

Teach Me How To Adult
Gillian Berner
Adulting isn't easy, but we got you. Teach Me How To Adult is a smart, unfiltered podcast on everything you never learned growing up, because let’s be honest, no one prepared us for this. Between landing your dream job, crushing your love life, learning to invest, mastering your mindset and figuring out how to be happy along the way, there’s a lot to navigate.
Join host Gillian Berner every week for expert interviews and game-changing advice on how we can all live our best lives. There’s more than one way to adult, and it is not always linear. So follow along as we figure it out together.
Join host Gillian Berner every week for expert interviews and game-changing advice on how we can all live our best lives. There’s more than one way to adult, and it is not always linear. So follow along as we figure it out together.
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Feb 24, 2025 • 5min
ICYMI: Set Up Your Income Funnel To Make More Money (Without Working Harder), with Nicole Victoria
Welcome to this week’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. The economy feels more unstable than my high school experience, and we could all use some extra cash to battle inflation and prepare for the potential incoming tariffs. So we're throwing it back to the ultimate lesson in working smarter, not harder, from finance expert Nicole Victoria. Her top tip for making more money, without working harder? Negotiate your bills down and funnel the extra cash into passive income streams, so we can earn cash while we sleep. Nicole is a CEO, money coach and financial literacy advocate Nicole Victoria AKA No Budget Babe, who specializes in helping millennial and gen-z women effortlessly manage their money and build bank accounts that never stop growing.Listen to our full episode with Nicole Victoria of No Budget Babe here!Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Nicole:No Budget BabeInstagram: @NobudgetbabeTikTok: @nobudgetbabeFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network.
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Feb 19, 2025 • 28min
10 Doable Changes To Break Out Of A Depressive Rut & Boost Your Mental Health | The Quickie
After a tough start to the year—dealing with illness, isolation, and a full-on birthday-induced spiral—I knew I needed to make big, immediate changes to pull myself out of a depressive rut. It was time for a full reset.If you’re feeling stuck, lonely, struggling with seasonal depression, or just lacking motivation and positivity, this episode is your roadmap to breaking free from the cycle and taking control of your mental wellbeing. I’m sharing the 10 game-changing shifts and habits that have worked for me and helped me feel like myself again after a month of testing.Tune in to hear about:The #1 most important step to stop isolating and ask for helpHow mindfulness, breathwork, and cold therapy can rewire your moodThe journaling practice that helps you take control of your happinessWhy exercise (without punishment) is a powerful antidepressantThe one daily habit that can instantly break a depressive cycleHow to reset your circadian rhythm to fix insomnia and energy dipsWhy we need to limit social media scrolling, Netflix binging, and cheap dopamineScience-backed supplements to combat seasonal affective disorder and support mental healthThe unexpected way creativity can help you heal and calm anxietyWhy human touch matters for mental wellbeing (and how to get it—even without a partner)Setting realistic goals for your mental health progressSunnier days are ahead so keep going, and please tell someone if you’re struggling. I love you guys, you got this.For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network.
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Feb 13, 2025 • 31min
The BEST Relationship Advice From Leading Love & Attachment Experts (From Better Communication to Chemistry & Attachment Styles)
Happy Valentine’s Day, lovers! I hope you are getting showered in love, by someone else or yourself. Whether you’re single and ready to mingle, or in a long-term relationship, I’ve been thinking about how—no matter our relationship status—we all seem to wrestle with the same thoughts: Am I too much? Am I too needy, or should I express my needs more? How can I communicate better? How do I find balance in my relationships? How do I work toward secure attachmentsThankfully, over the years, I’ve had incredible relationship experts and therapists on this podcast who have tackled these very questions. So today, I’m bringing you a roundup of the best relationship advice I’ve learned from three amazing guests.Tune in to hear from:❤️ Dr. Morgan Cutlip, Relationship expert and PhD in Psychology: How to find balance and reciprocity in relationships, communicate your needs effectively, and understand the difference between neediness and fair expectations. (Listen to our full episode here)❤️ Liz Earnshaw, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist: Expert strategies for conflict resolution and communication, including how to handle Gottman’s Four Horsemen and navigating common power struggles in relationships. (Listen to our full episode here)❤️ Jess Baum, Psychotherapist, Couples Counselor, & Author of Anxiously Attached: How our attachment styles are amplified or healed based on your relationship, breaking our anxious attachment patterns and prioritizing consistent love, recognizing red and green flags in chemistry, and moving from codependency to interdependence. (Listen to our full episode here)Wherever you are in your relationship journey… I love you guys.
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Feb 10, 2025 • 9min
ICYMI: How To Date Yourself, Embrace Your Single Era & Romanticize Your Life
Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. Valentine’s Day can be triggering if you’re dealing with heartbreak or loneliness. But we’re in our era of embracing singleness and romancing our damn selves.So tune in as we throw it back to the best practical ad emotional tips from our episode on how to date yourself. Because you don’t need to wait for the perfect relationship to start living a life you love. That perfect relationship should be the one you have with yourself.Join as we share the beauty of solo dating, learning to fulfill your own needs, how to give yourself your own love language, and practicing the art of self-love (in a non-capitalist way that doesn’t involve buying expensive candles and facials!).I hope this reminds you to give yourself the love you deserve. I love you guys.Listen to the full episode with here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.
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Feb 5, 2025 • 32min
Sex Q&A: How Do I Dirty Talk? Does Size Matter? Best Toys For Orgasm? | No Dumb Questions
We’re bringing you more than just the tip this week, so I highly recommend watching today’s episode on Spotify or YouTube to experience the visuals and product recommendations — if you’re not subscribed on Spotify and YouTube, go there now!Happy hump day friends, and welcome back to another episode of “No Dumb Questions,” where I answer allll your burning Qs… because there are no dumb questions when it comes to adulting.To kick off love month and Valentine’s Day, we’re doing a spicy Q&A on all things sex. Because whether you’re in a relationship, dating around, or single AF, we all deserve pleasure.You all voted YES on Instagram, so I delivered… I’m showing you the best props and toys on the market, and how to use them to spice up your sex life. Trust me, it’s a vibe(rator).In this episode, I answer all your juicy questions, including:Tips for hot dirty talk (without it feeling awkward or forced)How to tell if your partner is faking an orgasmHow to have honest, trusting communication about your desiresMy top sex toys recos (from glass to silicone to metal of all shapes and sizes)What to do if the guy you’re into is… hella smallForeplay hacks that will level up your pleasureAdvice for if your man has performance anxietyPositions for best stimulation and how to orgasm on topTips to incorporate sex swingsThe key to having a healthy sex life without dating appsMy (toxic) case for recycling loversGo forth and get some! Love you.Listen to more helpful sex episodes:Episode 52: How To Spice Up Your Sex Life Episode 64: How To Own My Orgasms and Pleasure, with Sex Coach Portia BrownEpisode 198: Should I use toys in the bedroom? Why is my partner never in the mood? Tips for threesomes?For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network.
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Feb 3, 2025 • 9min
ICYMI: Exploring Which Relationship Style You Actually Want: Polyamory, Ethical Non-Monogamy, Open Relationships, and More, with Hayley Folk
Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. If you're feeling unsatisfied or incomplete in your love life, there’s more than one way to engage in sex, love, and relationships. But what does that look like? And how do we navigate alternative relationship styles that honour our desire and respect our partner's boundaries? We're throwing it back to this insightful and vulnerable advice from Hayley Folk, a sex writer on a mission to create safe spaces to talk about sex and pleasure.Hayley's work has appeared in magazines like Cosmopolitan, Refinery29, Elite Daily, and more. She’s the founder of Naked Folk, a publication and podcast that covers the uncomfortable conversations we should be having about sex and relationships. Listen to our full episode with Hayley here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Hayley:https://www.instagram.com/hayley.folk/?hl=enhttps://www.nakedfolk.comhttps://www.instagram.com/nakedfolk/?hl=en
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Jan 29, 2025 • 33min
How To Be A Better Leader And Build Successful Teams (Plus: The Secret To Hiring And Firing), with Kelly Roach
As a conflict-avoidant people-pleaser, I have a story in my head that I don’t like the stress and pressure of being a manager. Delegating is hard, and giving feedback is uncomfortable. But that mindset has held me back from hiring, scaling, and taking my dreams to the next level.I know I’m not alone in this. A lot of us end up being managers over the course of our careers, but we’re never taught how to be LEADERS — and there’s a big difference. So I called in business mentor, entrepreneur and best-selling author Kelly Roach to help me navigate my limiting beliefs around hiring, leading better, and investing in a high performing team.Kelly is a former Fortune 500 Executive turned multi-million dollar entrepreneur/CEO, and founder of Kelly Roach Coaching, an 8-figure coaching and consulting company for entrepreneurs who are disrupting industries and scaling their dreams. For the past decade, she’s disrupted the coaching space, built a top-ranked podcast, appeared as an expert for outlets like ABC and NBC, and helped hundreds of entrepreneurs create their dream lives. She’s published multiple bestselling books, including Bigger Than You - The Entrepreneur’s Guide to building An Unstoppable Team.Tune in as we chat about:The key pillars that differentiate a good leader from just a managerHow to retain top talent in your businessThe biggest communication issues and mistakes she sees amongst leadersWhy some managers micromanageLimiting beliefs that hold leaders back from successHow to know when to hire, and who to hire?!Spotting red flags in the hiring process Game-changing interview questions to ask when hiring How to know when to fire someone Communication tips for giving constructive feedbackHow to measure team performance and coachability Follow Kelly on Instagram and on her website.Listen to The Kelly Roach showRead Kelly's best-selling booksFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network.
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Jan 27, 2025 • 8min
ICYMI: Heal Your Relationship With Money And Rewrite Your Money Story, with Leisse Wilcox
Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from past episodes that you might have missed. We all have a relationship with money. It's a largely unconscious belief system, and based on things we saw, learned, didn’t see and didn’t learn. And those financial beliefs we carry can dictate our earning potential, our self-worth, what we charge, and how we show up in the world. So we’re throwing it back to this incredibly helpful insight from Leisse Wilcox on how to heal our money stories.Leisse is a keynote speaker, leadership consultant, performance coach, emotional intelligence expert and two-times best-selling author. Known as “the Marie Kondo of your Unconscious”, She helps clients and businesses turns self-sabotage into success in each of life's cornerstone areas, combining strategic consulting and therapeutic coaching tools. Follow Leisse on Instagram and check out her website. Read Leisse’s bestselling books, To Call Myself Beloved and Alone: The Truth + Beauty of Belonging.Listen to our full episode here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network.
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Jan 22, 2025 • 18min
The Quickie: How To Show Up Better For People In Crisis Or Tragedy
How do we show up better for people in crisis, or anyone facing tragedy? Because I think a lot of the time, we’re getting it wrong. I believe that humans innately want to help, but societally, we were never taught HOW to help effectively.Whether someone we know is dealing with the aftermath of fires or natural disaster, job loss, a death, divorce/breakup, fertility issues, or health diagnoses… life is hard enough without the bombardment of platitudes and toxically positive “silver linings”.We need to learn the power of meeting people where they are in their processing, and get comfortable sitting with them in their pain. Because the world is a better place when we show up for one another.Tune in for helpful ways to support:Things you can say to someone instead of dismissive platitudesHow to support in a way that takes the burden off the ones who are sufferingBeing specific and proactive in the ways you helpOffering support tailored to your unique strengths and giftsDon’t “bright side” or silver lining someone’s griefLearn to ask questions and hold space for someone’s griefHow to depressurize communication during crisisStick to the facts and avoid speculationPlay the long-game in support: be the friend who shows up months later, when they feel forgottenFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network.
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Jan 20, 2025 • 7min
ICYMI: Manage Seasonal Depression With Light Therapy + A Surprising Supplement Protocol, with Chloe Deutscher
Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from past episodes that you might have missed. If you're in a cold-weather climate, your Seasonal Depression might be in full swing right about now. I've struggled with Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) throughout adulthood, and I've finally started getting proactive about managing the symptoms and optimizing my wellbeing during the tough months. So I called in the biohacking pro, Chloe Deutscher, to shed more light on the importance of light therapy for combatting SAD, and the supplements that can actually make a difference in your mood.Chloe is a chemical engineer who has dedicated her career to the intersection of science, consciousness, and mental health. She’s the co-founder and the CEO of Liquid Culture, a biotech company focused on novel fungi manufacturing and developing innovative products for optimal wellbeing. She shares her actionable tips, knowledge, and experience in the fields of biohacking, mental health, and psychedelics on her popular TikTok account, where she empowers people to overcome mental health challenges like ADHD, anxiety, and depression. Listen to our full episode here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network.
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