The Suzanne Venker Show

I want to move out of my parents' home, but my boyfriend wants me to stay. What should I do? My in-laws are extremely “liberal minded,” and my mother-in-law constantly derides me for being a SAHM. What do I say in response? Am I being unreasonable for not wanting to wait to get married to my boyfriend of three years while he's pursuing his med school degree? Help! My boyfriend isn’t “masculine” enough! 𝗕𝘂𝘆 𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗚𝗲𝘁 𝗛𝗶𝘁𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗱 (𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗦𝘁𝗮𝘆 𝗛𝗶𝘁𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗱) 𝗡𝗢𝗪: https://amzn.to/38naFOL   Want to be as successful in love as you are at life?  Go to http://www.suzannevenker.com and 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝟯 𝗙𝗥𝗘𝗘 𝗲𝗕𝗼𝗼𝗸𝘀 to begin your journey!   𝗦𝗶𝗴𝗻 𝘂𝗽 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗺𝗮𝗿𝗿𝗶𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗦𝘂𝘇𝗮𝗻𝗻𝗲: https://www.suzannevenker.com/relationship-coaching/   𝗪𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝗻'𝘁 𝗱𝗼 𝗶𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗿 𝘀𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁!  𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗮 𝗣𝗮𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗳 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗦𝘂𝘇𝗮𝗻𝗻𝗲 𝗩𝗲𝗻𝗸𝗲𝗿 𝗦𝗵𝗼𝘄:  https://www.patreon.com/thesuzannevenkershow

Suzanne answers an email from a husband whose wife is extremely strong-willed.  IN THIS EPISODE:  5:00  Suzanne talks about her own mother and the concept behind The Alpha Female’s Guide to Men and Marriage  6:50  Women who are strong-willed tend to be uncomfortable when they're not in control  8:40  What should men do to deal with a woman like this?  11:45  Men don't like to fight with their wives  12:15  Women have the power to bring out their best in their man  14:12  It’s about a willingness to look inward instead of waiting around for other people to change  𝗕𝘂𝘆 𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗚𝗲𝘁 𝗛𝗶𝘁𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗱 (𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗦𝘁𝗮𝘆 𝗛𝗶𝘁𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗱) 𝗡𝗢𝗪: https://amzn.to/38naFOL  Want to be as successful in love as you are at life?  Go to http://www.suzannevenker.com and 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝟯 𝗙𝗥𝗘𝗘 𝗲𝗕𝗼𝗼𝗸𝘀 to begin your journey!  𝗦𝗶𝗴𝗻 𝘂𝗽 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗺𝗮𝗿𝗿𝗶𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗦𝘂𝘇𝗮𝗻𝗻𝗲: https://www.suzannevenker.com/relationship-coaching/  𝗪𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝗻'𝘁 𝗱𝗼 𝗶𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗿 𝘀𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁!  𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗮 𝗣𝗮𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗳 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗦𝘂𝘇𝗮𝗻𝗻𝗲 𝗩𝗲𝗻𝗸𝗲𝗿 𝗦𝗵𝗼𝘄:  https://www.patreon.com/thesuzannevenkershow

Are you struggling to raise emotionally healthy, resilient adolescents in this fast-paced, ever-changing world? America has an epidemic of mental health disorders in adolescents that has made parenting even more challenging, but parents can still have an enormous impact on the health and well-being of their children. In her new book, Chicken Little: The Sky Isn't Falling, Erica Komisar offers parents the tools they need to navigate this tumultuous time of change and create a continuous deep connection with their children. Erica is a psychoanalyst and parent guidance expert who has been in private practice in New York City for over 30 years. She's also the author of Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters. 7:00  Teenagers still need their parents' guidance, even though teens tend to push their parents away   8:40  Covid exacerbated mental health issues and distress in younger people   11:30  There's a tremendous amount of sacrifice involved if you're going to raise and care for children well   13:40  We have placed more emphasis on money and career success than on caring for children   16:30  The best way to help quell the mental health crisis in children and adolescents is to prevent it from developing   19:00  Our society is achievement focused, rather than focused on emotional health, etc.   19:30  We “check out” of our children’s lives and simultaneously expect them to achieve more   20:00  Poverty can cause depression and so can affluence—in the same way.   22:00  Erica talks about her new book, Chicken Little.   23:00  At its root, anxiety is fear   24:00  The push for early independence is backfiring   24:30  The internet and social media has had a corrosive impact on the mental health of adolescence   27:30  Video games and tech additions are symptoms of anxiety and depression   31:40  Parents must be present during adolescence   34:00  You cannot protect your adolescent from pain and frustration, but it is a parents job to help them process it   35:00  Too many choices cause problems   38:35  We help shape our children’s identity over time. Parenting is also about helping your children take things OFF their plate.   41:00  Women/Girls get the message about having to “be something” more than boys/men   42:00 - PARENTS MATTER! 𝗕𝘂𝘆 𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗚𝗲𝘁 𝗛𝗶𝘁𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗱 (𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗦𝘁𝗮𝘆 𝗛𝗶𝘁𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗱) 𝗡𝗢𝗪: https://amzn.to/38naFOL Want to be as successful in love as you are at life? Go to http://www.suzannevenker.com and 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝟯 𝗙𝗥𝗘𝗘 𝗲𝗕𝗼𝗼𝗸𝘀 to begin your journey! 𝗦𝗶𝗴𝗻 𝘂𝗽 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗺𝗮𝗿𝗿𝗶𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗦𝘂𝘇𝗮𝗻𝗻𝗲: https://www.suzannevenker.com/relationship-coaching/ 𝗪𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝗻'𝘁 𝗱𝗼 𝗶𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗿 𝘀𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁! 𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗮 𝗣𝗮𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗳 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗦𝘂𝘇𝗮𝗻𝗻𝗲 𝗩𝗲𝗻𝗸𝗲𝗿 𝗦𝗵𝗼𝘄:  https://www.patreon.com/thesuzannevenkershow

Suzanne responds to an article in the feminist publication, Jezebel, entitled “Here Are Some Good Reasons to Divorce Your Husband This Fall.”  IN THIS EPISODE:  3:50  Women and men in modern marriages are shooting blanks because they have no good examples of a good marriage  4:30  Suzanne talks about an article in Jezebel entitled “Here Are Some Good Reasons to Divorce Your Husband This Fall.”  5:50  Women are unhappier than ever  6:25  Women today do carry a burden: breadwinning in addition to mothering  7:40  Men will accommodate women to make them happy  8:20  Women have too high of expectations of men and marriage  8:50  Women need to learn how to learn how to align their expectations with reality and learn “manspeak”  10:00  Some “jobs/careers” work better with motherhood than others  11:00  What is “Manspeak”?  11:40  Your happiness is what motivates your man to action  12:00  The energy most modern women are carrying (trying to do it all) does not inspire a man to action  Want to be as successful in love as you are at life? Go to http://www.suzannevenker.com and 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝟯 𝗙𝗥𝗘𝗘 𝗲𝗕𝗼𝗼𝗸𝘀 to begin your journey!   𝗦𝗶𝗴𝗻 𝘂𝗽 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗺𝗮𝗿𝗿𝗶𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗦𝘂𝘇𝗮𝗻𝗻𝗲: https://www.suzannevenker.com/relationship-coaching/    𝗪𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝗻'𝘁 𝗱𝗼 𝗶𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗿 𝘀𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁! 𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗮 𝗣𝗮𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗳 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗦𝘂𝘇𝗮𝗻𝗻𝗲 𝗩𝗲𝗻𝗸𝗲𝗿 𝗦𝗵𝗼𝘄:  https://www.patreon.com/thesuzannevenkershow

The discussion highlights the pressures young women face from parents to pursue high-achieving careers, contrasting this with their desires for traditional lives and family. A poignant story from a listener reveals the emotional toll of these expectations. The conversation dives into the discrepancy between women's entry into fields like law and their advancement, advocating for a reevaluation of what success means. Ultimately, it emphasizes the importance of relationships and family over relentless career pursuits.

Suzanne discusses singer/songwriter Kacey Musgraves's new song, 'Breadwinner,' which blames men for what happens when wives earn more. IN THIS EPISODE: 3:50  Suzanne introduces the new song by Kacey Musgraves's 'Breadwinner' 7:25  Many women and men don't understand how the female breadwinner issue will affect their marriages 8:50  60% of Suzanne’s coaching clients are in a situation where the women earn more 10:05  Men AND women don't like when women earn more 11:30  The cultural narrative blames gender "stereotypes” and gender "expectations” 13:15  A man’s ability to earn is inextricably tied to his identity. 13:50  Women do not work out of a desire to provide for their husbands 14:50  When a woman has an all-consuming career, much like Musgraves', her relationships (and children if she has them) take a back seat 19:40  As long as the woman is earning, the man’s motivation will fall away 20:10  Men don’t get threatened by a woman earning more; it simply deflates them. Men and women are motivated by different things 21:40  The male breadwinner norm won’t change because women want men who earn the same as they do or more 22:00  This song resonates for women today because so many women are out-earning their partners

In this engaging discussion, Carrie Gress, author of 'The Anti-Mary Exposed: Rescuing the Culture from Toxic Femininity', explores the paradox of modern feminism and women's happiness. Despite claims of empowerment, women are increasingly unhappy due to cultural narratives that mislead and harm them. Gress argues these ideas are rooted in Marxism and fears of backlash prevent honest conversations about women’s fulfillment. She shares insights on how to combat societal pressures, emphasizing the importance of a balance between empowerment and traditional values.

This discussion emphasizes the need for young women to rethink their approach to dating and relationships in their twenties. It explores the critical role parents play in guiding their children towards successful partnerships. The defining decade for individuals, the podcast argues, is pivotal for happiness, largely influenced by marital choices. Delaying marriage and navigating societal expectations can complicate life choices. Additionally, it sheds light on the unique challenges women face regarding fertility and societal pressures.

Explore the four cultural lies that impact women's choices around marriage and motherhood. Learn why many find themselves struggling to navigate love and family while pursuing career success. Discover the implications of prioritizing professional aspirations over personal relationships, and why societal pressure often leads women astray. Suzanne emphasizes placing marriage and motherhood at the forefront of life for lasting fulfillment, challenging the notion that independence equates to happiness.

We will be releasing this week's podcast episode, "The 4 Lies The Culture Tells" on Tuesday, August 31st!  Tuesday is also RELEASE DAY for my new book How To Get Hitched (and Stay Hitched)! Visit www.howtogethitched.net for all of the details!