Not Alone

This episode is brought to you by Lume: Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with @lumedeodorant and get 15% off with promo code VALERIA at https://www.LumeDeodorant.com! #lumepodValeria sits down with her close friend, Aleks Malkin, to discuss the beauty and complexities of life's choices, personal growth, and the paths not taken. The episode dives deep into themes of self-reflection, hyper-independence, and the power of vulnerability, as the two friends share stories of their past, the defining moments that shaped them, and how their perspectives on life have evolved over the years.Aleks opens up about her journey with motherhood, marriage, and the importance of allowing oneself to feel deeply, even if it means facing uncomfortable truths. Valeria shares her own experiences of contemplating the "what ifs" in life, questioning the different paths she could have taken, and the realization that some choices were necessary for her growth. They explore how childhood experiences and societal expectations have influenced their definitions of love, success, and identity, and how they’re striving to create a more authentic and fulfilling life.Follow Aleks on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aleksmalkin/ Mentioned: Byron Katie’s The Work: https://thework.com/ Awareness by Anthony DeMello https://a.co/d/gfyPX0Q Chloe Macintosh: https://www.instagram.com/chloe_macintosh/ Inside Out 2: https://www.disneyplus.com/movies/inside-out-2/6MeZYf9JkFii Shop my look from this episode: https://liketk.it/4JhPf What We Talked About: 00:00 Intro 01:36 Weekend contemplation 03:52 What could I have done differently? 07:24 Taking alone time 12:06 Self-awareness 14:11 Losing yourself in being a mother 17:08 The 4-Question Inquiry 21:13 Pause and then process the situation 22:02 Somatic way to heal 26:31 You model your values 27:49 How to raise a daughter 30:46 What younger you would have wanted 35:10 Hyper-independence as a coping mechanism 39:04 Pleasure has become synonymous to shame 43:07 The generation that needs a lot of self-work 45:42 Having comfortable conversations with your parents 47:05 Conversation with your mom 52:17 Compassion and space for people 56:06 It’s about creating a safe environment 01:00:56 How do you define real friendships 01:02:37 Are you still working on yourself? 01:03:40 Back from a social media break 01:07:25 Allow things to come to you 01:14:49 How do you give advice to someone? 01:20:23 What’s your purpose? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is brought to you by the following:Orgain: If you want to get in on delicious protein-packed nutrition today, head to http://Orgain.com/VALERIA and use code VALERIA for 20% off your order. Orgain is also now available at Costco!Green Chef: Go to https://www.greenchef.com/valeriaclass for 50% off your first box + 50 FREE Credits with ClassPass!Cozy Earth: Visit https://www.cozyearth.com/notalone and use code VALERIA for an exclusive discount of up to 40% off.Better Help: Give online therapy a try at https://www.betterhelp.com/notalone and get on your way to being your best self. In today’s episode, Valeria sits down with Alison Cheperdak, an etiquette coach, author, and lawyer for a deep dive into the world of modern etiquette. Forget the stuffy image of rules about cutlery — Alison shares how etiquette is all about kindness, respect, and navigating relationships in a fast-changing world. The conversation covers everything from first-date dilemmas, setting boundaries in friendships, and handling workplace challenges to mastering the art of introductions and elevating your party & networking experiences Whether you're looking to polish your professional presence, improve your communication, or simply find better ways to connect with others, this episode is packed with practical tips and real-life insights. Valeria and Alison also tackle tricky situations like receiving unwanted gifts, dealing with gossip, and gracefully handling public embarrassment.Join Creator Method: Head to https://www.creatormethod.com and join our thriving community today. Use promo code NOTALONE at checkout to get 10% off your first year of Creator Method membership.Shop my look from this episode: https://liketk.it/4OWQE Mentioned: Open by Andre Agassi https://www.amazon.com/Open-Autobiography-Andre-Agassi/dp/0307388409 What We Talked About: 00:00 Intro 01:10 What is modern etiquette? 02:21 Misconceptions about etiquette 03:44 Career shift 07:24 Should a woman pay for the first date? 09:16 How to deal with gossips 13:10 Ending friendships 15:35 Unwanted gifts 24:16 Etiquette in the workplace 28:22 Hype yourself up 30:26 It’s not about the gender 35:02 Unwanted attention 36:59 Dress code 40:09 Rude acquaintances 43:51 Backhanded compliments 44:31 Feeling excluded 47:20 Public humiliation 48:58 Incorporate modern etiquette into self-improvement 52:12 Topics to discuss 54:44 Missing the moment to connect 57:41 Etiquette in parties 59:59 How to join a conversation Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is brought to you by the following: Cozy Earth: Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/notalone and use code VALERIA for anexclusive discount for up to 40% off.Hiya: We've worked out a special deal with Hiya for their best selling children's vitamin. Receive 50% off your first order at https://www.hiyahealth.com/VALERIA. Nurture Life: For 55% off your order, head to https://www.NurtureLife.com and use code VALERIAIn this special episode, Valeria sits down with her 11-year-old son, Jake Lipovetsky, to reflect on their summer experiences, including family trips and Jake's camp adventures. Jake shares lessons on patience, responsibility, and decision-making, especially how he overcame his hesitation to extend his stay at camp. Their conversation explores personal growth, with Jake emphasizing the value of living in the moment and how challenges help build character. He also talks about confidence and self-belief as key elements in personal development. The episode wraps up with Jake discussing his admiration for his parents as role models, particularly for their public speaking and social skills.Shop my look from this episode: https://liketk.it/4Prlg Mentioned: Nas Daily Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EyoZdXszaKg What We Talked About: 00:00 Intro 02:57 “I wanted to protect you.” 05:26 3-month summer break is boring 07:29 Outdoor activities and personal growth 10:57 How do you view personal growth? 14:35 Believe in yourself 20:35 Do you have limiting beliefs? 26:14 What would change this year? 30:52 Sharpen the skills you have right now 33:37 Jake scared Valeria  39:20 Who’s your role model? 43:22 Do you have goals for yourself? 46:51 “I’m lucky you’re my mom.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is brought to you by the following: Green Chef: Go to https://www.greenchef.com/valeriaclass for 50% off your first box + 50 FREE Credits with ClassPass! In this episode, Valeria chats down with Dené Logan to explore the intricate dynamics of relationships, the concepts of feminine and masculine energies, and the societal shifts surrounding these themes. Dené explains the historical suppression of the feminine and the modern journey towards reclaiming it. The discussion covers the impact of these energies on personal growth, relationships, and societal structures, offering listeners profound insights into achieving a balanced and fulfilling life.Dené Logan is a Marriage and Family Therapist with an orientation in Depth Psychology (often referred to as ‘The Psychology of the Soul’), Group Facilitator, and co-host of the podcast Cheaper Than Therapy. She has a Masters Degree in Counseling Psychology and is notably the mentee of acclaimed psychotherapist Esther Perel. Dené is passionate about sharing tools and strategies to cultivate spiritual awareness, understanding the current shifts taking place within our societal structures, and empowering others in understanding how they can live the most fulfilling lives possible. Mentioned: Sovereign Love by Dené Logan: Mankind Project: https://mankindproject.org/ Sacred Sons: https://www.sacredsons.com/ Jane Fonda in Five Acts: https://www.hbo.com/movies/jane-fonda-in-five-acts Pema Chödrön: https://www.instagram.com/anipemachodron/ Dené is on:https://www.instagram.com/dene.logan/ https://www.tiktok.com/@denelogan https://www.flowhousetherapy.com/ Shop my look from this episode: https://liketk.it/4OMP3 What We Talked About: 00:00 Intro 04:34 What is the feminine energy? 06:08 Wounded masculine paradigm 05:38 Women are raised feminists 11:29 Healthy masculinity 15:27 Sacred connection in relationships 20:32 What defines a successful relationship? 24:34 Conversations are crucial 32:52 Is there a limit to what you can talk about with your partner? 35:54 Be your true self all the time  40:04 Moving out of codependent paradigms 45:19 Ownership mindset in relationships 48:33 Midlife awakening 48:33 Men also need emotional support 51:41 Men are struggling in secret 55:57 Men need more model leaders 59:52 Post-patriarchal society 01:02:18 The next stage of feminism 01:05:05 How to reclaim your feminine self 01:05:58 Surround yourself with authentic people Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is brought to you by the following: Nurture Life: For 55% off your order, head to https://www.NurtureLife.com and use code VALERIAOrgain: If you want to get in on the delicious protein-packed nutrition today, head to http://www.Orgain.com/VALERIA and use code: VALERIA for 20% off your orderIn this episode, Gary and Valeria dive into how they have managed money over their marriage as a couple with and 18-year age gap. They explain how they have navigated financial dynamics in their relationship and family and explored the balance between independence and interdependence in a marriage. Valeria opens up about her journey from feeling financially insecure to becoming a confident contributor. They discuss the importance of clear communication, the role of prenups, and navigating the complexities of shared finances. With humor and honesty, they unpack the emotional and practical aspects of building a partnership and a family legacy that thrives on trust and mutual growth.Perfect for listeners navigating their own financial and personal dynamics in relationships!Follow Gary: https://www.instagram.com/garylipovetsky/ Join Creator Method: Head to https://www.creatormethod.com and join our thriving community today. Use promo code NOTALONE at checkout to get 10% off your first year of Creator Method membership.Follow Creator Method: https://www.instagram.com/creator.method/ Mentioned: Shoes argument vlog: I can’t find the link guys, sorry! If I find the video I will add it!Shop my look from this episode: https://liketk.it/4OmzM Shop Gary’s watch: https://www.longines.com/en-ca/p/watch-longines-spirit-l3-821-4-53-9 What We Talked About: 00:00 Intro 00:18 Breathwork 05:48 Financial independence and interdependence 11:27 Bad financial habits 18:02 Money shouldn’t be an issue 24:53 Support your partner’s career journey  27:02 Our dynamic is different 28:18 Making money together 30:37 Financial planning 33:01 Did the relationship shift when the wife made more money? 37:20 Prenup talks 45:44 Don’t get married 48:21 Ten years from now 50:23 Life insurance 57:07 Setting up kids for financial success 01:04:56 Teach your kids to work 01:06:55 Spending money on luxury brands 01:11:25 Creator Method Disclaimer: The links in this description are sponsor or affiliate links. If you make a purchase through these links I may earn a credit or commission at no additional cost to you.Disclaimer: The use of information from this podcast or materials linked from this podcast is at the user’s own risk. The content of this podcast is not intended to be a substitute for professional or personal financial management and education. This is information based on personal experiences and is not financial advice or recommendation. Do your own research and seek independent advice when required. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is brought to you by the following: Lolavie: Get 15% off LolaVie with the code VALERIA at https://www.lolavie.com/valeria #lolaviepod BetterHelp: Not Alone is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit https://www.BetterHelp.com/notalone today to get 10% off your first month.This week, Valeria is joined by iconic Victoria's Secret Angel, supermodel, and entrepreneur, Taylor Hill. Taylor opens up about her journey as a model, beginning with her career's early start at the age of 14 and the challenges of growing up in the modeling industry, including dropping out of high school and navigating the pressures of public life. She also highlights the pivotal moment in her career when she joined Victoria’s Secret at 18, which propelled her into the global spotlight. Taylor reflects on the brand's past promotion of unrealistic beauty standards and expresses her support for its recent shift towards inclusivity and authenticity. Beyond her career, Taylor talks about the importance of family support, particularly her mother’s unwavering presence during her early modeling years. She also touches on her approach to body image, embracing the changes that come with aging, and the value of self-acceptance. The episode takes an emotional turn as Taylor discusses her deep connection with her late dog, Tate, and the grief of losing him, as well as her experience with the loss of an unplanned pregnancy. Taylor's reflections provide a candid look into the complexities of her life, both in the spotlight and behind the scenes.Visit the Tate & Taylor community & marketplace: https://tateandtaylor.com/ Taylor is on: https://www.instagram.com/taylor_hill/ https://www.tiktok.com/@taylor_hill?lang=en Mentioned: Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show 2024 announcement: https://www.instagram.com/p/C9zm-sduXqw/ ACOTAR (A Court of Thorns and Roses) by Sara J. Maas: https://a.co/d/hOGKrDP Many Lives, Many Masters by Brian L. Weiss: https://a.co/d/cfCEKVf Shop my look from this episode: https://liketk.it/4MFHp What We Talked About: 00:00 Intro 03:02 The story behind the haircut 06:18 Scouted to model 10:50 Modeling at 14 11:52 Studying wasn’t for me 14:40 Family support 16:55 What’s your pivotal moment? 20:37 Identity crisis 23:08 Confidence in the runway 27:20 Project with Victoria Secret 29:32 Conforming to body standards 33:39 The body constantly changes 37:52 Losing Tate 47:52 Unplanned pregnancy & loss  59:22 Lessons from my loss 01:00:40 Therapy and healing 01:02:35 Write out where you’re at emotionally 01:06:08 Tate and Taylor 01:12:21 What’s your favorite book? Disclaimer: The links in this description are sponsor or affiliate links. If you make a purchase through these links I may earn a credit or commission at no additional cost to you.Medical Disclaimer: The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast is at the user’s own risk. The content of this podcast is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their health care professionals for any such conditions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is brought to you by the following: Hiya: We've worked out a special deal with Hiya for their best selling children's vitamin. Receive 50% off your first order at https://www.hiyahealth.com/VALERIAIn today’s solo episode, join me as I open up about experiencing my first panic attack, a terrifying moment that left me feeling completely vulnerable. I walk you through the intense buildup of stress from work, personal life, and underlying health anxieties that led to this overwhelming experience. Ignoring my body’s warning signs and pushing through the stress ultimately brought me to this breaking point, forcing me to reassess how I approach my mental health.I share my journey of recovery, exploring different methods to manage stress, including hypnotherapy, which has been incredibly impactful for me. I also emphasize the importance of being mindful of our mental well-being and avoiding the normalization of anxiety and overwhelm, especially for women. Through this episode, I hope to inspire you to prioritize your mental health and find healthier ways to cope with life’s pressures.Shop my look from this episode: https://liketk.it/4Neh5 Valeria is on:https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWkDFq1pO7YNzifE3A4UsMA https://www.tiktok.com/@valeria.lipovetsky Not Alone PodcastWhat We Talked About: 00:00 Intro 02:36 My first panic attack 06:13 Full body scan & my brain cyst  08:47 Neglecting my health 14:59 Women deal with panic attacks a lot 16:49 Dealing with stress positively 20:02 Hypnotherapy 24:58 Don’t take life too seriously 29:20 Mental health awareness Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is brought to you by the following: K12: Go to https://www.K12.com/VALERIA today to learn more and find a tuition-free K12-powered school near you Creator Method: Head to https://www.creatormethod.com and join our thriving community today.  Use promo code NOTALONE at checkout to get 10% off your first year of Creator Method membership.In this episode, Valeria sits down with Dr. Aviva Romm, a renowned integrative physician, midwife, and herbalist, to dive deep into the complexities of women's hormonal health. They explore the controversial topic of birth control, discussing the widespread misinformation and the varied perspectives on its use. Dr. Romm provides insights into the benefits and risks of hormonal contraceptives, emphasizing the importance of understanding one's body and making informed decisions. The conversation extends into a broader discussion on how women can reclaim control over their health through natural methods, proper education, and integrative approaches that encompass diet, lifestyle, and reducing exposure to environmental toxins.Dr. Aviva Romm brings decades of experience in holistic medicine, blending her extensive knowledge of conventional medicine with herbalism and midwifery. As an author of several books on women's health, including the acclaimed "Hormone Intelligence," Dr. Romm has become a trusted voice for women seeking to understand and balance their hormones naturally. Throughout the episode, she emphasizes the importance of self-advocacy in healthcare and offers practical advice on how women can better support their hormonal health through informed choices and by reconnecting with their bodies.Aviva is on:https://www.instagram.com/dr.avivaromm/  https://avivaromm.com/ Resources: Hormone Intelligence by Dr. Aviva Romm: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0062796216?linkCode=ssc&tag=onamzvaler076-20&creativeASIN=0062796216&asc_item-id=amzn1.ideas.2IANCXZE2RU26&ref_=aip_sf_list_spv_ofs_mixed_d_asin Women Who Run With Wolves: https://a.co/d/4kWjO1N Parsley Health: https://www.parsleyhealth.com/ One Medical: https://www.onemedical.com/ Natural Cycles App: https://www.naturalcycles.com/ Oura Ring: https://rstyle.me/+Grxs2U3cuyRA6ZbirigVVA?li=47a8c5f9-504d-11ef-b768-0242ac11000d&lpm=EXACT&pt=timeline&__cid=1144&l=en&p=explore-displayName-posts-id&r=explore-displayName&rr=explore-displayName-posts-id&vid=1e59ed37-2e05-4a37-86c7-d4d8dd061193&hpd=false Shop my look from this episode: https://liketk.it/4JbzW **Medical Disclaimer: The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast is at the user’s own risk. The content of this podcast is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their health care professionals for any such conditions. What We Talked About: 00:00 Intro 02:43 Birth control pills 09:16 Women healthcare 15:51 The pill is just a band-aid 16:36 Overriding normal hormonal cycle 18:48 Post-pill transition 21:34 Balanced hormone 27:21 Can’t heal if you can’t feel 29:00 Is PMS real?  31:14 Self-diagnosed PMS 33:05 Hormones and emotions 38:25 How to take care of yourself as a woman? 40:00 Happy mothers matter 41:40 How to reclaim your wild self 46:09 Understand your menstrual cycle 51:20 Detoxing 57:14 Other contraception options 01:01:32 Contraceptives for men 01:03:50 Information sharing online 01:0:07 Where to find Aviva Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is brought to you by the following: Pique: Head over to https://www.piquelife.com/valeria to get 15% off plus free shipping FOR LIFE, AND receive Pique’s starter kit. Green Chef: Go to https://www.greenchef.com/valeriaclass for 50% off your first box + 50 FREE Credits with ClassPass! Hiya: Receive 50% off your first order of Hiya’s best selling children's vitamin. To claim this deal you go to www.hiyahealth.com/VALERIA.  Valeria chats with Nicole Lapin, a financial expert, author, and former anchor for CNN and CNBC. Nicole shares her incredible journey from growing up in an immigrant family with no financial knowledge to becoming a top voice in personal finance. She talks about her early struggles, how she learned about money on the job, and the importance of making finance understandable for everyone.Nicole highlights why financial independence is crucial, especially for women. She discusses overcoming financial trauma, the need for financial education in schools, and the power of managing your own money. With personal stories and practical tips, Nicole encourages listeners to see financial challenges as opportunities for growth. Tune in for an inspiring conversation filled with valuable insights from Nicole Lapin's journey.Nicole Lapin is the New York Times and Wall Street Journal Bestselling author of Rich Bitch, Boss Bitch, Becoming Super Woman and Miss Independent. She has been an anchor on CNN, CNBC and Bloomberg as well as the host of the business reality competition show, "Hatched" that aired on the CW for the first season and CBS for the second. She is the founder of Money News Network, a pioneer business- and finance-focused podcast network, which is the home of her daily show “Money Rehab” that reached #1 on Apple’s business charts as well as “Help Wanted” that she co-hosts with the editor-in-chief of Entrepreneur Magazine Jason Feifer, among other shows on their slate. Mentioned:  The Money School https://a.co/d/1wMNt3P   Miss Independent https://a.co/d/4jhDGLj  Rich Bitch https://a.co/d/2RI5R1g  Becoming Superwoman https://a.co/d/5GX0Top  Rich Dad, Poor Dad https://a.co/d/aBUzzHH  Professor Galloway https://www.instagram.com/profgalloway/  Ben Higgins Money Rehab Episode https://open.spotify.com/episode/0L6aLVwvjDLv2aFv3WmONW?si=I2kLvU9DQkWoHN27NavVOA  Shop my look from this episode: https://liketk.it/4Jvd3 Nicole is on:https://www.instagram.com/nicolelapin https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/money-rehab-with-nicole-lapin/id1559564016 https://www.instagram.com/moneynews/ What We Talked About: 00:00 Intro 02:40 How did you get into finance? 05:19 Relationship with money 07:25 Changing your beliefs 12:07 Finance should be taught in school 13:51 Financial independence 21:15 What choices would you have made? 23:08 Becoming rich in all aspects of life 24:20 Impact of money on relationships 25:58 Making money as a woman 28:17 Money as a tool 31:02 Money talk in relationships 39:15 Prenup talk 41:56 Who pays for the first date? 43:58 Masculinity confusion 46:31 Be clear about what you want 48:41 Money is what you make it 50:40 The funny email story 55:20 Rich Bitch, Boss Bitch 01:02:16 Money is the language 01:06:35 Women in finance 01:10:40 The future of feminism 01:13:54 Future for Money News Network Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is brought to you by the following: Better Help: Stop comparing and start focusing, with BetterHelp. Visit https://www.betterhelp.com/notalone today to get 10% off your first month.K12: Go to www.K12.com/VALERIA today to learn more and find a tuition-free K12-powered school near you Today is a special day for Gary and Valeria as they celebrate their anniversary with a sweet and heartfelt conversation. They laugh about their audience's reactions to funny and controversial topics from past episodes, and how they enjoy showing their real, sometimes differing, opinions. They emphasize the importance of good communication and understanding each other's boundaries to keep their relationship strong. They also discuss their feelings about gifts, preferring meaningful gestures over material things. Gary talks about taking risks and seizing opportunities, and Valeria appreciates how he has helped her grow. They reflect on what it means to be a power couple and the importance of being authentic. Valeria opens up about embracing her past and sharing her story to connect with others. Overall, it’s a genuine and heartfelt look into their life together.Mentioned: Mesh shoes clip: https://www.instagram.com/p/C8zlO4oJhne/ Feather tickling clip: https://www.instagram.com/p/C8KxrblOmLO/ Feather episode full video: https://youtu.be/0dppdPulrhY Jake podcast clip: https://www.instagram.com/p/C7rVE1qxfif/ Viola Davis quote: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2J0l8_prEbo Valeria meeting her biological dad vlogs: https://youtu.be/Ho_5YisGHyU | https://youtu.be/FYhdTvyavoU | https://youtu.be/9_6xEEjH3bw The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness by Johnathan Haidt https://a.co/d/gP3BDL5 Shop my look from this episode: https://liketk.it/4LWtl Gary is on:https://www.instagram.com/garylipovetskyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKHLJJd07IhT9DPhxsY-EYg https://www.tiktok.com/@garylipovetsky https://www.linkedin.com/in/garylipovetsky/ What We Talked About: 00:00 Intro 00:29 The mesh shoes at the airport 03:30 Real couple interactions 06:10 Triggering the deep-seated wounds 11:20 Healthy conflict resolution 16:47 Have you ever hated your partner so much? 20:28 Gift giving 24:15 Would you buy me a gift? 27:44 Taking risks as a couple 30:09 A sense of urgency 38:43 Meeting my biological dad 41:01 Are you defined by your past?  42:39 Not being defined by how much you spend 47:59 Luxury brands marketing strategies 49:57 Trust is crucial in marriage 57:06 Take care of each other 01:00:26 Sitting down and talking with your kids 01:01:37 Kids and exposure on social media 01:05:28 Putting value on metrics 01:10:32 The Anxious Generation 01:13:10 Where are the flowers? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices