Finding Traction: Recovery from Porn

When you look at recovery from a higher altitude, you see that there are really different stages we go through. Using the analogy of fixing your car, Vern talks about 3 distinct stages of recovery - 1. Breaking the Habit 2. Looking at the Underlying Issues and 3. Recalibating our Sexuality.If you want to connect with Vern directly you can contact him at...email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more about him or the finding traction course go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.care

There is a new kind of internet activity which is even more problematic than the traditional forms of "surfing the net" In this episode Vern explores this new form of problematic behavior and why men are finding it so ensnaring.If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.care

Is it possible to over-spiritualize our struggle with porn? In this episode Vern explores some of the ways that "spiritualizing" the issue can actually get in the way of our recovery.If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.care

The term "betrayal trauma" is applied as a catch-all term to describe how wives view their husbands internet behavior. Is this term helpful? Does it apply to every situation. In this episode Vern pushes back on the trauma model as a "one size fits all" approach to every couple.If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.care

Do we need to see ourself or call ourself a sex addict (or porn addict) if we are going to find recovery? In this episode Vern approaches some of the ways we see or define ourselfs and pushes back on some of the rigidity that certain approaches employ in helping the porn struggler.If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.care

Porn recovery is a marathon not a sprint - and if you are going to run the marathon you are going to need lots of hope! In this episode Vern invites his fellow recovery coach Matt Dobscheutz to talk about holding onto hope for the long haulIf you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.careIf you want to connect with Matt D. You can hear him on his podcast "Porn Free Radio" or check him out on his websitehttps://www.recoveredman.com

This week we interview two young men, Cody and Mack, who are coming out of their 20's, are looking back at the struggles they had, and sharing how they have managed to push "Play" on restarting their growth and development as young men.If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.care

If you are nearing the end of high school, or in your 20's (or know someone who is) this podcast is for you? There is a massive change that is happening with young people that is causing an entire generation of men to sleep walk through their late teens and 20's. This podcast explores how to push the play on your life (rather than living an entire decade on pause).If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.care

In poker, a tell is how to read someone as to what cards they are holding. Is there a way to spot our tell that we are leaving a place of safety and moving toward acting out?Using the metaphor of a stopwatch, in this episode Vern explores how to become self aware that we have been sexually triggered and need to take immediate corrective action or our "ticking clock" will inevitably lead us back down the porn rabbit hole.If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.care

It is no surprise that self care is often the first thing to go when we habitually engage in porn behaviors. There is no more important self care activity you can practise than... (well you will need to listen to the podcast!)If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.care