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This week, Lina goes straight into what it feels like to find a new Dom(me)–what it means to navigate the feels of frenzy and swooning, and is it possible to balance leaning in and not overextending yourself? (Spoiler alert: it is!) She also covers the basics of subspace, the power and security of Safe Words, what nonverbal Safe Words can look like in practice, and why the word "No" is so intense and scary sometimes. And finally, Lina yells from the top of the BDSM mountain that there is 👏🏻not👏🏻a👏🏻top👏🏻shortage! Kissing some frogs is just part of the process and that's okay! Your Brain On BDSM (Vice) Have a question about BDSM, sex, dating, relationships, Dom/sub dynamics, and anything else you'd like to ask Lina? Submit yours by emailing a voice memo to podcast@askasub.com - there is no question too bizarre or too basic! Still thirsty for community? Join us on the Ask a Sub Patreon and have access to the most wholesome and kinky discord community! Check it out over at www.patreon.com/askasub Get 50% off your first month of Isabella Frappier's Eros Workshop Membership with code ASKASUBEROS at https://isabella-frappier.teachable.com/p/eros-workshops-membership Get 20% off Lina's Conscious Kink course with code PODCAST at checkout https://www.askasub.com/conscious-kink You can follow Lina over at @askasub on both Instagram and Twitter! Make sure to subscribe, drop us a 5-star rating, and tell all your filthy friends about the show! Host, Producer - Lina Dune | Producer, Editor - Stella Hartmann | Producer, Research - Caroline Stephens | Music - Dan Molad Art by Kayleigh Denner

On this week's episode, Lina tackles the foundational questions of who are Dom(me)s? What do they get out of D/s, and how does trauma play into everything? What about Fake Doms? What are they and how does one *not* be a Fake Dom–especially on dating apps? And finally, Lina addresses the age old question: can you be a feminist *and* a submissive? 💖 Let us be the part of society that tells you your kinks are okay, your wants are valid and they can be so, so much fun! Have a question about BDSM, sex, dating, relationships, Dom/sub dynamics, and anything else you'd like to ask Lina? Submit yours by emailing a voice memo to podcast@askasub.com - there is no question too bizarre or too basic! Still thirsty for community? Join us on the Ask a Sub Patreon and have access to the most wholesome and kinky discord community! Check it out over at www.patreon.com/askasub Get 20% off Lina's Conscious Kink course with code PODCAST at checkout https://www.askasub.com/conscious-kink To learn more about the Armie Hammer Sitch– https://www.bitchmedia.org/article/armie-hammer-cannibal-jokes-hide-abuse-allegations You can follow Lina over at @askasub on both Instagram and Twitter! Make sure to subscribe, drop us a 5-star rating, and tell all your filthy friends about the show! Host, Producer - Lina Dune | Producer, Editor - Stella Hartmann | Producer, Research - Caroline Stephens | Music - Dan Molad

Explore the significance of aftercare and emotional safety in casual relationships. Discover fun scripts and strategies to ask for aftercare without feeling awkward. Dive into brat play and how it enhances D/s dynamics, and learn the difference between playful punishments and serious rules. Uncover the nuances of 24/7 D/s compared to vanilla relationships, and confront society's 'vanilla misery fetish.' Your kinks are valid, and embracing them can be a delightful journey!

​​Ready to demystify kink and head out into the world? In this episode, Lina talks about her own history with submission and how she decided 24/7 lifestyle D/s was for her. What do you do if you know you're kinky but not sure what comes next? What about that important thing called aftercare? Lina goes over the basics, the nuances of orgasm control, and also how to enter the dating world as a third looking for respectful, fulfilling and fun play. 💖 Let us be the part of society that tells you your kinks are okay, your wants are valid and they can be so, so much fun! Have a question about BDSM, sex, dating, relationships, Dom/sub dynamics, and anything else you'd like to ask Lina? Submit your q's at www.askasub.com/podcast - there is no question too bizarre or too basic! Get 10% off your first order at Momotaro Apotheca with code "SUBPODCAST" - www.momotaroapotheca.com Still thirsty for community? Join us on Patreon and get access to the most wholesome and kinky discord community! Check it out over at www.patreon.com/askasub You can follow Lina over at @askasub on both Instagram and Twitter Make sure to subscribe, drop us a 5-star rating, and tell all your filthy friends about the show! Host, Producer - Lina Dune | Producer, Editor - Stella Hartmann | Producer, Research - Caroline Stephens | Music - Dan Molad Artwork - Kayleigh Denner