Non-Monogamy Help
Lola Phoenix
Non-Monogamy Help is a relationship advice podcast for people in non-monogamous or polyamorous relationships. With the help of a therapist with over a decade of experience, your host Lola Phoenix, answers the questions your questions about rules, hierarchies, unicorns and more.
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Oct 24, 2025 • 21min
Episode 168 - Kitchen Table Drama
The hinge is not hinging, and then the two metas have to negotiate with each other like the hinge is a hostage.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact.
Oct 10, 2025 • 26min
Episode 167 - Surprise Polyamory
You don't get told who you're in a relationship with. That's something you decide yourself.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact.
Sep 26, 2025 • 20min
Episode 166 - Exclusivity in Polyamory
Just because you're secondary doesn't mean you should accept being treated like you don't matter.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
Sep 12, 2025 • 23min
Episode 165 - Re-Release Primal Panic
This week I'm re-sharing Episode 104 on Primal Panic because it's one of the most popular episodes and you might have missed it!That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
Aug 29, 2025 • 31min
Episode 164 - Too Much Labour
Stop carrying the entire mental load of your relationship while your partner coasts on your effort.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
Aug 15, 2025 • 42min
Episode 163 - People Pleasing in Polyamory
Are you people pleasing to the point where you think you've over corrected but really, you're under-correcting?That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
Aug 1, 2025 • 26min
Episode 162 - Setting Real Boundaries in Polyamory
Explore the essential differences between rules and boundaries in polyamorous relationships. Discover how to navigate emotional complexities while balancing personal needs. Learn strategies for effective communication and self-advocacy to ensure all partners feel valued. Delve into the importance of clearly defined boundaries and what to do if they are crossed. Plus, get insights on managing jealousy and emotional challenges, and find out about a unique retreat designed for those in non-monogamous relationships.
Jul 18, 2025 • 26min
Episode 161 - Bedtime Relationship Rumination
Why your brain processes relationship conflicts at night and how to break the cycle without exhausting your partner.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.This episode also features an ad for a Polyamory Retreat in Spain in September hosted by Dedeker Winston and Orit Krug. For more information about the retreat visit multiamory.com/retreatThat's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contactOur discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
Jun 27, 2025 • 17min
Episode 160 - What A Boundary Is
How many times should you let someone violate your boundaries and can you rebuild trust after?That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
Jun 13, 2025 • 12min
Episode 159 - No Contact Metamour
When you’re no contact with a nesting metamour, can you make a relationship with your shared partner work?That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
