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Not Alone

Comfort to Chaos: Still Risking After 12 Years of Marriage

Jul 30, 2024
01:17:18

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Today is a special day for Gary and Valeria as they celebrate their anniversary with a sweet and heartfelt conversation. They laugh about their audience's reactions to funny and controversial topics from past episodes, and how they enjoy showing their real, sometimes differing, opinions. They emphasize the importance of good communication and understanding each other's boundaries to keep their relationship strong. 


They also discuss their feelings about gifts, preferring meaningful gestures over material things. Gary talks about taking risks and seizing opportunities, and Valeria appreciates how he has helped her grow. They reflect on what it means to be a power couple and the importance of being authentic. Valeria opens up about embracing her past and sharing her story to connect with others. Overall, it’s a genuine and heartfelt look into their life together.


Mentioned: 

Mesh shoes clip: https://www.instagram.com/p/C8zlO4oJhne/ 

Feather tickling clip: https://www.instagram.com/p/C8KxrblOmLO/ 

Feather episode full video: https://youtu.be/0dppdPulrhY 

Jake podcast clip: https://www.instagram.com/p/C7rVE1qxfif/ 

Viola Davis quote: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2J0l8_prEbo 

Valeria meeting her biological dad vlogs: https://youtu.be/Ho_5YisGHyU | https://youtu.be/FYhdTvyavoU | https://youtu.be/9_6xEEjH3bw 

The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness by Johnathan Haidt https://a.co/d/gP3BDL5 


Shop my look from this episode: https://liketk.it/4LWtl 


Gary is on:

https://www.instagram.com/garylipovetsky

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKHLJJd07IhT9DPhxsY-EYg 

https://www.tiktok.com/@garylipovetsky 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/garylipovetsky/ 


What We Talked About:

  • 00:00 Intro
  • 00:29 The mesh shoes at the airport
  • 03:30 Real couple interactions
  • 06:10 Triggering the deep-seated wounds
  • 11:20 Healthy conflict resolution
  • 16:47 Have you ever hated your partner so much?
  • 20:28 Gift giving
  • 24:15 Would you buy me a gift?
  • 27:44 Taking risks as a couple
  • 30:09 A sense of urgency
  • 38:43 Meeting my biological dad
  • 41:01 Are you defined by your past? 
  • 42:39 Not being defined by how much you spend
  • 47:59 Luxury brands marketing strategies
  • 49:57 Trust is crucial in marriage
  • 57:06 Take care of each other
  • 01:00:26 Sitting down and talking with your kids
  • 01:01:37 Kids and exposure on social media
  • 01:05:28 Putting value on metrics
  • 01:10:32 The Anxious Generation
  • 01:13:10 Where are the flowers?


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