

Relationship Renovation: Marriage Advice, Intimacy & Couples Communication
EJ and Tarah Kerwin
Stronger relationships start here. The Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosted by licensed therapists and partners Tarah & E.J. Kerwin, gives couples the tools to improve communication, rebuild trust, and create lasting intimacy.Tarah and EJ share practical strategies, real-life stories, and therapist-guided insights to help you break negative cycles and deepen your connection.Each week you’ll learn how to:Practice couples therapy skills at homeStop fighting and start communicatingRebuild trust after conflict or distanceStrengthen both emotional and physical intimacyHear real couples share struggles and breakthroughsWith over 20,000 monthly downloads, Relationship Renovation is trusted worldwide by couples who want advice that is expert, relatable, and actionable.Whether you’re dating, married, or somewhere in between, this podcast is your roadmap to transform conflict into connection.Subscribe today—and start building the relationship you’ve been hoping for.
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Dec 22, 2023 • 30min
152 - Nurturing Intimacy: The Role of Active Listening in Deepening Emotional Connections
How can active listening change your relationship, and how does this foster a more profound sense of intimacy?How can active listening skills be utilized to navigate challenges while maintaining intimacy?How does active listening contribute to creating a safe and supportive space for emotional expression and vulnerability, thus strengthening the intimacy between partners?Hosts EJ and Tarah address the obstacles that hinder active listening in relationships, exploring how distractions and internal dialogue can affect communication during stressful times. Through candid conversations and interactive exercises, the hosts offer valuable guidance in creating an environment where both partners feel heard, understood, and emotionally supported. This insightful episode equips listeners with practical strategies to foster a more connected and intimate relationship.Tune in to Relationship Renovation as the hosts explore the challenges surrounding active listening and provide essential insights and strategies to enhance communication and emotional support during challenging times. This episode offers valuable advice and engaging discussions that can help transform your relationship into a more fulfilling and connected partnership, even amidst challenging circumstances.Learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Dec 15, 2023 • 32min
151 - Holiday Edition: Connecting Deeply Despite Seasonal Stress (Family and Money)
Are you struggling with setting healthy boundaries during holiday family gatherings?Do financial pressures and gift-giving expectations during the holidays cause tension in your relationship?How can you stay connected and supportive of your partner amidst the hustle and bustle of the holiday season?In this episode of Relationship Renovation, hosts EJ and Tarah delve into the complexities of managing couple dynamics during the festive period. This episode deals with relatable situations and offers practical advice on navigating the gift-giving imbalance and achieving inclusivity among both families. With the mission to nurture healthier relationships during a chaotic time, EJ and Tarah provide insight into effectively communicating expectations and differences, particularly around delicate issues like holiday spending.Learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Dec 8, 2023 • 25min
150 - Navigating Stress and Emotions Together: Relationship Renovation - Holiday Season Edition
How can couples manage the distribution of labor and balance self-care during the holiday season?What are the common stressors and dynamics couples face during the holidays, and how can they navigate and support each other through these challenges?What strategies and techniques can couples use to stay connected and mindful during the festive season while maintaining wellness and intimacy?In this episode of Relationship Renovation, EJ and Tarah dive deep into the unique challenges couples face during the holiday season and provide expert guidance on staying connected and emotionally attuned to each other. They tackle essential questions, such as how to manage the distribution of labor and foster self-care while navigating the festivities. Tune in to uncover practical strategies for balancing responsibilities, setting intentions, and taking actionable steps to alleviate stress and ensure a fulfilling holiday season for both partners.With a focus on understanding the amplified dynamics and stressors that can impact relationships during the holidays, EJ and Tarah explore ways to maintain connection and support each other and address areas of potential tension. By sharing their experiences and insights, they offer valuable advice on restructuring patterns, fostering open communication, and creating a shared vision for a connected and fulfilling holiday season. Listen to this episode to gain valuable tips for intentionally navigating the festive season and building a stronger, more connected partnership during this potentially stressful time.Learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Dec 1, 2023 • 32min
149 - The Silent Partner: Encouraging Expression in Love
How can couples improve emotional intimacy when one partner is less expressive?What are effective communication strategies for less expressive individuals in relationships?Why is emotional safety crucial for maintaining a strong connection in a marriage?In this episode, EJ and Tarah delve into the intricacies of emotional safety and expression within intimate relationships. Through a heartwarming excerpt from a couple's therapy session, they explore the journey of a less emotionally expressive male partner who steps into vulnerability and the positive ripple effect it creates in his relationship. Our hosts unpack trust and communication's crucial role in fostering secure attachments and the common pitfall of misinterpreted needs that often steer couples toward separation. With a focus on creating an inclusive space for both partners to be heard and understood, EJ and Tarah offer practical advice and effective communication strategies, including using "I statements" to invite connection rather than provoke defensiveness. This episode is a must-listen for anyone yearning to deepen their relational bond and transform their partnership through emotional attunement.Learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Nov 24, 2023 • 27min
148 - Repetitive Arguments: Unveiling Emotional Triggers and Personal Growth Opportunities
How can repetitive arguments with my partner be transformed into opportunities for growth in our relationship?What are some practical tools and strategies for de-escalating and resolving conflicts in a relationship?How can establishing and respecting boundaries help improve communication and trust in a relationship?How can understanding and addressing attachment styles (e.g., anxious and avoidant) contribute to a more secure and satisfying relationship?In this episode of the Relationship Renovation podcast, hosts EJ and Tarah address the common challenge of repetitive arguments that escalate between partners. They offer practical tools to navigate these difficult moments and emphasize the opportunity for personal growth within the relationship. Listeners will gain insights into setting and respecting boundaries, using a code word to address emotions, and understanding the dynamics of different attachment styles. Whether you're seeking advice on reconnecting after a breakup or seeking ways to strengthen your relationship, this episode provides valuable guidance for couples and individuals alike. Tune in to better understand yourself and your partner, and learn how to build a secure and loving connection. To learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Nov 17, 2023 • 29min
147 - Curiosity vs Reactivity: How to Foster Emotional Safety and Strengthen Your Relationship
1. How can curiosity instead of reactivity improve my relationship?2. What are effective ways to handle difficult moments with my partner?3. How can I create emotional safety and attachment with my partner?4. What are some practical strategies for building a stronger and more loving relationship?In this episode of Relationship Renovation, hosts EJ and Tarah delve into the topic of curiosity versus reactivity in relationships. They explore how difficult moments can often lead to more conflict and how approaching those moments with curiosity instead of reactivity can strengthen the emotional bond between partners. They share personal anecdotes and practical tips for embracing curiosity, understanding each other's instinctive responses, and finding ways to support and regulate each other's emotions. Listeners will learn how to navigate complex emotional situations, foster emotional safety, and create long-lasting, fulfilling relationships.To learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Nov 10, 2023 • 23min
146 - Transforming Thought Patterns: Fostering Deeper Connection with Your Partner
What is internal dialogue, and how does it impact our relationships?How does negative internal dialogue affect emotional safety and connection with our partner?How can we become aware of and address negative self-launching thoughts to improve our relationship?In this compelling episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, E.J. and Tarah Kerwin delve into the fascinating topic of internal dialogue and its profound impact on our relationships. They explore how our self-launching thoughts often pull us away from our partners, leading to feelings of disconnection, confusion, and perceived threats. By sharing personal experiences and insights, E.J. and Tara reveal how negative internal dialogue can erode emotional safety and hinder intimacy in a relationship, offering valuable guidance on identifying and addressing these destructive thought patterns. Tune in to discover how our automatic thoughts and narratives influence our interactions with partners and learn practical steps to become more aware of our internal dialogue. E.J. and Tarah's candid discussion highlights the power of communication and self-reflection in navigating challenging moments with our partners, ultimately fostering growth, understanding, and deeper emotional connections. Don't miss this episode as it offers invaluable insights and tools to help you transform your relationship and cultivate a stronger, more fulfilling partnership.To learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Nov 3, 2023 • 33min
145 - The Path to Emotional Safety: Building Trust and Connection in Your Relationship
Are you wondering how to create emotional safety within your relationship? Are you looking for strategies to cultivate a sense of security and acceptance with your partner? Do you want to understand why emotional safety is vital for a healthy and thriving relationship? In this episode of "Relationship Renovation," hosts EJ and Tarah dive deep into the crucial topic of emotional safety in relationships. They explore its definition, the impact of its absence, and the path to building trust and connection. Tune in to this insightful episode where EJ and Tarah provide expert advice, practical tips, and thought-provoking discussions to help couples enhance their emotional safety and strengthen their bond.To learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Oct 27, 2023 • 29min
144 - Kidsplosion: How Having Children Can Impact Your Relationship in Unexpected Ways
In this episode, EJ and Tarah answer three key questions about the impact of having children on a relationship:1. How does becoming parents affect the dynamics of a relationship?2. What are some common challenges couples face when they have children?3. How can couples stay connected and prioritize their relationship while raising a family?In this episode of Relationship Renovation, hosts EJ and Tarah delve into the topic of how having children can impact your relationship. They discuss the common challenges that arise when couples become parents and share their own experiences as a blended family with four children, including twins. Through their unique perspective as relationship experts, they provide valuable insights and strategies for staying connected, maintaining intimacy, and making your relationship a priority, even amidst the chaos of parenting. If you’re a couple navigating the ups and downs of parenthood, this episode is a must-listen.Tune in to gain expert advice and practical tips on navigating the transformative journey of parenthood while keeping your relationship strong and thriving. Don't miss out on the valuable insights that will help you and your partner stay connected, loving, and intimate with one another.To learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Oct 20, 2023 • 30min
143 - Hormones and Love: Exploring the Impact of Hormonal Fluctuations on Relationships
Have you or someone you know experienced hormone fluctuations that affected their relationships? How did you navigate through that time?How can partners stay connected and support each other during periods of emotional upheaval caused by hormonal changes?In this thought-provoking episode of Relationship Renovation, hosts EJ and Tarah delve into the challenging topic of hormones and a woman's menstrual cycle and its impact on relationships. Join them as they share personal experiences, offer psychoeducation, and provide valuable tools for couples to navigate hormonal changes. From fertility treatments to perimenopause and menstrual cycles, they explore the emotional toll hormone fluctuations can take, and how it can disrupt even the strongest of relationships. Discover how to maintain emotional safety, improve communication, and reduce reactivity during these tumultuous times. Don't miss this insightful episode that will not only help you understand the dynamics of suffering in relationships but also provide practical guidance for maintaining a strong, loving connection.To learn more about our online program that helps couples improve their relationship and embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy building, click this link ------------> Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands


