Teach Me How To Adult

This episode is for anyone who's tired of outdated dating “rules” that don’t reflect who they are and how we actually connect in 2025. I’ve recently dipped my toe back into the dating world, and the amount of toxic “rules” and overly-perscriptive advice floating around online is wild.So today, I’m sharing my hot takes and unconventional dating perspectives to prioritize authenticity, connection, and your dating goals — without all the games.Whether you’re dating for fun, looking for your forever person, or navigating something in between, this episode is a guide to more connected, conscious, and actually authentic dating. If you feel drained by casual dating culture, the fast food nature of apps, mixed signals and fuckboy energy, and attention-seeking games… keep. listening.We’re debunking relationship myths like:Why “keep the first date short” might be killing genuine connectionWhy women shouldn’t always wait to be pursuedWhy “play it cool” and “keep it casual” isn’t always the vibeThe truth about when to have sexShould you talk about your exes on a date?When you should consider exclusivityHow to use intentional conversations, clarity, vulnerability, and feedback to create deeper intimacy Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. In honour of earth day, we're taking a look at the cost of fast fashion, our consumption habits, and how we can become more sustainable consumers.We're throwing it back to this perspective-shifting advice on overconsumption with Conni Jespersen, as she explains the impact of overconsumption on our confidence, wallets, and the environment, and how self-accountability for the lifespan of every product we purchase can help end impulse shopping. Conni is an educational wardrobe stylist and founder of Art in the Find. She has spent over a decade helping people craft intentional wardrobes, edit their closets, and break free from excessive consumption. Through her Signature Style Method Course, she helps clients edit their closets and uncover their unique style.Conni has kindly given Teach Me How To Adult listeners a discount on her Signature Style Method Course (which has helped me SO much in understanding the elements of my personal style), so if you’re ready to revamp your wardrobe, check it out here and use the discount code style10 for 10% off. Listen to the full episode here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Conni:@artinthefindartinthefind.com Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Emily Durham, known as Emily the Recruiter, brings her no-nonsense career coaching wisdom to the discussion. She tackles the signs of a toxic workplace and the tricky balance between quitting or hanging on during economic uncertainty. Emily dives into strategies for dealing with bad bosses and the importance of setting boundaries. Listeners learn how to provide constructive feedback and manage workplace drama effectively. With a focus on authenticity in an AI-driven world, she empowers individuals to embrace vulnerability and navigate career challenges with confidence.

Do you ever feel paralyzed by indecision, stuck in a loop of self-doubt, decision overwhelm, and perfectionism? Welcome to the club! We know what it’s like, and what it takes to get unstuck.Whether you're facing a career crossroads, struggling to start a creative project, or battling the incessant inner monologue of your monkey mind, this episode is here to help.I’m joined by my friend and brilliant coach, Sasha Patpatia, a multidisciplinary artist, writer, and board-certified career coach for creatives. Sasha has helped me navigate pivotal moments in my career, and equipped me with mindset tools I still use to move from overthinking to action.Some brain chemistry-altering quotes from Sasha in today’s episode:“It is only the friction between where you are and where you want to be — which is called tension — that shuts us down and makes us feel stuck.”“Our definition of success is doing what I said I would do, with clarity, focus, ease & grace.”If you're feeling stuck, lost, or burnt out, join us for a deep look at how to overcome mental blocks and move forward in alignment with your purpose.Tune in to hear more about:✅ How to get unstuck, use stuckness as data, and take consistent action.✅ Overcoming decision paralysis with a three-part choice and decision reframe (that takes the pressure off!). ✅ Dealing with self-doubt and monkey mind: Navigating excuses and negativity bias without judgment.✅ The myth of motivation: Stop waiting for the “right time”!✅ Reframing our idea of success and failure✅ What’s behind creative burnout?✅ How to find the right career coach✅ The power of emotional regulation, + a combined approach of mindset coaching and somatic bodyworkJust remember, ready is not a feeling, it’s a decision. You’ve got this.Follow Sasha: https://www.sashapatpatia.com/For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. In honour of earth month, we're taking a look at our consumption habits and how we can lower our carbon footprint in a way that's actually sustainable.So we're throwing it back to tactical advice on sustainable living, with "accidental environmentalist" Jules Grieve. It's easy to let perfect become the enemy of good (sustainability is a game of progress over perfection) so we cover doable ways to cut out plastic and reduce waste, the truth about recycling, and how to change our water consumption. Julia is a TV personality, entrepreneur, fashion designer, former international model, and founder of the incredible Preloved, North America’s leading sustainable fashion brand that has diverted over a million sweaters from landfills. She’s CityLine’s eco expert and regularly appears on Global News and in Canada’s biggest media outlets. Her mission is to show people how simple changes, over time, can have a huge impact, and she’s showing the world how we can take an eco-friendly approach to home design, health, food, fashion and lifestyle. Listen to the full episode here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Julia:@prelovedjulesjuliagrieve.cagetpreloved.com Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Feeling constantly busy but not actually making progress? Struggling with overwhelm, burnout, and an endless to-do list? Honestly, same.I’ve been stuck in an overwhelming cycle of too much work and not enough impact, so I started experimenting with different productivity hacks—and this week I’m sharing one that’s really helping.We’re diving into the 80/20 Rule—also known as the Pareto Principle—a game-changing productivity method that helps you work smarter, not harder by focusing on the tasks that actually move the needle.The Pareto Principle isn’t just a theory; it applies to work, relationships, finances, and general productivity so you can ditch busywork and operate in your zone of genius.Ready to break free from the grind? Tune in to hear about:✅ How to apply the 80/20 rule to your work and daily tasks✅ The difference between being “busy” vs. being productive✅ How to identify and prioritize high-impact tasks to maximize your productivity and efficiency✅ How to stop wasting time and operate in your zone of genius✅ Why urgency doesn’t always mean importance✅ How this principle improves relationships, finances, style, and moreI hope this helps you take back control of your time and break free from burnout!For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. Your network is everything. The way you establish and nurture your own network and reputation can make all the difference in your career success, so we're throwing it back to this great advice from Maha Abouelenein on how to add value to your unique network. Maha Abouelenein is a strategic communication and personal branding expert who has handled communications for some of world’s largest tech companies in the Middle East - from Google and Netflix to Udacity and Weber Shandwick, along with promotions and sports marketing programs for the Olympics, NASCAR, Women’s Hockey, and the NFL.Maha consulted on strategic communications with the Obama administration and has worked with powerhouses like Gary Vaynerchuk and Deepak Chopra. She was honored as one of the most influential women in Dubai, and nominated as of one of Forbes Power Women of the Middle East. She’s the CEO of Digital & Savvy, host of the Savvy Talk podcast, and Best-Selling Author of "7 Rules of Self-Reliance”.Listen to our full episode with Maha here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Maha on Instagram and on her website.Listen to Maha's Podcast, Savvy Talk.Order Maha's book, 7 Rules of Self-Reliance Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Feeling overwhelmed by constant negative news? You're not alone! Discover how 'headline stress disorder' affects mental health and learn strategies to consume news without anxiety. Explore the importance of reliable sources and mindful media habits. Find out how social media algorithms can fuel fear and how to reclaim your focus. Most importantly, seek out uplifting stories to nurture hope and resilience in a chaotic world. Tune in for practical tips on managing news intake while protecting your mental well-being!

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. If you want to rewire your relationship with money and move into an abundant (and informed) financial chapter, we're throwing it back to this helpful reminder from financial coach Nicole Stanley. A healthy money mindset is the missing ingredient for a lot of people's financial security. Nicole reminds us that "Money is just a magnifier of who you already are" - so our habits, beliefs, and relationship to money right now will dictate how we approach our financial goals for life. Nicole Stanley is the Founder & Head Financial Coach of Arise Financial Coaching. After battling crippling financial anxiety in her early twenties, Nicole enrolled in her first personal finance course and made changes to go from 30K in debt to building over a quarter-million in net worth for her family at age  27. Arise Financial Coaching has now served over 600 clients and has been featured in TIME, Yahoo Finance, & CNET.Listen to our full episode with Nicole here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Nicole:On Instagram: @arise.financial.coachingArise Financial Coaching Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

I saw a TikTok about how your toxic traits can be the exact opposite of your love language, and I CANNOT stop thinking about it. If you’re stuck in a cycle of self-sabotage, your toxic behaviours might be the inverse of your love language — aka your loathe language. 🤯In today's quickie, we’re diving into the connection between our love languages and self-destructive habits so we can recognize the patterns that hold us back. If you find yourself defaulting to isolation, negative self-talk, avoidance, deprivation, or burnout, understanding and interrupting your 'loathe language' can help you better meet your needs before you spiral.Ready to stop blocking yourself from the love and support you deserve? Tune in to hear more about:✔️ How your self-destructive habits are linked to your love language✔️ How the shadow side of quality time is isolating from loved ones✔️ Why people who value acts of service might refuse help and burn themselves out✔️ How the shadow side of physical touch is withdrawing from affection and neglecting self-care✔️ Why the shadow of receiving gifts cab turn into impulse shopping or restriction✔️ How those who value words of affirmation can spiral into self-criticism and silence✔️ How to break the cycle and give yourself the love you actually needFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube