Finding Traction: Recovery from Porn

There is a funny super bowl ad that says to remember something you need to forget something. In this podcast Vern talks about the role that forgetting plays in our relapses and the need to bring specific things to mind.If you are looking for a safe place to turn to - I'd love to hear from you - my email is bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you are looking for some free resources as well as informatin on the finding traction podcast you can check out the websitehttps://bandofbrothers.care

When I tell guys about what caused a tipping point in my recovery - I often forget to include an event that helped cement some of the recovery changes that were happening. In this episode I explore the value of that experience by inviting Daugherty of Be Broken Ministry to discuss what can be an invaluable recovery experience - the Intensive.If you want to connect with Vern (and he loves to hear from guys) you can contact him atbandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to find some free resources as well as information on the Finding Traction course you can check him out on his website https://www.bandofbrothers.care/If you want to connect with Jonathan Daugherty you can connect with him and the Be Broken Ministry at https://www.bebroken.org

There are two opposite ditches we can get into when we are walkg out our recovery. One is the despair (Mission Impossible) that creeps in when we relapse or fail to live up to the best hopes of our intentions. The other is the over confidence (Mission Accomplished) that we want to leap to when we are having a few good days or weeks! In this episode Vern talks about how to navigate between these two ditches.If you want to connect with Vern (and he loves to hear from guys) you can contact him atbandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to find some free resources as well as information on the Finding Traction course you can check him out on his website https://www.bandofbrothers.care/

Being at home on a "snow day" gives you time to think. In this episode Vern talks about how to "keep your road clean" as well as the NFL advice given to it's new rookies "Nothing good happens after midnight". If you want to connect with Vern about the finding traction course, joining one of the Traction groups or just have a zoom call with him to get started on your recovery you can contact him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com or you can check out the website for free resourceshttps://bandofbrothers.care

Ever heard about PIED? - it stands for Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction. In this episode Vern explores a not so fun topic through making fun of his anemic football team's playoff performance.To contact Vern you can reach out to him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com.As he mentions regularly - he loves to connect with guys who are looking at making changes in their life around their problematic porn use!You can also check out the website for further recovery resources https://www.bandofbrothers.care

It is popular these day to write a "12 rules for Life" to try to replicate the success that Jordan Peterson had in his book (whatever you think of him). In this episode Vern shares a fun rule from Malcolm Gladwell's 12 rules and then gives his own shot at writing 12 rules for recovery.To contact Vern you can reach out to him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com.As he mentions regularly - he loves to connect with guys who are looking at making changes in their life around their problematic porn use!You can also check out the website for further recovery resources https://www.bandofbrothers.care

As we head into 2024 Vern shares about a tool that has been helpful for him as he starts out a brand new year. It just so happens that this one leads Vern into making changes that are long overdue!To contact Vern you can reach out to him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com.As he mentions regularly - he loves to connect with guys who are looking at making changes in their life around their problematic porn use!You can also check out the website for further recovery resources https://www.bandofbrothers.care

In golf, a Mulligan is a do-over where you pretend that you're last shot never happened! What are the ways that mulligan thinking gets in the way of us progressing toward health and wholeness in our recovery? This is an especially important podcast as we near the end of the year!To contact Vern you can reach out to him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com.As he mentions regularly - he loves to connect with guys who are looking at making changes in their life around their problematic porn use!You can also check out the website for further recovery resources https://www.bandofbrothers.care

To quote Kevin Costner from the Postman - "is stuff getting better" for you in your recovery? In today's episode Vern explores a number of ways that we can determine if we are growing and moving forward in our recovery - or stalled out and stuck.To connect with Vern you can email him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com or check out the website for further resources https://www.bandofbrothers.care

It makes a huge difference whether you see your recovery as a project to complete or a process (or way of living). In this episode Vern outlines the difference and how this makes a major difference on the way we experience recovery hope for the long haul.To contact Vern you can reach out to him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com.As he mentions regularly - he loves to connect with guys who are looking at making changes in their life around their problematic porn use!You can also check out the website for further recovery resources https://www.bandofbrothers.care