

Non-Monogamy Help
Lola Phoenix
Non-Monogamy Help is a relationship advice podcast for people in non-monogamous or polyamorous relationships. With the help of a therapist with over a decade of experience, your host Lola Phoenix, answers the questions your questions about rules, hierarchies, unicorns and more.
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Dec 6, 2024 • 26min
Episode 146 - Polyamory to Avoid Breaking Up
Is it a good idea to try polyamory just to avoid breaking up with your partner and are you insecure and traumatised if you're struggling to make it work?
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Nov 22, 2024 • 22min
Episode 145 - Re-release
Episode 85 was titled Insecurity and Comparisons and was about being worried about having feelings about your partner interacting with pictures of others.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Nov 8, 2024 • 35min
Episode 144 - Polyamory FOMO
What happens when you start off polyamory liking it but start feeling resentful towards your partner when they go on dates?
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Oct 25, 2024 • 31min
Episode 143 - Experienced But Anxious
What happens when you feel incredibly anxious about any new partner your partner has even though you are very experienced in polyamory?
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Oct 11, 2024 • 18min
Episode 142 - Finding New Partners
You want your partner to be more supportive in helping you find more partners or being a better wingman because you’re struggling to find new partners in an open marriage.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Check out Chill Polyamory's new podcast "I Could Never..." on Spotify and wherever you get your podcasts.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Sep 27, 2024 • 24min
Episode 141 - Making Amends
Everybody messes up in relationships but making amends isn’t always a one sided action. You have to work together to rebuild trust.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Check out Chill Polyamory's new podcast "I Could Never..." on Spotify and wherever you get your podcasts.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Sep 6, 2024 • 32min
Episode 140 - Q&A
Questions for this week's Q&A episode include:
How do I address friends who don't ask about or invite your partner to things? Friends who say they are supportive but only talk about that partner if you bring them up.
How do I find out what I actually feel when my spouse is out with others?
What do you do if you're feeling burnt out by emotional conversations?
My partner is always recommending stuff to me that was recommended to him by a metamour.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Check out Chill Polyamory's new podcast "I Could Never..." on Spotify and wherever you get your podcasts.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Aug 23, 2024 • 28min
Episode 139 - Boundaries vs. Rules
This discussion dives into the critical distinction between boundaries and rules in relationships. Listeners learn how boundaries represent personal behavioral responses, while rules dictate others' actions. The emotional complexities surrounding rejection and trust are thoroughly examined, highlighting the importance of clear communication. Additionally, navigating the challenges of maintaining boundaries amidst broken trust is addressed, with a focus on self-worth and the necessity of professional guidance for healthier connections.

Aug 9, 2024 • 21min
Episode 138 - Conflicting Routines
Trying to work out intentional time together when life circumstances and sleep schedules get in the way without taking it personally can be a challenge.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Check out Chill Polyamory's new podcast "I Could Never..." on Spotify and wherever you get your podcasts.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Jul 26, 2024 • 21min
Episode 137 - Meta's Fault
Your partner is making decisions about your relationship based off of your metamour’s feelings and resentment is building.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
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Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact