

Non-Monogamy Help
Lola Phoenix
Non-Monogamy Help is a relationship advice podcast for people in non-monogamous or polyamorous relationships. With the help of a therapist with over a decade of experience, your host Lola Phoenix, answers the questions your questions about rules, hierarchies, unicorns and more.
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May 2, 2025 • 25min
Episode 156 - Polyamory Obsessed
How do you stop becoming just a little bit obsessed with reading about polyamory?That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Apr 18, 2025 • 28min
Episode 155 - Re-Release Hierarchies and Ethics
Prioritising a long term marriage is unethical to many people, but what do you if that’s genuinely what you want to do?That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Apr 4, 2025 • 18min
Episode 154 - Sharing Home With A Metamour
Feeling like you have to make yourself scarce in your own home can get old very quickly.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Mar 21, 2025 • 36min
Episode 153 - Childhood Trauma and Polyamory
How long should a partner wait for you to work through childhood trauma until you are “ready” for polyamory?That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Mar 7, 2025 • 13min
Episode 152 - Reddit Ashes
Responding to the r/relationships question: My boyfriend wouldn't go with me to spread my father's ashes
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Feb 21, 2025 • 23min
Episode 151 - Cold Metamour
If your metamour is a little cold to you, when do you decide to tell your partner?
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Jan 31, 2025 • 44min
Episode 150 - Q&A
Questions for this week's Q&A episode include:
- Any tips for long distance polyamory?
- How do you deal with guilt over having a stronger romantic connection with one partner?
- Could space away from a partner calm down polyamory related anxiety attacks?
- How to deal with conflict of NRE when your partner takes so long to process feelings?
- Any tips for people opening up after eight y ears together? How to deprogram systemic monogamy?
- Why is there such a negative sentiment/stigma towards polyamory? Why all of the disapproval?
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Looking for a way to better connect with your emotions? Dedeker Winston of the Multiamory podcast and dance/movement therapist Orit Krug are leading a somatic therapy retreat for polyamorous folks in Crete from March 31st to April 3rd, 2025. Sign up today!
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

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Jan 17, 2025 • 30min
Episode 149 - Mono/Poly Relationships
The podcast dives into the intriguing dynamics of transitioning from monogamy to polyamory. Listeners explore the fears and self-reflection needed to embrace this change, prioritizing personal happiness. Key discussions include the art of communication in poly relationships, handling jealousy, and establishing boundaries. The hosts also tackle misconceptions about love and insecurity, providing insights into understanding personal preferences. It's a thoughtful journey into expanding the heart and navigating complex relationship landscapes.

Jan 3, 2025 • 21min
Episode 148 - Children from Flings
When a fling results in a different parent of your child, it might be difficult to know whether or not to involve the biological parent.
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Dec 20, 2024 • 25min
Episode 147 - Dating Monogamous People
Your partner doesn’t seem to mind dating monogamous people but you feel it’s not right. Can you actually change it?
That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.
Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact