

Non-Monogamy Help
Lola Phoenix
Non-Monogamy Help is a relationship advice podcast for people in non-monogamous or polyamorous relationships. With the help of a therapist with over a decade of experience, your host Lola Phoenix, answers the questions your questions about rules, hierarchies, unicorns and more.
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Feb 21, 2025 • 23min
Episode 151 - Cold Metamour
If your metamour is a little cold to you, when do you decide to tell your partner?
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Jan 31, 2025 • 44min
Episode 150 - Q&A
Questions for this week's Q&A episode include:
- Any tips for long distance polyamory?
- How do you deal with guilt over having a stronger romantic connection with one partner?
- Could space away from a partner calm down polyamory related anxiety attacks?
- How to deal with conflict of NRE when your partner takes so long to process feelings?
- Any tips for people opening up after eight y ears together? How to deprogram systemic monogamy?
- Why is there such a negative sentiment/stigma towards polyamory? Why all of the disapproval?
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Looking for a way to better connect with your emotions? Dedeker Winston of the Multiamory podcast and dance/movement therapist Orit Krug are leading a somatic therapy retreat for polyamorous folks in Crete from March 31st to April 3rd, 2025. Sign up today!
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Jan 17, 2025 • 30min
Episode 149 - Mono/Poly Relationships
The podcast dives into the intriguing dynamics of transitioning from monogamy to polyamory. Listeners explore the fears and self-reflection needed to embrace this change, prioritizing personal happiness. Key discussions include the art of communication in poly relationships, handling jealousy, and establishing boundaries. The hosts also tackle misconceptions about love and insecurity, providing insights into understanding personal preferences. It's a thoughtful journey into expanding the heart and navigating complex relationship landscapes.

Jan 3, 2025 • 21min
Episode 148 - Children from Flings
When a fling results in a different parent of your child, it might be difficult to know whether or not to involve the biological parent.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Dec 20, 2024 • 25min
Episode 147 - Dating Monogamous People
Your partner doesn’t seem to mind dating monogamous people but you feel it’s not right. Can you actually change it?
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Dec 6, 2024 • 26min
Episode 146 - Polyamory to Avoid Breaking Up
Is it a good idea to try polyamory just to avoid breaking up with your partner and are you insecure and traumatised if you're struggling to make it work?
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Nov 22, 2024 • 22min
Episode 145 - Re-release
Episode 85 was titled Insecurity and Comparisons and was about being worried about having feelings about your partner interacting with pictures of others.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Nov 8, 2024 • 35min
Episode 144 - Polyamory FOMO
What happens when you start off polyamory liking it but start feeling resentful towards your partner when they go on dates?
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Oct 25, 2024 • 31min
Episode 143 - Experienced But Anxious
What happens when you feel incredibly anxious about any new partner your partner has even though you are very experienced in polyamory?
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Oct 11, 2024 • 18min
Episode 142 - Finding New Partners
You want your partner to be more supportive in helping you find more partners or being a better wingman because you’re struggling to find new partners in an open marriage.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Check out Chill Polyamory's new podcast "I Could Never..." on Spotify and wherever you get your podcasts.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact