

Non-Monogamy Help
Lola Phoenix
Non-Monogamy Help is a relationship advice podcast for people in non-monogamous or polyamorous relationships. With the help of a therapist with over a decade of experience, your host Lola Phoenix, answers the questions your questions about rules, hierarchies, unicorns and more.
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Mar 1, 2024 • 14min
Episode 127 - Polyamory for Straight Dudes
Giving my best recap of what straight men might face when it comes to the lifestyle of polyamory.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Feb 16, 2024 • 20min
Episode 126 - Living With Partners
Living with people is already hard but living with a new partner and a metamour you don’t have a connection with can add to the challenge.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Feb 2, 2024 • 24min
Episode 125 - De-escalating from Polyamory
Is there a way to do polyamory without doing polyamory or de-escalate when you figure out that polyamory is not for you?
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Jan 21, 2024 • 24min
Episode 124 - Reasonable Boundaries
Knowing what boundaries are “reasonable” and which aren’t can be complicated in polyamory, especially when difficult feelings are involved.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Jan 13, 2024 • 19min
Episode 123 - Keeping Things Equal
This podcast explores how to keep things equal between partners, particularly when introducing them to family members. It also discusses finding polyamory-friendly therapists, navigating disclosure in dating, and balancing time in polyamorous relationships.

Dec 22, 2023 • 17min
Episode 122 - Jealousy vs. Envy
Sometimes long distance is difficult and the emotions it makes you feel aren’t always jealousy.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Dec 8, 2023 • 31min
Episode 121 - Q&A
I asked on my Instagram @NonMonogamyHelp for people to submit questions they had. Here's the result!
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Nov 17, 2023 • 21min
Episode 120 - Forced Primary
You’ve been happy as a secondary but slowly your partner is requesting more and more time after a recent breakup.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Nov 3, 2023 • 24min
Episode 119 - Brutal Honesty
Your partner outright tells you that they plan on prioritising someone over you. It’s harsh but is it what should happen?
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Oct 20, 2023 • 30min
Episode 118 - Don't Ask, Don't Tell
When you agree to a DADT relationship with a closeted partner but it’s not moving fast enough into a more polyamorous relationship.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact