation.com/online-program/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

In this episode Tarah and EJ interview Matis Miller.Matis Miller, LCSW, is a licensed clinical social worker and certified cognitive and dialectical behavior therapist with more than fifteen years of experience. He is the founder, director, and supervisor of The Center for Cognitive & Behavioral Therapy of New Jersey. His educational and training background includes certification in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) from the Academy of Cognitive Therapy and intensive training at the Beck Institute for Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Miller has also been awarded certification from the DBT-Linehan Board of Certification in dialectical behavior therapy (DBT). He is a seasoned lecturer on CBT- and DBT-related topics—addressing parents, clients, and professionals—and is presently focused primarily on supervision, education, and consultations.In this episode, Tarah, EJ, and Matis discuss Matis’ recently published book, “The Uncontrollable Child.” They speak about strategies parents can use with challenging behaviors and the importance of parents staying connected, consistent, and accepting. They discuss common parenting struggles and offer tools to help any parent feel more confident.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Tarah and EJ interview Robin Memel Fox MA, BC-DMT, LPC, Board-certified Dance/Movement Therapist with over 25 years of experience working in the field of mental health and wellness. Robin has worked with individuals, couples, families and children in both community mental health and treatment centers. She has extensive expertise in trauma, relationships, addiction and couples/family systems.This episode explores trauma and its effects on individuals and couples. They define trauma, explore treatment options and help couples learn how trauma can create challenges in self-regulation and conflict resolution. The concept of Embodied Healing is explored, which can help couples become more in tune with themselves in order to feel more connected with their partner.https://www.bridgestorecovery.com/post-traumatic-stress-disorder/ptsd-and-relationships/https://coloradorecoveryservices.org/the-impact-of-unresolved-trauma-on-relationships/https://drarielleschwartz.com/the-polyvagal-theory-and-healing-complex-ptsd-dr-arielle-schwartz/https://adta.memberclicks.net/what-is-dancemovement-therapyhttps://brickelandassociates.com/trauma-survivor-relationships/Info on Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and Post Childhood Experiences (PCEs)https://developingchild.harvard.edu/resources/aces-and-toxic-stress-frequently-asked-questions/https://lindsaybraman.com/positive-childhood-experiences-aces/ EMDR:https://maibergerinstitute.com/emdr-therapy-tools-resources/https://www.emdria.org/https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/Books on understanding trauma and healing (not exhaustive list):The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma by Peter LevineTransforming the Living Legacy of Trauma: A Workbook for Survivors and Therapists by Janina FisherThe Complex PTSD Workbook by Arielle Schwartz, PhDThe Post-traumatic Growth Workbook by Arielle Schwartz, PhDHealing Developmental Trauma, How early trauma affects self-regulation, self-image, and the capacity for relationship by Laurence Heller, PhD and Aline LaPierre, PsyDAdditional resources: Seek justice for sexual traumaCommunicating with your partner about frustrationsHard times make for stronger bonds and greater happiness Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Open communication is a cornerstone of healthy relationships. Tarah and EJ emphasize the need to address concerns with your partner early to prevent frustrations from escalating. They explore why some couples become conflict-avoidant, highlighting the dangers of unresolved issues. Daily check-ins and gentle communication techniques can foster emotional safety. Sharing feelings can transform conflicts into opportunities for deeper connection, ensuring that couples support each other through challenges.

Tarah and EJ dive into the common phenomenon where couples drift into the realm of being 'roommates.' They reminisce about the thrill of the honeymoon phase and discuss how it often fades, leading to emotional disconnection. The concept of habituation is explored, shedding light on complacency and the need for revitalized intimacy. Open communication is highlighted as key to overcoming loneliness and maintaining attraction. Furthermore, they share practical strategies for couples to reconnect and navigate challenging times together.

Tarah and EJ interview Jessie Krall, a therapist who specializes in Somatic Experiencing https://traumahealing.org/. Somatic Experiencing focuses on body awareness as a way to connect to emotions. This technique can help couples communicate in a productive way even in challenging moments.They discuss the Window of Tolerance and how this concept can support healthy attachment in relationships. This episode will help couples understand dynamics that contribute to destructive communication patterns and offers a variety of tools to communicate in a more mindful and kind way.Progressive Body Scan MeditationSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Discover how commitment in relationships means helping each other grow. The hosts dive into personal development, addressing how past traumas can shape connections. They emphasize supportive feedback over criticism and the power of open communication. Learn strategies to overcome complacency and foster intimacy, ensuring both partners thrive. Recognizing blind spots can lead to deeper understanding, while curiosity strengthens connections. Embrace growth together for a healthier, more fulfilling relationship.

Discover how creating systems in relationships can transform conflict resolution. Learn practical strategies for maintaining emotional connection during stressful times. Explore the power of daily check-ins to deepen intimacy. Uncover the effectiveness of code words for managing arguments and promoting empathy. Gain insights into emotional triage to navigate conflicts with clarity. Embrace personal growth as a key to stronger partnerships, fostering resilience and community in your love life.