Finding Traction: Recovery from Porn

Vern Tompke - Porn Recovery Coach
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Nov 2, 2024 • 16min

Ep. 146 - Before the Day After

November 5th is a big day - its Guy Fawkes Day, Vern's Birthday and yes - the American election.  How deal with the big feelings that will follow the election can make us truly vulnerable to relapse.  Vern walks through how we navigate these strong emotions.We are starting new finding traction groups this fall to help 5-7 guys at a time connect around walking away from porn and moving towards a better life.  We have a a group for young guys, a group for older guys in or near retirement and a few guys waiting to start a "Married with Children" group. If you want more information on these groups email me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com.  We can also arrange a free zoom call if you want to ask further questions and discuss your recovery needs further.If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my circle learning platform.  If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users.  The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - (white circle on a blue background)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2Are you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a  porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.
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Oct 28, 2024 • 22min

Ep. 145 - Welcome to Plan B

There are two types of pathways we can walk in recovery - Plan A is the one we prefer and we have all tried it - unsuccessfully.  This episode is about Plan B - and why we end up having to follow this route.We are starting new finding traction groups this fall to help 5-7 guys at a time connect around walking away from porn and moving towards a better life.  We have a a group for young guys, a group for older guys in or near retirement and a few guys waiting to start a "Married with Children" group. If you want more information on these groups email me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com.  We can also arrange a free zoom call if you want to ask further questions and discuss your recovery needs further.If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my circle learning platform.  If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users.  The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - (white circle on a blue background)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2Are you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a  porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.
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Oct 21, 2024 • 47min

Ep. 144 - Porn Free Millennial

A big step of recovery is when you turn around and help guys who are not as far along the journey as you are.  Mac is one of the guys I coach and he has created a great podcast that he shares with younger guys - it's called porn free millenial and you can access it here. https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/porn-free-millennial-podcast/id1688517945On the episode Mac and I discuss how you can combat temptation by asking 3 questions:Then What?, So What? and  Now What?We are starting new finding traction groups this fall to help 5-7 guys at a time connect around walking away from porn and moving towards a better life.  We have a a group for young guys, a group for older guys in or near retirement and a few guys waiting to start a "Married with Children" group. If you want more information on these groups email me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com.  We can also arrange a free zoom call if you want to ask further questions.If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my circle learning platform.  If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users.  The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - (white circle on a blue background)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2Are you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a  porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.
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Oct 7, 2024 • 25min

Ep. 143 - What is Your Primal Question?

What is the Primal Need which drives your behaviors, informs your fears and causes you to reach for your medicine jar? (porn)  In this episode Vern asks the question "If porn is our favorite solution, then what is the primal question  we are seeking to answer or problem we  are seeking to solve?If you are interested in reading the book, 7 Primal Questions, the author has the first three chapters available on his website: https://www.mikefoster.tv/downloadsYou can do a quick online survey to get a quick idea as to what your primal need is by going to the following link.https://primalquestion.typeform.com/to/DmcABGY6?typeform-source=www.primalquestion.comWe are starting new finding traction groups this fall to help 5-7 guys at a time connect around walking away from porn and moving towards a better life.  We have a a group for young guys, a group for older guys in or near retirement and a few guys waiting to start a "Married with Children" group. If you want more information on these groups email me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com.  We can also arrange a free zoom call if you want to ask further questions.If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my circle learning platform.  If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users.  The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - white circle on a blue background)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2Are you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a  porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.
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Sep 18, 2024 • 19min

Ep. 142 - The C's of Recovery

We all know the things that we want to leave behind - do we have a clear sense of what we want to see grow in our life?  In this episode Vern shares the result of a brainstorming session he did with a group of guys around the things they wanted to move toward.  Funny thing - they all start with "C".We are starting new finding traction groups this fall to help 5-7 guys at a time connect around walking away from porn and moving towards a better life.  We have a a group for young guys, a group for older guys in or near retirement and a few guys waiting to start a "Married with Children" group. If you want more information on these groups email me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com.  We can also arrange a free zoom call if you want to ask further questions.If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my circle learning platform.  If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users.  The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - white circle on a blue background)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2Are you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a  porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.
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Sep 9, 2024 • 19min

Ep. 141 - What If

When it comes to living in sustained recovery two of the most problematic words we can utter are the words "What If".  Today I unpackage why those two words get us in trouble more often than we realize.We are starting new finding traction groups this fall to help 5-7 guys at a time connect around walking away from porn and moving towards a better life.  If you want more information on these groups email me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com.  We can also arrange a free zoom call if you want to ask further questions.If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my circle learning platform.  If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users.  The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - white circle on a blue background)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2Are you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a  porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.
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Sep 4, 2024 • 20min

Ep. 140 - 6 Dumbest Things I've Heard

I've heard a number of pretty dumb things in coaching guys.  I've even thought and said a few of them myself - the following are six of the dumbest things that I have come across.We are starting new finding traction groups this fall to help 5-7 guys at a time connect around walking away from porn and moving towards a better life.  If you want more information on these groups email me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com.  We can also arrange a free zoom call if you want to ask further questions.When it comes to living in sustained recovery two of the most problematic words we can utter are the words "What If".  Today I unpackage why those two words get us in trouble more often than we realize.We are starting new finding traction groups this fall to help 5-7 guys at a time connect around walking away from porn and moving towards a better life.  If you want more information on these groups email me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com.  We can also arrange a free zoom call if you want to ask further questions.If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my circle learning platform.  If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users.  The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - white circle on a blue background)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2Are you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a  porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.
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Aug 27, 2024 • 15min

Ep. 139 - Signs of a BaaaaD Recovery Group

frEver been in a bad recovery group? Ever felt nervous about joining a group because of the many ways it could go wrong?  In this episode Vern explores how to tell when a group is toxic and when it is healthy.We are starting up new Finding Traction groups in September 2024.  Normally groups are $149/month but if you sign up by August 31 - Vern is offering them at the old price of $99/month.  The cost includes all 52 videos plus handouts to guide our time together.  To get more information about these groups email Vern at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com before the cutoff.When it comes to living in sustained recovery two of the most problematic words we can utter are the words "What If".  Today I unpackage why those two words get us in trouble more often than we realize.We are starting new finding traction groups this fall to help 5-7 guys at a time connect around walking away from porn and moving towards a better life.  If you want more information on these groups email me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com.  We can also arrange a free zoom call if you want to ask further questions.If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my circle learning platform.  If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users.  The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - white circle on a blue background)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2Are you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a  porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.
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Aug 20, 2024 • 15min

Ep. 138 - Eat Your Frogs

Have you ever heard of the saying "Eat Your Frogs"  I hadn't!  But today we talk about an issue that many porn strugglers have embedded in their lives - their propensity to procastinate!Vern has a brand new circle learning platform for people looking for connection and free resources in their recovery from porn.  To get access to this platform join up using the following link - if privacy is a concern use your initials or an alibi for your name... (I have my regular name and I have another called Tom Landry - so you can find me!)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2If you want more informtion on these (or for any other reason - like football advice)  you can contact me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comAre you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a  porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.
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Aug 12, 2024 • 19min

Ep. 137 - Relapse After a Long Sobriety

What if we have a relapse after a long period of sobriety?   In this episode Vern shares from his life about how demoralizing this can be but also how to get back up on our feet with the proper perspective.Vern has a brand new circle learning platform for people looking for connection and free resources in their recovery from porn.  To get access to this platform join up using the following link - if privacy is a concern use your initials or an alibi for your name... (I have my regular name and I have another called Tom Landry - so you can find me!)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2If you want more informtion on these (or for any other reason - like football advice)  you can contact me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comAre you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a  porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.

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