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"I am tired of tolerating ......""I am tired of accepting ...... in my relationship.""I am tired of speaking to myself poorly.""I am tired of these behaviours I keep playing out ......""I am tired of the way I show up at work events and around colleagues."Once you have your answers, the next question is ...What am I willing to do about this? What is my next best step?Self enquiry leads to greater knowing of who you are behind the you you think you have to be. It's worth asking the question.Join The ZEROFKS Program - Enrolments open June 1st!Work with me privately - Book a 20-minute call now!Do my meds - Meditation membership! Support the show

If I waited until I wasn't afraid to go after the things that mattered to my heart and my life, I'd be waiting a long (long) time. A part of me was afraid to leave nursing, make my own money and create my own life.A part of me was afraid to start my business, speak on stage, create programs, run events, write a book and put myself out there. A part of me  was afraid to fall in love, commit and get married. Because what if I failed? What if I got hurt? What if I looked like an idiot? What if I fell flat on my face and somewhere, someone would say, 'told ya so!' The truth is, a part of us is going to be afraid when we do, say or go for something that is beyond what we're used to doing. Let the fear be there instead of fight it or will it out of your existence before you go for that something. Join The ZEROFKS Program - Enrolments open June 1st!Work with me privately - Book a 20-minute call now!Support the show

You know those uplevels where it’s happening from the inside out? A grumble, a pulse, a rise of ‘something’ that is so darn powerful that you know it’s going to rearrange the way you see yourself, others and life?It’s that space between letting go of the self that got you here and welcoming in the self you’ve been rooting for. There’s excitement, fear, unsureness (is that even a word?), curiosity, grief, gratitude, silence, noise, questioning, faith all at once.If you find yourself here, may you save your fucks for giving thanks to the self that carried you to this very place and set your own practice of acknowledgement until it feels right in you. May you welcome in the self that seeks to be embodied with an ease, grace and warmth.Join The ZEROFKS Program - Enrolments re-open April 1st!Work with me privately - Book a 20-minute call now!Support the show

Steve and I are being tested at the moment. We're in sleep debt. We're sleeping in separate beds. Why? Lately, Steve's snoring has reached new heights and we've gotten into an anxious sleep cycle where Steve is worried he'll snore, so isn't getting deep sleep. I'm worried I'll hear him snore so I'm stressing about getting to sleep first. This resulted in poor deep sleep and waking up feeling less than fresh. So, we're sleeping separate whilst Steve looks into his snoring and whilst we're catching up on sleep and beginning to be in sleep credit, the closeness of us is strained. Yes we cuddle when I come downstairs but it's different than falling asleep together and waking up snuggling. And so, this is our reality and we're navigating with as much awareness as we can whilst being slightly off with one another. Not enough to be dire, but enough to feel it. Today's episode is us sharing this in more depth and what we do when we're tested. Join The ZEROFKS Program - Enrolments re-open April 1st!Work with me privately - Book a 20-minute call now!Previous episodes:Relationships & Seven Game Changing Words Relationships & Setting Agreed IntentionsSupport the show

Animals have my heart. Period. When their true nature and innocence are taken advantage of, disregarded and used for pleasure, entertainment, food convenience and money, my soul breaks. Something breaks inside me.A pig at MIDLAND BACON PIGGERY in Victoria Australia has been sexually assaulted by a male, the farm owners son in fact. @dominionmovement are doing their best to free Olivia the pig, @changedotorg have a petition to sign to apply pressure to surrender her so she can be taken into the hands of kindness and care.Factory farmed animals have little regard in the legal system and therefore protection because they are seen as food and money makers. I get that farmers hands are often tied by the bigger corporations but to have farmers (humans) use their power against an innocent and confined animal quite literally fucks with my face.We as consumers actually have the power to question where what we eat comes from and the lives those animals have lived. And we should, because green washing is peaking off its head. At the end of our forks are lives that have been lived, or, have been abused.As you ponder this, and I really urge you to, please sign the petition in my stories or in my linktree to save Olivia and email rickoreilly@bigpond.com.au, the owner of MIDLAND BACON PIGGERY to surrender Olivia.She, Olivia the pig, like all of us, has a right to know what kindness, freedom and living looks and feels like.Sign this petition to apply pressure to release Olivia. Sign this petition to demand stricter laws against beastiality in Victoria. Join The ZEROFKS Program - Enrolments re-open April 1st!Work with my privately - Book a 20-minute call now!Support the show

Previously I always looked for the metaphorical invisible door for me to escape. Where’s the exit when it gets tough, hard, too much, too close, too vulnerable? That door was something I kept very close to me.But in the lead up to our wedding, writing vows to Steve and the girls, that door was disappearing. And on the day, our magnificent wedding day, it went. I was in. All the way in.I know that I can leave at anytime, but I don’t want to. Before, it was a fantasy I played into a lot. Now, it’s not even an option unless it really needs to be an option.That’s what has changed. All of me is in. This is a big deal due to my past and always needing “aloneness” to be safe. Aloneness is one of my coping strategies that is laying to rest. Now, my fks can be saved for loving with all of me, not just some of me.Join The ZEROFKS Program - Enrolments re-open April 1st!Work with my privately - Book a 20-minute call now!Support the show

There’s cleaning and then there’s CLEANING!Everyone knows that I love a clean, tidy, aesthetically pleasing home. And the ones closest to me know when I’m cleaning because the house needs it, or when I clean because I need it.Cleaning for me became a coping strategy when I was younger. There was a hidden memory jammed up inside me that was causing disturbance. I didn’t have conscious access yet to the memory but my body did. Waves of emotion would surge and the only way I knew to get rid of it in order to cope was to clean.I rearranged my room, wardrobe, books, underwear, strip my sheets and all the rest to bring some kind of order back into the world. “Ahhhhh, now it’s right”, was the thought and feeling. But of course, it didn’t last long.Now knowing this locked up memory, I used cleaning and still do at times to this day, as a way to gain control of reality. To make it right in my mind because my insides are having some sort of conniption. I try not to judge myself or tell myself I’m a failure at not fully healing this coping mechanism. The way I approach it now is by asking myself, “am I cleaning the house because the now needs to be cleaned, or am I cleaning the house because something in me feels out of control?”This means I’m aware of what I’m doing, why I’m doing it and whilst I clean to gain control, I enquire, get curious and talk to the part of me inside that needs acknowledgement, love, care.Always, a work in progress.Join The ZEROFKS Program - Enrolments re-open April 1st!Work with my privately - Book a 20-minute call now!Support the show

I have to give thanks to Brene Brown for giving me the terminology for FFTs - first fucking time. Those experiences or situations you're in where it's new territory, new landscape and you're in pits of "what the fuck do I do here?"It could be your FFT on a date after getting divorced, starting a podcast, having sex with a woman after being in a heterosexual relationship, writing a book, becoming a parent - basically anything for the first-fucking-time. The stories in your head are loud. Your body isn't at ease or familiar with what is going on. There is no muscle memory of how to do this because, you've never done it before. And so, the limiting beliefs come up. The annoyances, frustrations, irritability and TO HELL WITH THIS rises. Well, if you're there, then listen here, for how to manage yourself in an FFT.Join The ZEROFKS Program - Enrolments re-open April 15th!Work with my privately - Book a 20-minute call now!Support the show

When I was at my lowest, even doing something for three minutes felt almost impossible. Almost. But even at my worst, I could do something good for three minutes. Three minutes of anything that could get me out of my most negative thoughts, that could break my stuckness. To this day, whenever I’m feeling out of sorts and disconnected with my true self, I take a moment. I consciously redirect my attention to doing something that I know can help me regroup. All it takes is three good minutes.Three good minutes of standing with your feet on the grass, eyes closed, hands on your heart.Three good minutes of listening to a song that takes you straight ‘home’, standing, swaying, feeling. Three good minutes of sitting on a park bench, watching the world go by, listening to the birds, the trees, life. Three good minutes of finding the suns light in your home, standing in it and letting it drench your face. Three good minutes of your feet in a body of water – the ocean, a creek, a puddle. Not every one of these needs to be done everyday, it’s more a matter of choosing three good minutes in your day to do something that brings you home. That gives you that feeling of, Ahh, there I am. Three good minutes where you find yourself, say hi to yourself and feel good that you’re still there. Because three good minutes a day is better than no minutes a day. It’s better than nothing, isn’t it? It may seem small and insignificant, but in practice, it’s the small and insignificant done consistently that makes the big, significant shifts.Join The ZEROFKS Program - Enrolments re-open April 15th!Work with my privately - Book a 20-minute call now!Support the show

Our wedding was 100% us. There was nothing about it that catered to who we thought we had to be, what vows we thought we had to write, who we thought we had to invite, what food and drinks we thought we should get, what we thought we had to wear, what photos we thought we should get and all the rest. Everything about it was us, which is why it was so damn magical. The brief was - we want this to be an extension of us. Fun, casual, relaxed and epic vibes. And the day delivered it in spades. The amount of times we heard, "this wedding is so you guys", "your wedding is so real and authentic from the ceremony, vows, speeches, the lot", "this day is how all weddings ought to be", was endless. And we felt it too. Today we share about our day, our highlights, why it was a blessing to wait to get married now instead of 2020 and how important it is to stay true to your real and genuine self when it comes to big days like these. Join The ZEROFKS Program! Enrolments are open now!Support the show