The Suzanne Venker Show

Suzanne talks about her upbringing, her first marriage, and why she's so passionate about helping people have the support and information they need—even when it's politically incorrect—to help them build successful relationships and lives.

I first interviewed Adam B. Coleman, founder of Wrong Speak Publishing, on Episode 92 of The Suzanne Venker Show about our culture of victimhood. Adam is back with me today to discuss his astute article, "Why the Modern Woman Is an Unhappy Woman." IN THIS EPISODE: 2:50  Are women happy? 4:30  The dating market can be cruel to women and the selection becomes slimmer as you get older 7:15  The modern women is less fulfilled than the generations of women before them 10:10  Women’s expectations are extraordinary high 14:10  Pop culture has influenced women to the point where it has completely affected their lives 18:00  Most women would rather stay home and take care of their kids than work full time 18:40  Women handle work stress differently than men. Men are emboldened in the role of provider, whereas women are not 23:40  Women in their twenties are conflicted with what they naturally desire and the modern social demand for independence from men 29:45  Many women do not understand that their ability to get sexual attention does not translate into a serious relationship. Showing off your body and being overtly sexual gives men the signal that you are a “high risk for failure” in a long term relationship 36:10  How can women change their trajectory when it comes to love and relationships? 39:00  Parents have to take charge of teaching their kids what they need to know about relationships 40:00  Treat your relationships as seriously as you would the pursuit of a college degree, and don't stay in a relationship for a long time if it is going nowhere 44:10  Can online dating work? 48:00  Women need to embrace being feminine again

Abby Roth is the creator of the YouTube channel Classically Abby, where she talks about lifestyle, culture, and commentary from a conservative and classic perspective. She has over 95k subscribers on YouTube, 60k followers on Twitter, and 34k followers on Instagram. Abby, who also happens to be conservative commentator Ben Shapiro's sister, began her career as a trained opera singer with three degrees in operatic performance from the University of Southern California and the Manhattan School of Music. She's the first #ConservativeInfluencer and on her series, Let’s Be Classic, she has interviewed Candace Owens, Liz Wheeler, and Lila B. Rose to name just a few. Abby is here with me today to talk about feminism, beauty standards, dating in the modern world, and marriage.

Stefan Molyneux is the founder and host of Freedomain, the largest and most popular philosophy show in the world. With more than 4,500 podcasts, 10 books and 600 million downloads, Stefan has spread the cause of liberty and philosophy to millions of listeners around the world. Prior to launching Freedomain, Stefan built a thriving career as a software entrepreneur and executive. In 2007, he left his work in the tech industry to devote his efforts to spreading philosophy. Now a full-time parent and philosopher, Stefan has given speeches at liberty-themed events all over the world. His speeches cover subjects ranging from politics, philosophy, economics, relationships,  parenting and how to achieve real freedom in your life! Stefan is here to talk w me today about his work and about his having been de-platformed by You Tube and Twitter and what he’s doing now. IN THIS EPISODE: 1:45  How Stefan got de-platformed from Twitter/Youtube, etc. 10:35  All power is based on a series of lies 16:20  Almost no philosophers talk about parenting 17:30  Kids do not choose their parents, so you should treat them and raise them with the highest moral standards 19:20  Objective reality exists. Knowing what's real is foundational to mental health 24:40  Suzanne and Stefan discuss virtue, “the state,” race, men and women, and the family 25:00  Virtue is universally preferable behavior. Morality must be universal. 29:50  The purpose of communism is allow people to be violent, not to gain “equality” 33:15  Marxist theory used “class” as a means to divide people. Today we use race 35:55  Women and men have faced different evolutionary pressures; this does mean one is superior” to the other 37:40  A lot of people are facing an existential crisis related to love and family 39:00 What's the point of wealth, virtue, etc. if you can’t pass it along to your kids 40:00  People are most comfortable doing whatever people around them are doing 41:10  Feminism is driven by “fear currency” 41:30  During Covid, a lot of women left the workforce and realized they enjoyed being home w/ their families 44:45  Dating and sex is about fertility and children 45:00  High-quality men want to date younger women with less baggage 50:25  Parents pass their mindset on to their kids. You have a lot of agency over your kids and what they are taught 52:20  Your children have a front row seat to your marriage 56:50  Free will: When you have an “ideal standard,” you know what to aim for 1:00:00  If you enjoy your life, you should want to pass that joy on to another generation 1:05:40  How much money would you give up in order to obtain meaning and community?

Suzanne talks with former client Madeline about the strategies she learned in coaching with Suzanne that turned her relationship around. IN THIS EPISODE: 4:00  The differences between living in the Midwest and living on the West Coast 7:20  Madeline tells her story about how she came to find Suzanne after being called “too alpha” 13:30  Men like “easy.” Madeline talks about how she learned to not have her way all the time and how it created peace in her relationship 17:00  The power of mantras 20:35  Timing is everything when it comes to talking to your man. Talk less, get more! 22:50  Why silence works so well 24:40  How to turn a “nag” into a statement of desire and WHY it works 32:45  If you move with the biological tide, you will have fewer problems in your relationship 36:25  If you want to get married and that is your goal, there is a way to get there 37:10  Being promiscuous doesn't prove you're empowered 46:50  Look inward, not outward, to solve problems

DSO is the pen name for Ralph, the founder of dadstartingover.com, host of the Dad Starting Over Podcast, and author of three books including his popular title, “The Dead Bedroom Fix”. The Dad Starting Over website is a resource for men that are “starting over” in life after divorce, after enduring a wife’s affair… or for those men who are still married and want to hit the reset button on their relationship, find their place in life, and finally do things the “right” way. In 2020, Ralph started the DSO Fraternity, which is the members-only portion of dadstartingover.com. Members get access to Fraternity articles, podcasts, all of the DSO books, members-only discussion forums and live member meetings that take place three to four times per week. All of the member meetings are archived and available to listen via your podcast app. DSO Fraternity members also get big discounts on one-on-one coaching with any of the five DSO coaches. Listeners of the Suzanne Venker show can go to dadstartingover.com/venker and you will get your first month of DSO Fraternity membership for $1. Try it out to see if it is right for you. Cancel at any time. Sorry ladies, the group is for men only. Ralph has three children from his first marriage and a new one on the way soon with his second wife, Nathalie. IN THIS EPISODE: 7:00  Men needs are simpler than women's 9:00  Women are great at validation at the beginning of their relationships 10:00  Many woman stop having sex with their husbands, especially once children come along 11:15  Women also complain of lack of sex. Men's porn habits and loss of testosterone contribute to this 12:00  Women need to continue to work on their appearance, be more agreeable, and nag less 17:00  Men need a helping hand when it comes to figuring out how to get their relationships back on track 17:35  DSO tells his story of his first marriage and his ex-wife's extra-marital affair 22:00  Suzanne reads from DSO’s book: "The Dead Bedroom Fix": Why your wife isn’t attracted to you 23:00  Why is the fault of the “dead bedroom” on the man? 24:25  Someone has to the lead in the romance department 28:50  What DOESN'T work when it comes to fixing a dead bedroom 30:00  Men and women both need to revert to what they did when they were dating 33:00  Why being “ nice” doesn’t get a man sex 34:40  Men have to both be a lover and provider 35:00  Many marriages have been flat-out ruined by kids 35:45  What makes a man HOT to a woman? 37:50  Don’t shame a woman for not “feeling it” in the moment 39:40  What men can do to fix a dead bedroom Be her lover Go to the gym & care about your appearance Go away - you need to get the hell away from each other! Be unique: What's your mission outside of being a dad or husband? You MUST lead and set the tone in the relationship as far as romance and sexuality Get your wife away from the kids

I'm joined today by "Mrs. Midwest," the pen name for Caitlin, who runs a blog called Mrs. Midwest and who joined YouTube in 2019 with the goal of creating a haven for traditionally feminine women trying to find their place in this modern world. As a traditional wife and homemaker, it is Caitlin's aim to help women blossom into their natural femininity through discussions on style, mindset, and relationships. She explores topics relating to elegance, femininity, traditional relationships, and homemaking, with a little bit of my "real" life thrown in. IN THIS EPISODE: 4:30  The biggest difference between Millennials and Gen Z 9:30  Modern feminism  has become an exclusive “girls club” reserved for the “bad ass” woman who slays through life smashing the patriarchy, which is not relatable to the average woman 11:25  Feminism has damaged a lot of lives 13:40  Women change greatly between 18 and 28. Make sure you pivot your life if you change what you want. Have a long term plan 19:30  Many parents  are encouraging their children to achieve and compete instead of focusing on love and family life 20:45  Many Christian parents expect their children to date without having sex but simultaneously want them to wait until their late 20s to get married 24:00 Marriage doesn’t derail your career plans…children do 25:40  We have glamorous idea of what a career is that isn't true 28:00  Most married mothers with children prefer to work part-time or not at all 30:00  How can you stay home on one income? 31:00  We're exposed to so much luxury it’s hard to imagine living frugally 38:00  There are many options for couples who want a more traditional lifestyle 42:00  As a woman, you need to look at your long-term path 43:00  In a marriage, whoever's home more does more 52:20  5 ways to be more feminine

Julie Mastrine, a marketing and PR expert passionate about critical thinking, joins the discussion to dissect the cultural implications of sexual liberation. She critiques how casual sex diminishes masculinity and defines the need for boundaries in relationships. Mastrine argues that fatherlessness further impacts men's roles and that women’s chooseiness historically elevated men’s masculinity. Geography also shapes dating perceptions, as her insights explore the intricate dance between modern relationships and societal expectations.

Nancy Paradis, former ballerina and wife of relationship coach Andre Paradis, dives into the unrealistic societal messages facing women today. She reflects on her transition from ballet to balancing family life and career aspirations. Their discussion highlights the shift in priorities for women as they age, the challenge of supporting partners, and the cultural pressures that shape young women's identities. Paradis also explores how Gen Z perceives gender differences and the necessity of practical tools for navigating relationships.

IN THIS EPISODE: 4:20  Suzanne addresses a question about the role social media plays in relationships, with young people and the expectations social media creates 7:15  When the people you surround yourself with are pro-marriage, your takeaway about marriage and relationships will be more positive 9:25  The only solution is to make our own “little world”  work and then pass along the correct messaging to our children 12:30  The only way to combat the messages on social media is parenting 14:25  Can men and women be “just friends”? 16:15  It is extremely difficult for a man to be friend with a woman with whom he is not having sex 18:34  Suzanne answers a question about women getting “bored” in marriage? 19:50  Men  are more simple in their needs and desires 20:30 Women need to deal with their own boredom and address it 23:10  Suzanne addresses and email from a listener about women leading the charge in divorce, the role the culture plays in this, and why many young women are branding their husbands as “mean” and “controlling” 25:00  Oftentimes, a man's behavior is a reaction to his wife actions and behavior 26:10  It’s easy to mislabel the behavior of men 27:25  Women are typically more emotionally abusive than men are 28:25  A listener describes a date he went on where he introduced Suzanne’s content, and she reacted negatively 30:20 Can you make your husband “grow up”?