Non-Monogamy Help Episode 158 - Hierarchies and Polyamory
May 30, 2025
Explore the emotional challenges of non-monogamous relationships and the impact of past connections on the present. Discover the complexities of desires and boundaries as partners navigate evolving sexual identities. Dive into the importance of trust, transparency, and honest communication to prevent feelings of betrayal. The discussion also sheds light on the difficulties of hierarchical thinking, emphasizing individual preferences and time commitments. Plus, gain insights on managing emotional needs and self-reflection in polyamorous dynamics.
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Confront the Hidden Relationship
- Address the issue of your partner hiding a pre-established secondary relationship right from the start.
- Discuss why he lied about his other partner and whether you feel okay with that deception.
Clarify Primary Relationship Roles
- Instead of relying on labels like primary and secondary, explicitly define what primary means for both of you.
- Discuss how much time and emotional energy you can realistically invest in each relationship.
Acknowledge Emotional Complexities
- Address the emotional discomfort about your partner's longstanding relationship and the feelings of being left out.
- Understand that feelings of jealousy or distance are understandable but should be discussed openly.
