

Non-Monogamy Help
Lola Phoenix
Non-Monogamy Help is a relationship advice podcast for people in non-monogamous or polyamorous relationships. With the help of a therapist with over a decade of experience, your host Lola Phoenix, answers the questions your questions about rules, hierarchies, unicorns and more.
Episodes
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Oct 1, 2021 • 34min
Episode 67 - Temporary Monogamy
Can an aversion to non-monogamy come from relationship anxiety and trauma? Discussion Topic - What have you changed your mind about in terms of how you want to live your life?

Sep 17, 2021 • 15min
Episode 66 - Hidden Metamour
Even if you have confusing boundaries and you’re not “official”, lying by omission can still feel like cheating. Discussion Topic - What is a non-monogamous setup that wouldn’t work for you?

Sep 3, 2021 • 21min
Episode 65 - No Longer Primary
How do you force yourself out of apathy if you feel the partner you want to settle down with is slipping away? Discussion Topic - How has your ideal lifestyle changed over time?

Aug 20, 2021 • 18min
Episode 64 - What Rules to Have
Will the rules you want to put in place prevent what you think they will prevent? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.

Aug 6, 2021 • 22min
Episode 63 - Visualising Your Partner
What if you can’t see your partner with someone else in your head without feeling terrible? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.

Jul 23, 2021 • 19min
Episode 62 - More Metamour Toxicity
Your partner’s partner’s partner doesn’t seem like they’re good for your metamour, but what can you actually do? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.

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Jul 9, 2021 • 28min
Episode 61 - PTSD and Polyamory
Struggling with past trauma can complicate new polyamorous relationships. Insights on overcoming fears linked to previous abuse are shared, highlighting the importance of open communication. Emotional challenges like anxiety and trust issues are discussed, with practical strategies for healing and support. Listeners are encouraged to practice self-compassion and leverage collective support from partners and friends on their journey to emotional well-being.

Jun 18, 2021 • 22min
Episode 60 - Temporarily Open
Can opening your relationship temporarily work to address an incompatibility? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.

Jun 4, 2021 • 18min
Episode 59 - Feeling Disconnected
If COVID caught a relationship when it was just forming, is it worth picking back up again if you’re feeling disconnected? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.

May 21, 2021 • 26min
Episode 58 - Sexual Incompatibility
After more than a decade, your partner wants to open up because he’s not happy, but you think things are going too fast. What do you do? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.