The Suzanne Venker Show

The podcast dives into the crucial role of marriage in overall happiness, arguing that who we marry shapes our life trajectory. It emphasizes putting marriage first, creating a sense of teamwork among partners. The discussion critiques the millennial view of marriage as a capstone rather than a cornerstone, highlighting how cohabitation often undermines true marital preparation. Personal relationships should take precedence over career pursuits, suggesting that prioritizing love leads to deeper fulfillment. A compelling case for re-evaluating societal norms around love and work unfolds.

Discover essential money non-negotiables for a strong marriage. Modern couples often cling to separate finances, which can create tension. Explore how differing motivations for earning can affect dynamics and the importance of a unified budget. Learn why thinking in terms of 'we' instead of 'yours' and 'mine' is crucial for building an unbreakable bond. The conversation also highlights the risks when one partner earns significantly more, emphasizing the need for teamwork in financial matters.

Dive into the essential truths about women's fertility, debunking myths often perpetuated by societal norms. Learn why women under 35 have a higher chance of conception and hear eye-opening stories from those who faced challenges after following the cultural script. Understand the urgency of being aware of your biological clock and the journey toward motherhood. Empower yourself with knowledge about your body, and discover the importance of open conversations about fertility.

2:00  My boyfriend won’t say “I love you” and is not expressive or open to talk about next steps for the future 5:00  My son is asking me to open a bank account in my own name to save money because he is dating a girl who inherited money and lives at home. This girl wants to live with my son, in a house she owns, and have him pay half the bills. He wants to save because he is afraid that “when she kicks him out” he’ll be able to afford to set himself up, etc. WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON? 10:00  I’m newly married to a great guy, but I'm struggling with where we live. We want to start having children but there is no community where we live. What should I do? 15:35  Help! I feel guilty for wanting to step out of the workforce to raise children. 20:15  What is your take on Victoria’s Secret shifting their marketing approach to showcasing overweight women? 22:45  How do I go into a marriage-minded relationship when the woman will be making more money than me? 28:15  My wife and I are going on 16 years of marriage and having trouble, my wife won’t go to counseling. Is there any hope?

Suzanne discusses fives reasons women don't get what they need from their man. IN THIS EPISODE: 6:00  Reason #1: They have their guard up 9:55  Reason #2: They micromanage. 11:10  Reason #3: They can't “let go” and learn to receive. 14:00  Reason #4: They complain and/or nag. 15:15  Reason #5: They assume the worst.

An eye-opening discussion reveals how birth control has reshaped sexual dynamics in the 21st century. It’s shown that while casual sex may seem appealing, it contradicts many women’s natural inclinations for commitment. The complexities of modern dating are examined, highlighting how the stakes have lowered and the dating landscape feels like a minefield. Insights are shared about the emotional responses of men and women to casual relationships, along with a call for reviving traditional dating norms.

Explore how societal changes have shifted women's roles, from prioritizing family to focusing on careers. Discover the reality behind work-life balance and the importance of accepting trade-offs. Hear insights on maternal guilt and the struggles faced by working mothers. Emphasize the need for long-term planning and understanding children's needs while navigating personal aspirations. Finally, understand the impact of recent events like COVID on modern motherhood and career choices.

Referring to an article in the Wall Street Journal entitled "Women Still Do More of the Housework. Here's How to Share the Load," Suzanne discusses why the mental load of motherhood is not a social construct but a matter of sheer biology. IN THIS EPISODE: 3:50  The “50/50” marriage does not take into account the biological leanings of men and women 4:55  Playing tit for tat in a marriage will KILL a marriage 5:00  There's a completely different way to manage childcare and housework 5:20  If there’s respect in a marriage, it shouldn't matter who does what 5:35  Whomever is home more does more at home 6:10  If both husband and wife are pursuing demanding careers and taking care of a family, the opportunity for conflict escalates 6:35  It is women who take on the mental load of motherhood 8:15  It is a biological fact that women are more invested in the details of running a home 10:00  You want your husband to do things the way you want them done, but men don't think like women! 10:44  Couples who divvy up the breadwinning/household tasks do not tend to keep score and thus have fewer conflicts 11:40  No matter how you plan your time, life will rarely run smoothly. The real enemy is time. 𝗕𝘂𝘆 𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗚𝗲𝘁 𝗛𝗶𝘁𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗱 (𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗦𝘁𝗮𝘆 𝗛𝗶𝘁𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗱) 𝗡𝗢𝗪: https://amzn.to/38naFOL Want to be as successful in love as you are at life?  Go to http://www.suzannevenker.com and 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝟯 𝗙𝗥𝗘𝗘 𝗲𝗕𝗼𝗼𝗸𝘀 to begin your journey! 𝗦𝗶𝗴𝗻 𝘂𝗽 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗺𝗮𝗿𝗿𝗶𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗦𝘂𝘇𝗮𝗻𝗻𝗲: https://www.suzannevenker.com/relationship-coaching/ 𝗪𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝗻'𝘁 𝗱𝗼 𝗶𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗿 𝘀𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁!  𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗮 𝗣𝗮𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗳 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗦𝘂𝘇𝗮𝗻𝗻𝗲 𝗩𝗲𝗻𝗸𝗲𝗿 𝗦𝗵𝗼𝘄:  https://www.patreon.com/thesuzannevenkershow

A new documentary about the student loan crisis, entitled “Borrowed Future,” will stream on October 14th. Suzanne discusses how this crisis is undermining love and family formation—and why, with a shift of one's mindset, it doesn't have to. IN THIS EPISODE: 4:00  Student loan debt is affecting a couple's availability to marry and have kids 4:50  Debt is undermining marriages and keeping couples from being successful 5:30  We've sold student debt without making young people aware of how it affects their future 6:00  Marriage is on the decline due to MONEY issues - “We can't afford to get married!” 7:40  Couples can't succeed in getting out of debt if they're not on the same page 10:25  When you do not combine finances and do not get on the same page financially, you are essentially saying you do not trust your spouse 13:55  Parents of should not encourage their kids to get into student loan debt 14:45  It does NOT matter where you get your degree

America has become a nation with far too many narcissistic, self-entitled, excuse-making moaners who simply refuse to own their problems and the subsequent solutions. You may have heard people make excuses for themselves, or maybe you’ve even said some of these things yourself. Many of these have been served up on silver platters by psychologists and lawyers: “I haven’t succeeded because I’ve been oppressed by [a demographic group, corporate America, the rich].” “I’ve abused [my spouse, my kids, both] because I had a bad ” “I’m [obese, failing school, addicted] because I have a ” “I was prevented from knowing right from wrong by [a mental illness, violent video games, too many Twinkies].” But it wasn’t always this way. Here to talk w us about this massive phenomenon that has infected America is Dr. Brian Russell. Brian is a psychologist, attorney, and author of the book Stop Moaning, Start Owning: How Entitlement is Ruining America and How Personal Responsibility Can Fix It. IN THIS EPISODE: 4:40  Personal responsibility has drifted with increasing inertia to an age of entitlement with divorce, remarriage, parental abandonment, consumer debt/national debt, etc. 7:30  Dr. Russell and Suzanne discuss no-fault divorce laws 9:40  With private school, you have commonality among parents about education 11:20  You can send your kids to Catholic schools for a very reasonable price 12:00  Parents today are not around, or they are very self absorbed 14:00  Technology has taken over for kids, and parents have let it happen 16:00  Yours kids do not care if you’re “happy” or not 18:15  When you walk down the aisle, your mission should be to help that other person 20:00  People who chase happiness as a feeling are doomed to never catch it in a sustained way 24:40  Emotions, even negative ones, have purpose 28:00  Feminism and hurt both men and women; we are snuffing out nature in each sex 29:55  The difference between making “value judgements” vs. “being judgmental” 31:10  When you take away social consequences,  it's dangerous 33:45  It is a parent’s job to set boundaries and say “no” 38:50  The world does not “owe” you and you are not “entitled” to much 40:10  Dr. Russell talks about the “deadly vows” series he was involved in 43:00  Infidelity, financial problems and blending families are typically the root causes of spousal murder 45:40  The cure