

Non-Monogamy Help
Lola Phoenix
Non-Monogamy Help is a relationship advice podcast for people in non-monogamous or polyamorous relationships. With the help of a therapist with over a decade of experience, your host Lola Phoenix, answers the questions your questions about rules, hierarchies, unicorns and more.
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Jul 12, 2024 • 23min
Episode 136 - Long Distance Sharing
If you don’t want any other partners sharing your bed, is this jealousy or just a reasonable boundary?
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Jun 28, 2024 • 21min
Episode 135 - Long Distance Avoidance
You’ve done all the studying but still can’t shake the negative feelings when your partner dates others and you think you may be monogamous by nature.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Jun 14, 2024 • 32min
Episode 134 - Polyamory and Trauma
Seeing yourself as “traumatised” may actually be causing yourself more stress and difficulty than if you allowed yourself the permission to feel.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

May 31, 2024 • 26min
Episode 133 - Pressure to Open
Feeling pressured to open a relationship can be a common struggle. The podcast dives into the emotional complexities of transitioning to non-monogamy, emphasizing the critical role of communication. Listeners learn to navigate their feelings while balancing personal desires and partner expectations. The discussion critiques attachment theory, advocating for a flexible approach to relationships. With a focus on personal growth and exploration, this episode encourages embracing emotions and stepping outside comfort zones.

May 17, 2024 • 27min
Episode 132 - Mind Reading
The podcast delves into the importance of open communication in relationships, addressing challenges such as expressing needs and supporting partners through emotional turmoil. It explores the benefits of therapy, emotional processing, and setting boundaries to foster strong connections. The episode emphasizes direct communication to avoid resentment and cultivate healthy relationships.

May 3, 2024 • 24min
Episode 131 - Cheating Introduction
Can you move from cheating to a “successful” polyamorous relationship and what needs to happen?
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Apr 12, 2024 • 26min
Episode 130 - Deprioritised
If you know you’re being deprioritised and you just feel you can’t leave, can you actually make it work.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Mar 29, 2024 • 19min
Episode 129 - Struggling to Be Together
You can’t live your life only making decisions based on what will or won’t disappoint other adults.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Mar 22, 2024 • 1min
Non-Monogamy Help Trailer
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Mar 8, 2024 • 18min
Episode 128 - Stopping Emotions
Is there really a way to stop your emotions in their tracks or fully control them especially if you’re in a difficult housing situation?
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact