

Finding Traction: Recovery from Porn
Vern Tompke
Are you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.
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Jul 27, 2023 • 22min
Ep. 99 - Verns Summer Musings Pt. 3
Is it possible to over-spiritualize our struggle with porn? In this episode Vern explores some of the ways that "spiritualizing" the issue can actually get in the way of our recovery.If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.careAre you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.

Jul 17, 2023 • 34min
Ep. 98 - Verns Summer Musings Pt. 2
The term "betrayal trauma" is applied as a catch-all term to describe how wives view their husbands internet behavior. Is this term helpful? Does it apply to every situation. In this episode Vern pushes back on the trauma model as a "one size fits all" approach to every couple.If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.careAre you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.

Jul 12, 2023 • 23min
Ep. 97 - Verns Summer Musings pt. 1
Do we need to see ourself or call ourself a sex addict (or porn addict) if we are going to find recovery? In this episode Vern approaches some of the ways we see or define ourselfs and pushes back on some of the rigidity that certain approaches employ in helping the porn struggler.If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.careAre you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.

Jun 28, 2023 • 54min
Ep. 96 - Is There Hope for Me?
Porn recovery is a marathon not a sprint - and if you are going to run the marathon you are going to need lots of hope! In this episode Vern invites his fellow recovery coach Matt Dobscheutz to talk about holding onto hope for the long haulIf you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.careIf you want to connect with Matt D. You can hear him on his podcast "Porn Free Radio" or check him out on his websitehttps://www.recoveredman.comAre you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.

Jun 21, 2023 • 37min
Ep. 95 - Young Men pt. 2
This week we interview two young men, Cody and Mack, who are coming out of their 20's, are looking back at the struggles they had, and sharing how they have managed to push "Play" on restarting their growth and development as young men.If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.careAre you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.

May 31, 2023 • 37min
Ep. 94 - What's going on with young men?
If you are nearing the end of high school, or in your 20's (or know someone who is) this podcast is for you? There is a massive change that is happening with young people that is causing an entire generation of men to sleep walk through their late teens and 20's. This podcast explores how to push the play on your life (rather than living an entire decade on pause).If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.careAre you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.

May 20, 2023 • 18min
Ep. 93 - What is Your Tell?
In poker, a tell is how to read someone as to what cards they are holding. Is there a way to spot our tell that we are leaving a place of safety and moving toward acting out?Using the metaphor of a stopwatch, in this episode Vern explores how to become self aware that we have been sexually triggered and need to take immediate corrective action or our "ticking clock" will inevitably lead us back down the porn rabbit hole.If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.careAre you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.

May 15, 2023 • 18min
Ep. 92 - the #1 Recovery Skill Is...
It is no surprise that self care is often the first thing to go when we habitually engage in porn behaviors. There is no more important self care activity you can practise than... (well you will need to listen to the podcast!)If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.careAre you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.

May 6, 2023 • 23min
Ep. 91 - Sugar Porn
How is watching porn similar to consuming white sugar? On this episode Vern (who certainly isn't known for healthy eating) explores the interesting parallels between the effects of porn and sugar!If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.careAre you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.

Apr 26, 2023 • 17min
Ep. 90 - Recovery False Starts
It is quite common for Vern to hear from a guy who emails him with a frantic - "I need help NOW" regarding their porn struggle. Yet a funny thing happens. Vern replies to the email and hears nothing back - apparently the emergency has passed. In this episode Vern explores a number of ways that people "false start" their recovery from problematic porn use.If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.careAre you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.