ask a sub 2. Aftercare, Mindful Bratting, & The Vanilla Misery Fetish
Aug 26, 2021
Explore the significance of aftercare and emotional safety in casual relationships. Discover fun scripts and strategies to ask for aftercare without feeling awkward. Dive into brat play and how it enhances D/s dynamics, and learn the difference between playful punishments and serious rules. Uncover the nuances of 24/7 D/s compared to vanilla relationships, and confront society's 'vanilla misery fetish.' Your kinks are valid, and embracing them can be a delightful journey!
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Bring Aftercare Into Casual Encounters
- Ask for aftercare before sex so your emotional needs are supported afterwards.
- Propose simple actions like cuddling, water, snacks, or calming music to normalize it with casual partners.
Aftercare Is A Universal Safety Tool
- Aftercare isn't inherently kinky; it's a safeguard for emotional safety used often in kink.
- Normalizing aftercare creates a reliable container that enables more playful and intense sexual experiences.
Use Aftercare As A Litmus Test
- If a partner reacts shamefully when you request aftercare, treat that as a red flag and stop.
- Use aftercare requests as a litmus test for a partner's willingness to be respectful and attentive.
