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When couples first come together, the thrill of meeting someone new combined with attraction creates a honeymoon period. By the time they exit the initial charge of getting together, they have often made unconscious systems of conflict resolution that are not sustainable in the long term. Individuals within the couple come in with separate and often divergent coping mechanisms that create obstacles to secure and loving connections.In this episode, Tarah and EJ normalize the struggles couples inevitably face in a relationship and help listeners understand how couples blend. They share how childhood and early adulthood experiences unconsciously pull couples apart.Full Episode TranscriptRelationship Renovation Online CourseSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Couples fall into repetitive emotional reactivity and communication patterns that leave them feeling lonely, isolated, and frustrated. But frequently, insights and practical coaching can create a significant shift in their relationship, especially if both couple members decide to act with more intentionality.In this episode Tarah and EJ interview Relationship Coach Lisa McFarland. Lisa's journey to coaching began when she and her husband took the step to receive support from a professional, and it had a significant positive effect on their relationship. From this point, Lisa became fascinated with relationship wellness and passionate about helping couples have happier and healthier relationships.Lisa McFarlandRelationship Renovation at Home Online CourseSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Maintaining a satisfying sexual connection throughout a long-term relationship takes intentionality and empathy. There will inevitably be times when you and your partner have discrepancies in your sex drive. But unfortunately, couples are unprepared, and a naturally occurring dynamic can metastasize and pull them apart in all aspects of their relationship.In the second of a two-part series, "Low Frisky" and "High Frisky," Tarah and EJ share their own experiences of maintaining a loving relationship while navigating a difference in sex drive. They share their struggles to be empathetic and understanding and offer insight into a universal struggle in long-term relationships. In this episode the focus is on being the "High Frisky" partner.Relationship Renovation at Home Online CourseSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Maintaining a satisfying sexual connection throughout a long-term relationship takes intentionality and empathy. There will inevitably be times when you and your partner have discrepancies in your sex drive. But unfortunately, couples are unprepared, and a naturally occurring dynamic can metastasize and pull them apart in all aspects of their relationship.In the first of a two-part series, "Low Frisky" and "High Frisky," Tarah and EJ share their own experiences of maintaining a loving relationship while navigating a difference in sex drive. They share their struggles to be empathetic and understanding and offer insight into a universal struggle in long-term relationships.Full Transcript of EpisodeRelationship Renovation at Home Online CourseSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT). He is the author and co-author of numerous best-selling books exploring individual and relationship wellness. Tatkin’s work, based on a social-emotional capacity model, focuses on what partners can and cannot do to mitigate threat reactions during stressful interactive sequences. Tatkin is known for integrating various theories and models to form the foundation of the comprehensive principles and methodologies he teaches. As a result, the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, California, honored Tatkin with the Educator of the Year award in 2014.Tarah and E.J. interview Dr. Stan Tatkin and explore his vast knowledge of the obstacles and pathways to a happy and healthy relationship. Dr. Tatkin shares insights and tools which help couples understand their struggles and create strategies to foster deep, loving and intimate connections. Full Episode TranscriptThe PACT InstituteRelationship Renovation at Home Online CourseSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

When couples are stuck in patterns of conflict and hostile interactions, they begin to feel hopeless. They become emotionally guarded, and their intimacy dwindles. They find themselves feeling lonely, desperate, and frustrated. But, magical things happen when couples take the brave and vulnerable step of looking inward and committing to personal growth together.Tarah and EJ discuss their experience of guiding hundreds of couples through their Relationship Renovation program. They discuss the healing process in a relationship and how often couples find redemption only when faced with their darkest times.Full Transcripts of EpisodeRelationship Renovation at Home Online CourseSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Couples struggle with communication and the ability to resolve conflict. They find themselves in repetitive patterns where they lose confidence in their ability to stay connected and solve problems in challenging moments. They find themselves feeling frustrated when it comes to expressions of intimacy. When these patterns repeat, they often conclude that they are “just a bad fit.” Or that one or the other person is “unwilling to change.” They fail to realize that many of the negative dynamics are a result of their programming from their earlier years. When couples gain a deeper understanding of how their pasts affect their current relationship, they become empowered, increase empathy and become more skillful in loving one another.In this episode Tarah and EJ interview Jessie Krall, MA/LPC. They discuss Attachment Theory and how childhood development affects the adult relationship. They delve into various attachment styles to help couples understand how to build a healthy and secure attachment. They all share their insights and offer information and practical tips to help couples “love one another better.”Relationship Renovation at Home Online CourseSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Therapy can be an intimidating process to begin. Some individuals believe that it means that there is something wrong with them and that the stigma of going to counsel will negatively impact how others perceive them. For some, it is a scary thought to address issues from their past that they have purposely avoided addressing. Couples' therapy often ends up being the last resort, and by the time they arrive, they feel as if it is their last hope.In this episode, Tarah and EJ discuss the process of therapy. They share why individuals and couples seek help and what they can expect from the experience. They share their insight into the mindset that creates the greatest opportunity for success. They share the significant benefits individuals and couples receive when they make the bold step of seeking help and how going to counseling is a brave and bold move with many rewards.Episodes Full TranscriptsBuild a healthier bond with your partner ---> Relationship Renovation @ HomeSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Pets play a central role in our lives. They are members of our family that enrich our lives, provide joy and break our hearts when they pass away.In this episode Tarah and EJ interview Cristina Piastrini, anthropologist and therapist. The three discuss pets' significant impact on individuals, couples, and families. The episode is informative, exploring the biological, cultural, and evolutionary history of pets in human society and a free-flowing open-hearted, and fun delve into how pets can influence and shed light on the dynamics of intimate relationships.Full Transcripts of ShowBuild a healthier bond with your partner ---> Relationship Renovation @ HomeSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Couples struggle with work/life balance. They often comment that their relationship doesn't feel like a priority, pulling them apart and leaving them feeling like roommates or even co-workers. They manage their lives day-to-day and forget how important it is to cultivate a loving and tender connection. When this happens, intimacy dwindles, and frustration rises. This, coupled with poor communication, can lead couples to a crisis. Nowhere is this dynamic as prevalent as couples who work together.In this episode, Tarah and EJ share what they learned about sustaining a healthy relationship while running a business together. They discuss the importance of healthy time boundaries and how this creates space for couples to be loving partners. They also explore how individuals' roles within the workplace may start problems for them when they use the same persona in their relationship. This is a must-listen-to episode for any couple who recognizes that one or both partners' professional life is creating problems in their relationship.Full Episode TranscriptBuild a healthier bond with your partner ---> Relationship Renovation @ HomeSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands