

Non-Monogamy Help
Lola Phoenix
Non-Monogamy Help is a relationship advice podcast for people in non-monogamous or polyamorous relationships. With the help of a therapist with over a decade of experience, your host Lola Phoenix, answers the questions your questions about rules, hierarchies, unicorns and more.
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Dec 16, 2022 • 20min
Episode 97 - When to Say When
Non-monogamy is *not* about building a series of unfulfilling relationships until you reach a permissible stasis. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.

Dec 2, 2022 • 25min
Episode 96 - Needing Distance After Dates
Your partner comes home from a date and needs reassurance, but you can’t give it in that moment. Is this something to overcome?
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.

Nov 18, 2022 • 17min
Episode 95 - Secretly Non-Monogamous
If you’re not sure if you’re really non-monogamous or not, how do you label yourself on dating sites to make sure you’re not doing something wrong?
Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.

Nov 4, 2022 • 45min
Episode 94 - Clashing Triggers
It triggers you to open the relationship but it triggers your partner to close it. Is there any way to solve it? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help.
Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.

Oct 21, 2022 • 20min
Episode 93 - Meeting Metamours
A metamour not wanting to meet you is not always a sign of insecurity or jealousy but demanding to meet and be friends with a metamour might actually be about insecurity. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help.
Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.

Oct 7, 2022 • 29min
Episode 92 - Unclear Boundaries
Sometimes people are jerks and sometimes experiences help us learn when we can also step away. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help.
Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.

Sep 23, 2022 • 33min
Episode 91 - Hierarchies and Ethics
Some people think having a “primary” partner is always an unethical decision but isn’t prioritising a long term marriage logical? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help.
Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.

Sep 2, 2022 • 18min
Episode 90 - Breakup News
Mentioning that you’re going through a breakup is not an expectation of emotional support to new partners, friends or anyone else. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help.
Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.

Aug 19, 2022 • 30min
Episode 89 - Mismatched Drives
Will opening a relationship help if one partner expects spontaneous sex but the other is dealing with a stressful job and anxiety medication? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help.
Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.

Aug 5, 2022 • 21min
Episode 88 - One Rule to Rule Them All
Sometimes making a rule causes the exact problem that the rule is designed to prevent. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help.
Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.