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I'm SO sick of "having nothing to wear"... I’ve been going through a wardrobe crisis lately—I dread getting dressed, and despite having way too many clothes, I never feel like my wardrobe reflects who I am. I feel disconnected from my style and the things I buy, and I'm not the only one. Hitting different life stages and engaging in a cycle of overconsumption—buying more but feeling less satisfied—has left a lot of us without a clear sense of style and identity. Today, we’re tackling both issues: how to define your personal style with confidence, and how to cut down on mindless shopping and fast fashion.I’m joined by Conni Jespersen, educational wardrobe stylist and founder of Art in the Find, who has spent over a decade helping people craft intentional wardrobes, edit their closets, and break free from excessive consumption. Through her Signature Style Method Course, she helps clients edit their closets and uncover their unique style.We uncover how to build a wardrobe that truly feels like you—without the stress, overconsumption, or pressure to keep up with trends. If you’re over impulse buying, feeling lost in your personal style, or staring at a closet full of clothes with “nothing to wear"... we gotchu. Conni has kindly given Teach Me How To Adult listeners a discount on her Signature Style Method Course (which has helped me SO much in understanding the elements of my personal style), so if you’re ready to revamp your wardrobe, check it out here and use the discount code style10 for 10% off. Tune in as we talk about:✨ The 5 key elements of personal style: personality, lifestyle, preferences, environment, and influences✨ How to balance timeless basics with trendy statement pieces✨ How to shop smarter, avoid overconsumption, and stop impulse buying✨ The true cost of overconsumption—on our confidence, wallets, and the environment✨ Closet organization tips to maximize wearability and identify wardrobe gaps✨ How to shop your own closet and re-style pieces you already own✨ Secondhand shopping tips to embrace sustainability and cut down on fast fashion✨ When to tailor or edit down your wardrobe to make it truly work for youFollow Conni:@artinthefindartinthefind.com Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

A lot of us go through life avoiding our feelings — but experiencing our full spectrum of emotions is the key to living a full, authentic life. Whether you're an empath who feels everything deeply, struggling with heartbreak, or working through past wounds, embracing your sensitivity can be your greatest strength. After all, our grief is just a representation of how deeply we love.In this all-time favourite throwback episode, we explore how to process emotions in a healthy way, break free from fear, and find your authentic voice with bestselling poet, author and incredibly wise friend, Allie Michelle.Allie captures the depths of human emotion through her beautiful writing and spoken word. Allie is one of my favourite poets, and her latest fantasy novel, Legends of Lemuria, is out now on Thought Catalog! She  runs Pen 2 Publish, a program to help writers create, publish and market their books. Allie co-founded a community for mental health and wellness called We Are Warriors, and she's also a certified meditation, breathwork and yoga teacher.Tune in as we explore:✅ How to feel deeply without drowning in emotions✅ The difference between healthy vs. unhealthy empathy✅ Inner child work and emotional healing✅ The power of embracing heartbreak as transformation✅ How to turn fear into a compass instead of a roadblock✅ Finding your voice as a writer and storyteller✅ Allie’s hot take on overcoming writer’s block✅ Showing up as your most raw, unmasked self✅ The art of deep breathing and mindfulnessIf you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by your emotions or struggled to own your sensitivity, this conversation will remind you that your softness is your strength."Break my heartbreak it so wide openthat the whole worldcan fit in between the pieces."  — Allie MichelleOrder Allie's book, Legends of LemuriaFollow Allie on InstagramFollow Allie on TikTokWatch Allie's live performance of her poem shared in this episode. For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

What would you do if failure was impossible? What's something you've always wanted to do, but never find "the right time"? To answer these questions, I started one little list in January, and it has completely changed my life. We all know about bucket lists — but what if the real game-changer isn’t chasing what excites you, but confronting what scares you? Enter: The Fear List.Fear has been in the driver's seat of my life for too long, and I realized during my January meltdown, that my avoidance of discomfort and rejection were directly impacting my happiness and growth. Most of the things I was depressed about in my life could be traced to fear-based avoidance and inaction. That's why I created the fear list — it helps you rewire your brain to stop self-rejecting before you even try. Think of it like exposure therapy... this list of things will create proof that you can do scary things, and the more small uncomfortable things you do, the less scary the big things will feel. This episode is all about breaking out of fear-based paralysis and taking action on the things that hold you back. If you’ve been feeling stuck, playing small, or letting fear dictate your choices—this is your sign to flip the script.In this episode, I cover:✅ How my fear has kept me stuck in life, love, and career✅ The connection between fear, anxiety, and perfectionism✅ Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) and why some of us with ADHD/neurodivergence fear rejection more✅ The power of exposure therapy and why courage is a muscle✅ How to create your own Fear List to build confidence, resilience, and momentum✅ Questions that will help you brainstorm your fear list✅ Getting honest with yourself about the stories you’re telling yourself✅ Easy examples of things you can include on your fear list✅ What’s on my list, and the wins I’ve already tackled (LITERALLY LIFE-CHANGING)✅ Why staying accountable and tracking your progress gamifies fear and makes it fun Remember: "The risk you’re afraid to take, could be the one that changes your entire life."For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to this week’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. The economy feels more unstable than my high school experience, and we could all use some extra cash to battle inflation and prepare for the potential incoming tariffs. So we're throwing it back to the ultimate lesson in working smarter, not harder, from finance expert Nicole Victoria. Her top tip for making more money, without working harder? Negotiate your bills down and funnel the extra cash into passive income streams, so we can earn cash while we sleep. Nicole is a CEO, money coach and financial literacy advocate Nicole Victoria AKA No Budget Babe, who specializes in helping millennial and gen-z women effortlessly manage their money and build bank accounts that never stop growing.Listen to our full episode with Nicole Victoria of No Budget Babe here!Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Nicole:No Budget BabeInstagram: @NobudgetbabeTikTok: @nobudgetbabeFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

After a tough start to the year—dealing with illness, isolation, and a full-on birthday-induced spiral—I knew I needed to make big, immediate changes to pull myself out of a depressive rut. It was time for a full reset.If you’re feeling stuck, lonely, struggling with seasonal depression, or just lacking motivation and positivity, this episode is your roadmap to breaking free from the cycle and taking control of your mental wellbeing. I’m sharing the 10 game-changing shifts and habits that have worked for me and helped me feel like myself again after a month of testing.Tune in to hear about:The #1 most important step to stop isolating and ask for helpHow mindfulness, breathwork, and cold therapy can rewire your moodThe journaling practice that helps you take control of your happinessWhy exercise (without punishment) is a powerful antidepressantThe one daily habit that can instantly break a depressive cycleHow to reset your circadian rhythm to fix insomnia and energy dipsWhy we need to limit social media scrolling, Netflix binging, and cheap dopamineScience-backed supplements to combat seasonal affective disorder and support mental healthThe unexpected way creativity can help you heal and calm anxietyWhy human touch matters for mental wellbeing (and how to get it—even without a partner)Setting realistic goals for your mental health progressSunnier days are ahead so keep going, and please tell someone if you’re struggling. I love you guys, you got this.For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Happy Valentine’s Day, lovers! I hope you are getting showered in love, by someone else or yourself. Whether you’re single and ready to mingle, or in a long-term relationship, I’ve been thinking about how—no matter our relationship status—we all seem to wrestle with the same thoughts: Am I too much? Am I too needy, or should I express my needs more? How can I communicate better? How do I find balance in my relationships? How do I work toward secure attachmentsThankfully, over the years, I’ve had incredible relationship experts and therapists on this podcast who have tackled these very questions. So today, I’m bringing you a roundup of the best relationship advice I’ve learned from three amazing guests.Tune in to hear from:❤️ Dr. Morgan Cutlip, Relationship expert and PhD in Psychology: How to find balance and reciprocity in relationships, communicate your needs effectively, and understand the difference between neediness and fair expectations. (Listen to our full episode here)❤️ Liz Earnshaw, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist: Expert strategies for conflict resolution and communication, including how to handle Gottman’s Four Horsemen and navigating common power struggles in relationships. (Listen to our full episode here)❤️ Jess Baum, Psychotherapist, Couples Counselor, & Author of Anxiously Attached: How our attachment styles are amplified or healed based on your relationship, breaking our anxious attachment patterns and prioritizing consistent love, recognizing red and green flags in chemistry, and moving from codependency to interdependence. (Listen to our full episode here)Wherever you are in your relationship journey… I love you guys. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. Valentine’s Day can be triggering if you’re dealing with heartbreak or loneliness. But we’re in our era of embracing singleness and romancing our damn selves.So tune in as we throw it back to the best practical ad emotional tips from our episode on how to date yourself. Because you don’t need to wait for the perfect relationship to start living a life you love. That perfect relationship should be the one you have with yourself.Join as we share the beauty of solo dating, learning to fulfill your own needs, how to give yourself your own love language, and practicing the art of self-love (in a non-capitalist way that doesn’t involve buying expensive candles and facials!).I hope this reminds you to give yourself the love you deserve. I love you guys.Listen to the full episode with here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

We’re bringing you more than just the tip this week, so I highly recommend watching today’s episode on Spotify or YouTube to experience the visuals and product recommendations — if you’re not subscribed on Spotify and YouTube, go there now!Happy hump day friends, and welcome back to another episode of “No Dumb Questions,” where I answer allll your burning Qs… because there are no dumb questions when it comes to adulting.To kick off love month and Valentine’s Day, we’re doing a spicy Q&A on all things sex. Because whether you’re in a relationship, dating around, or single AF, we all deserve pleasure.You all voted YES on Instagram, so I delivered… I’m showing you the best props and toys on the market, and how to use them to spice up your sex life. Trust me, it’s a vibe(rator).In this episode, I answer all your juicy questions, including:Tips for hot dirty talk (without it feeling awkward or forced)How to tell if your partner is faking an orgasmHow to have honest, trusting communication about your desiresMy top sex toys recos (from glass to silicone to metal of all shapes and sizes)What to do if the guy you’re into is… hella smallForeplay hacks that will level up your pleasureAdvice for if your man has performance anxietyPositions for best stimulation and how to orgasm on topTips to incorporate sex swingsThe key to having a healthy sex life without dating appsMy (toxic) case for recycling loversGo forth and get some! Love you.Listen to more helpful sex episodes:Episode 52: How To Spice Up Your Sex Life Episode 64: How To Own My Orgasms and Pleasure, with Sex Coach Portia BrownEpisode 198: Should I use toys in the bedroom? Why is my partner never in the mood? Tips for threesomes?For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. If you're feeling unsatisfied or incomplete in your love life, there’s more than one way to engage in sex, love, and relationships. But what does that look like? And how do we navigate alternative relationship styles that honour our desire and respect our partner's boundaries? We're throwing it back to this insightful and vulnerable advice from Hayley Folk, a sex writer on a mission to create safe spaces to talk about sex and pleasure.Hayley's work has appeared in magazines like Cosmopolitan, Refinery29, Elite Daily, and more. She’s the founder of Naked Folk, a publication and podcast that covers the uncomfortable conversations we should be having about sex and relationships. Listen to our full episode with Hayley here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Hayley:https://www.instagram.com/hayley.folk/?hl=enhttps://www.nakedfolk.comhttps://www.instagram.com/nakedfolk/?hl=en Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

As a conflict-avoidant people-pleaser, I have a story in my head that I don’t like the stress and pressure of being a manager. Delegating is hard, and giving feedback is uncomfortable. But that mindset has held me back from hiring, scaling, and taking my dreams to the next level.I know I’m not alone in this. A lot of us end up being managers over the course of our careers, but we’re never taught how to be LEADERS — and there’s a big difference. So I called in business mentor, entrepreneur and best-selling author Kelly Roach to help me navigate my limiting beliefs around hiring, leading better, and investing in a high performing team.Kelly is a former Fortune 500 Executive turned multi-million dollar entrepreneur/CEO, and founder of Kelly Roach Coaching, an 8-figure coaching and consulting company for entrepreneurs who are disrupting industries and scaling their dreams. For the past decade, she’s disrupted the coaching space, built a top-ranked podcast, appeared as an expert for outlets like ABC and NBC, and helped hundreds of entrepreneurs create their dream lives. She’s published multiple bestselling books, including Bigger Than You - The Entrepreneur’s Guide to building An Unstoppable Team.Tune in as we chat about:The key pillars that differentiate a good leader from just a managerHow to retain top talent in your businessThe biggest communication issues and mistakes she sees amongst leadersWhy some managers micromanageLimiting beliefs that hold leaders back from successHow to know when to hire, and who to hire?!Spotting red flags in the hiring process Game-changing interview questions to ask when hiring How to know when to fire someone Communication tips for giving constructive feedbackHow to measure team performance and coachability Follow Kelly on Instagram and on her website.Listen to The Kelly Roach showRead Kelly's best-selling booksFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube