Non-Monogamy Help
Lola Phoenix
Non-Monogamy Help is a relationship advice podcast for people in non-monogamous or polyamorous relationships. With the help of a therapist with over a decade of experience, your host Lola Phoenix, answers the questions your questions about rules, hierarchies, unicorns and more.
Episodes
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Jan 1, 2022 • 20min
Episode 73 - Caveat Emptor
It’s easy to think you might be interest in non-monogamy, but what if you have some conflicting feelings when theory becomes practice?
Dec 17, 2021 • 22min
Episode 72 - Problematic Pedestal
When you put one partner on a pedestal, it can cause a lot of constant anxiety. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help.
Dec 3, 2021 • 20min
Episode 71 - Feelings and Friends
We create rules sometimes about what our partners can do because we’re afraid of losing them, but sometimes the rules we make don’t actually change anything.
Nov 12, 2021 • 20min
Episode 70 - Half Ghosting
What happens when your mutual partner ghosts you, but not your partner? Rejection sucks, but this feels a bit different. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What happens when your partner and your best friend don’t get along?
Oct 29, 2021 • 26min
Episode 69 - Self-Sacrificing Too Much
If you’ve given a partner 10 years in monogamy, but they expect you to be happy and feel compersion after deciding to be polyamorous, you might be self-sacrificing a little too much. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What’s one major way your values have changed in the last 10 years?
Oct 15, 2021 • 22min
Episode 68 - Mismatched Ideals
If your partner is polyamorous but you are non-monogamous is your relationship doomed? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What is your ideal polyamory or non-monogamy set-up?
Oct 1, 2021 • 34min
Episode 67 - Temporary Monogamy
Can an aversion to non-monogamy come from relationship anxiety and trauma? Discussion Topic - What have you changed your mind about in terms of how you want to live your life?
Sep 17, 2021 • 15min
Episode 66 - Hidden Metamour
Even if you have confusing boundaries and you’re not “official”, lying by omission can still feel like cheating. Discussion Topic - What is a non-monogamous setup that wouldn’t work for you?
Sep 3, 2021 • 21min
Episode 65 - No Longer Primary
How do you force yourself out of apathy if you feel the partner you want to settle down with is slipping away? Discussion Topic - How has your ideal lifestyle changed over time?
Aug 20, 2021 • 18min
Episode 64 - What Rules to Have
Will the rules you want to put in place prevent what you think they will prevent? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
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