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Accountability is choosing to look at your behavior and take responsibility for your actions. Unfortunately, being accountable is not an intuitive step in many relationships. Instead, couples tend to focus on their partner, which pulls couples apart instead of bringing them together. When individuals within a couple take the brave step of looking inward and owning ways they contribute to negative dynamics, it is the path to healthy conflict resolution.Tarah and EJ interview Jessie Krall, relationship specialist, and explore the concept of Fierce Accountability. They explore ways in which accountability can nourish a relationship and the obstacles to taking personal responsibility. This fun yet informative conversation helps couples understand Fierce Accountability's positive impact on a couple's relationship.Episode TranscriptBuild a healthier bond with your partner ---> Relationship Renovation @ HomeSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Forgiveness is the process of letting go of negative thoughts and feelings from a past event or series of events. Throughout the course of a relationship, it is inevitable that individuals within a couple will have moments where they hurt one another. When couples are unable to forgive one another they build a backlog of resentments that create obstacles to feeling deeply connected and loving.In this episode, Tarah and EJ discuss the process of forgiveness. They help their listeners develop insights and feel empowered in learning to forgive one another and create the loving relationship that they crave.Link to episode transcriptsBuild a healthier bond with your partner ---> Relationship Renovation @ HomeSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Movement is our first language and most basic form of communication. It is a metaphor for how we think, feel and relate to the self and others. There are many ways to connect with your partner, but often couples get stuck in communication patterns that pull them apart intimately. Finding creative ways to understand your feelings and using that information to create vulnerable and connecting moments with your partner can create significant shifts in your relationship.In this episode, Tarah and EJ interview Robin Memel Fox, MA, BC-DMT, LPC. They discuss how dance and movement can help individuals access and express themselves more freely. Robin shares her knowledge of Dance Movement Therapy and how it may be helpful to individuals and couples.Transcripts and further show notesSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Couples often come to therapy because they are fed up with patterns of conflict that leave them both frustrated, alone, and hopeless. When couples end up in repetitive arguments, they increasingly lose confidence in their ability to stay connected in a difficult time. They build resentment and eventually become more emotionally and physically distant. When couples learn to listen, become aware, and empathize with their partner's experience, moments of conflict can become learning experiences where they gain confidence in each other.In this episode, Tarah and EJ share a recent argument between them. They use this personal experience to help couples understand why conflict happens in a relationship. They explore the conscious and unconscious choices, which pull them apart or bring them together. They show that by developing self-awareness and making intentional choices, a difficult moment can be an opportunity to learn and grow together.Episode TranscriptBuild a healthier bond with your partner ---> Relationship Renovation @ HomeSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Trauma profoundly impacts an individual’s daily life and causes significant dysregulation in their nervous system, especially in times of distress. 70% of adults in the United States have experienced some form of trauma, which amounts to over 220 million individuals suffering from the effects of a traumatic event. With such a substantial amount of people having suffered from a traumatic event in their life, trauma and its’ effects have a profound impact on couples and families. Because of the complexity of trauma and the multitude of ways it impacts individuals, it often goes untreated, leading to significant disruptions in the lives of the suffering individual and their relationship.In this episode, Tarah and EJ interview Shara LPC, MSC, NCC, EAGALA, Clinical Director of Sabino Recovery. Sabino Recovery is a trauma-focused residential treatment center in Tucson, AZ. The three take a broad look at trauma, how it presents in life, and various treatments. They explore a wide range of treatment modalities that have proven to be effective in treating trauma-related disorders. They also discuss residential treatment and how this level of care can help individuals, couples and families heal from trauma’s profound effects.Episode Transcriptionhttps://www.sabinorecovery.com/https://www.eagala.org/indexhttps://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/Acceptance and Commitment Therapy ArticleSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Throughout an intimate relationship, couples face challenging times. Many of the burdens you face as a couple, result from difficult times, external stress, and how you and your partner cope. Oftentimes, the stress you face is a direct result of your partner's choices and how they succeed and fail to adapt to the ups and downs of life. Resentment is the uncomfortable emotion that individuals in a committed relationship feel when they blame their partner for the emotional discomfort they are feeling. Resentment is a result of pulling apart in challenging moments and beginning to feel alone and unsupported at a time when you would like to feel deeply connected and united in the face of adversity.In this episode, Tarah and EJ discuss how resentment develops within a relationship and what happens when couples struggle to communicate this complicated emotion. They share their experience as therapists and a couple and share their insight into how couples may avoid falling into patterns of frustration and loneliness and instead stay emotionally present and intimately connected during difficult times.Episode TranscriptLearn more about all the ways Tarah and EJ support couples in having the best relationship possible!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Throughout an individual’s life, they have experiences that shape how they see and interact with the world. Our prior experiences create the way we respond consciously and unconsciously in our relationships. When couples come together, they have entirely different ways to adapt to their environment. When you enter into an intimate relationship, you respond to life simultaneously. Unfortunately, you and your partner will inevitably respond in asymmetrical ways that lead to conflict. By understanding each other’s past and becoming more mindful of your responses, you can begin to create new systems that allow you to solve problems and express affection in a mutually satisfying way. In this episode Tarah and EJ interview Gabe Lobato Therapist, business owner, husband, and father. The three discuss how couples often face struggles in their relationship due to their early life experiences. They discuss the insights needed for individuals, families, and couples to understand their struggles and create a pathway to love, connection, and healthy communication. Relationship Renovation at Home22 lessons following a structured approach to rebuilding your relationshipEach lesson provides a video and a take-home worksheet to facilitate an activityEach lesson builds upon the last, creating a clear path of growth and deepening connection with your partnerSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

The beginning of a relationship is often a time of excitement and immense pleasure. You and your partner stay up late talking, kissing, and more! It’s almost like you can’t get enough of them. You can face the next day of work or school with little to no sleep and show up with the high of love exuding out of every pore on your body. This “honeymoon” period of love and attraction can last weeks, months, or even years. But when it ends, there can be a tremendous letdown, and suddenly the love of your life becomes human with all of their flaws and shortcomings. For some couples, the initial thrill of falling in love can be washed away by real-life stressors. Sometimes…It Gets Real Quick!In this episode, Tarah and EJ discuss the impact of complexity entering a relationship early on. They explore why relationships can become complex and help couples understand that this does not always mean that their relationship is flawed. They discuss the myriad of reasons the golden period of a relationship ends and focus on how facing challenges can help couples forge a deep bond of love and appreciation. They help listeners build the insights needed to better understand themselves and each other. They share stories from their relationship and wisdom gained from their decades of counseling experience.Learn more about all the ways Tarah and EJ support couples in having the best relationship possible!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Relationships face their most significant struggles in times of transition. Childbirth and having a baby is one of the most significant life changes that individuals and couples face during their lifecycle. Becoming parents creates a significant shift in the identity of an individual which can pull a couple apart in a time when they want to feel the most connected. Couples are often unprepared for the marital/relationship challenges that they face when they become parents.In this episode Tarah and EJ interview Catherine O'Brien author of Happy With Baby: Essential Relationship Advice When Partners Become Parents . Catherine is a family therapist, speaker and educator. After giving birth to her first child, Catherine realized that adding a baby into a relationship dynamic changes everything. She discovered her passion for helping new parents to communicate and thrive through this transition. They discuss common struggles and strategies that preparing and new parents can use as they prepare for and live through an addition to their family.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Individuals have countless options to help them find another person (Tinder, Hinge, Bumble, HER, etc.). But, once you have found someone you want to be with, technological resources dry up, and you are left on your own. The process of building a healthy relationship is almost entirely unsupported in the digital world. The proliferation of dating apps can keep individuals in a constant state of seeking the “next best thing” instead of appreciating and cultivating their current relationship.In this episode, Tarah and EJ interview Zac Stern, creator of Official, an app designed to help couples build healthy relationships. They discuss the challenges of dating in the digital age and the obstacles couples face in working together to strengthen their commitment. In creating Official, Zac had a team researching what helps couples build a bond early in their relationship. During this interview, he shares how his app can help couples get the most out of the early moments of their relationship.getofficial.cohttps://www.tiktok.com/@getofficialappSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands