

Finding Traction: Recovery from Porn
Vern Tompke - Porn Recovery Coach
Are you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.
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Apr 3, 2025 • 34min
Ep. 162 - Lessons from a Relapse (with Hercule Flambeau)
What can we learn from a relapse? In this episode one of Vern's coaching clients bravely shares what he learned from a recent relapse in the hopes that it can also be instructive to other listeners. The song at the end can be downloaded in the circle learning platform below...If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, you need to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform.This is how sign up for the free circle learning resources Vern has to offer. If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users. The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app) - (white circle on a blue background)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=84c412c67f81c7a9fa2da045d969987b45464bf0-f9c81a7a-030e-4efe-b164-86d10b099404Are you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.

Mar 26, 2025 • 20min
Ep. 161 - Wave Go To's Part 2
In this episode Vern goes back to the topic of dealing with a wave of temptation and craving. In this episode he argues that we need to strengthen our understanding of connection and also introduces a couple of "Go To's" that he uses when he is in the middle of experience a Wave.The first reading is based on the Bible App (Psalm 119 - the Message)The second reading can be found here:A Liturgy for One Battling a Destructive Desire (read by Doug McKelvey)https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EQ_o_sMBuCoIf you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, you need to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform.This is how sign up for the free circle learning resources Vern has to offer. If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users. The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app) - (white circle on a blue background)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=84c412c67f81c7a9fa2da045d969987b45464bf0-f9c81a7a-030e-4efe-b164-86d10b099404Are you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.

Mar 20, 2025 • 14min
Ep. 160 - Waves of Craving
Do you ever feel that craving hits you like a big wave? In this episode Vern provides hope that the next big wave doesn't need to overwhelm you!If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, you need to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform.This is how sign up for the free circle learning resources Vern has to offer. If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users. The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - (white circle on a blue background)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=84c412c67f81c7a9fa2da045d969987b45464bf0-f9c81a7a-030e-4efe-b164-86d10b099404Are you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.

Mar 10, 2025 • 21min
Ep. 159 - The Hidden Costs of Porn Use
Most of us are tempted to think that our porn use is free. Sure we may not be "paying" for porn but you are paying in ways you many not even realize it. Today we talk about the "hidden costs" of our porn use.If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, you need to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform.This is how sign up for the free circle learning resources Vern has to offer. If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users. The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - (white circle on a blue background)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2If you are looking to connect with Vern for a free zoom call or to discuss your recovery needs you can reach out to him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comAre you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.

Feb 20, 2025 • 21min
Ep. 158 - Dial it In
Did you ever start a day feeling "off". Today's podcast is all about "dialling your day" in to maximize the chance of the day going well.If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, you need to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform.This is how sign up for the free circle learning resources Vern has to offer. If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users. The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - (white circle on a blue background)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2If you are looking to connect with Vern for a free zoom call or to discuss your recovery needs you can reach out to him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comAre you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.

Feb 10, 2025 • 31min
Ep. 157 - Ten Rules for Life
This episode is a bit different. One of the benefits of recovery from constantly battling with porn is that you can now start to think more clearly about how you want your life to go. In this episode Vern shares 10 principles he has landed on to guide his thoughts and actions.A summary of these principles is found on the circle learning platform under Free Resources.This is how sign up for the free circle learning resources Vern has to offer. If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users. The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - (white circle on a blue background)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2If you are looking to connect with Vern for a free zoom call or to discuss your recovery needs you can reach out to him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comAre you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.

Jan 30, 2025 • 19min
Ep. 156 - The Porn Adjacent Challenge
One of the biggest challenges that is new in the porn recovery area is the new pattern of staying away from porn but engaging in all sorts of porn adjacent behaviors. Sure its not porn but it is just a perpetuation of the same sort of addictive behavior with the same sort of negative results. In this episode Vern challenges us to change the way we look at some of our online behaviors.If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my free circle learning platform. If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users. The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - (white circle on a blue background)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2We are starting a brand new group for 2025! This group will consist of 5-7 men who want to journey together throught the finding traction course. Our next group will be starting January 2025 on Wednesdays at 9 pm. Eastern. If you want more information on how to become part of one of these groups reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com. To access my website - go to https://bandofbrothers.careAre you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.

Jan 21, 2025 • 24min
Ep. 155 - Those Pesky Emotions
We spend a lot of time trying to block ourselves from external threats using content filters, removing problematic apps etc. The peskier problem, however, has to do with our emotions. Wherever we go there we are. In this episode Vern unpackages what those problematic emotions are, the way porn promises to meet those emotions and how we can transtion to meeting those real emotional needs in healthier ways.If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my free circle learning platform. If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users. The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - (white circle on a blue background)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2We are starting a brand new group for 2025! This group will consist of 5-7 men who want to journey together throught the finding traction course. Our next group will be starting January 2025 on Wednesdays at 9 pm. Eastern. If you want more information on how to become part of one of these groups reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com. To access my website - go to https://bandofbrothers.careAre you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.

Jan 10, 2025 • 18min
Ep. 154 - A Punch in the Face
What is the actual problems that porn causes men? Wtihout needing to take on the porn industry - I walk through as succintly as I can some of the common side effects that are proving so problematic with porn. So here's to avoiding a punch in the face!A summary of this article is found on my free circle platform.If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my free circle learning platform. If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users. The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - (white circle on a blue background)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2We are starting a brand new group for 2025! This group will consist of 5-7 men who want to journey together throught the finding traction course. Our next group will be starting January 2025 on Wednesdays at 9 pm. Eastern. If you want more information on how to become part of one of these groups reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com. To access my website - go to https://bandofbrothers.careAre you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.

Jan 3, 2025 • 18min
Ep. 153 - Theme for 2025
We are starting a brand new group for 2025! This group will consist of 5-7 men who want to journey together throught the finding traction course. Our next group will be starting January 2025 on Wednesdays at 9 pm. Eastern. If you want more information on how to become part of one of these groups reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com. To access my website - go to https://bandofbrothers.careIf you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my free circle learning platform. If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users. The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - (white circle on a blue background)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2Are you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to find power over porn, break free from porn, and start living porn free. Subscribe now and begin your journey to freedom.


