

Date Your Wife
Garrett J. White & Danielle K White
Co-hosts Garrett J White and Danielle K White share in this weekly podcast, as a powerhouse husband and wife duo why date nights have become non-negotiable in their life. Garrett is the founder of Wake Up Warrior, a program for married businessmen to live the Warrior’s Way towards having a life of having it all, and Danielle is the founder of NBR Education and DKW Styling Salon. They will share how they have created success in every aspect of their lives after being willing to rebuild and heal from disconnection, and it all starts with weekly date nights.
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Oct 30, 2018 • 30min
Momentum Is Money | Date Your Wife | Ep 043
Garrett and Danielle have a conversation about momentum in this week’s episode of the Date Your Wife podcast. It has taken many years for the White’s to get to a place where they are experiencing momentum in all areas of their life and share with their listening audience through stories and experiences what has brought them to the place where, only a few short years ago, they wondered if they would even make it. ______________________________________________________________ Every week, married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast…MONEY Point #1: Tipping Point Danielle feels like her business has hit a tipping point, leading her to the conclusion that it’s the small things in life that push people forward. She questions why so many people are not consistent with those small things that create momentum, knowing they would ultimately lead them to the outcomes they desire. QUESTION Where in your world have you experienced the momentum of the tipping point? Point #2: Marriage Is a Lifestyle Anything great takes a fucking long time to build. When people see the White’s and their success, they begin wanting that in their marriage and become frustrated when it doesn’t happen on their timetable. Garrett: The number of years that you were a dumb-ass and caused a lack of momentum or momentum in the wrong or weak direction, is not going to be turned around in two days. The fundamental disciplined habits must be changed and maintained over time. QUESTION How can you demonstrate more patience in your marriage? Point #3: Merry-Go-Round Marriage is like a Merry-Go-Round: It takes great effort to get it moving at first as you grab on with both hands and push hard. Pretty soon you can give it a little push and it keeps going because momentum has kicked in. Inside of marriage, many people kill the momentum by quitting before they hit the tipping point. Others experience momentum but take their eyes off the prize, losing the edge and the momentum they have gained. QUESTION Where is your relationship within this conversation of the Merry-Go-Round? Point #4: Gaining Momentum The fastest way to gain momentum is to start going on dates every single week. Start taking your wife on Date Nights and each day send her notes of love, honor, and appreciation. She’s got to know that these are not going to stop. Momentum is built inside of your marriage and business when you build up momentum inside of yourself. Garrett and Danielle are at a point where, when they collide, there is so much momentum, certainty, and power within each of them that neither one of them can stop the other. QUESTION What can you do to start gaining or increasing momentum in your relationship? Point #5: Character and Contrast During sticky phases, you’re doing the work yet are becoming more bitter and angry towards one another. These are the times you must shift your energy. Once you have that momentum, do the little things to maintain that momentum. Garrett loves the different characters and looks of Danielle from her formal look in Louis Vuitton’s to her ponytail and Lulu pants. Danielle loves Garrett in a suit but finds him especially sexy when he wears a t-shirt and jeans. QUESTION What are the different looks of your partner that take your breath away? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation about the Flywheel Effect. Date Night Topic: What are some things you can do for each other to gain or maintain momentum within your relationship? Quote of the Week: “Business and marriage fall apart for the same reason: people let go of momentum OR they don’t have the courage to keep pushing to even get to the point where momentum can begin.” –Garrett J White “Sometimes we want to look at our business and marriage separately, but taking some of those business tactics and applying them to marriage isn’t that far off.” –Danielle K White Head over to Amazon to pick up your copy of the book, Be the Man. To begin your journey in living the Warrior’s Way, click on these sites: warriorbook.com, dkwstyling.com, wakeupwarriorwoman.com

Oct 23, 2018 • 28min
The Diabolical AND The Divine: Two Sides of One | Date Your Wife | Ep 042
In this week’s episode of the Date Your Wife podcast, Danielle and Garrett explore their Dark side, and share how embracing both the Dark and the Light has given them the freedom to find harmony inside of their relationship, within themselves, and with humanity. ______________________________________________________________ Every week, married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast… Point #1: Jekyll and Hyde Danielle: Everyone is raised to put themselves in a box. As you get comfortable with yourself, you own EVERY side of yourself, including the crazy, but you learn how to manifest the crazy in a productive way. Garrett: Most people cannot accept that there are literally two sides to them. I spent most of my life putting who I was, away: my desires, the anger, the rage, the fire, the questions, the sexual desire. QUESTION What is it about you that you are you hiding in a box? Point #2: Super Power Danielle: I can’t operate as Susan all of the time, so it’s literally learning how to cohesively live together with your multiple personalities. It’s learning how to be cool with yourself and tapping into this dark, crazy side of you, looking at it as your Superpower. Ex: I gotta handle some shit in business, so Dark Susan’s coming out. I gotta be a wife and a lover, so Danielle’s coming out. Garrett: Relationship is the ability for a person to be able to be ALL of themselves in a relationship. My mission for myself and for Danielle was to be able to figure out how to be ALL of ourselves. There’s Dark Susan sex, and there’s Danielle sex – totally different sex, both are amazing. As we become more adaptable to ourselves, I think our relationship blows up in a big, beautiful way. QUESTION How do you handle ALL of you? How do you use the different parts of you to your advantage? Point #3: Critical Bitch Garrett: Danielle has an aspect to her that I deeply love now but that I hated and loathed for most of our marriage, until the last four to five years. This side is what I considered to be Critical Bitch. Whatever was going on, there was always this chipping away, and for most of our relationship I thought, “Fucking crazy woman.” Anything to do with Danielle’s dark side was viewed as wrong, broken, over-thinking. What I had viewed as critical, all of a sudden become powerful. She had the ability to see things clearly amidst the chaos, and not be sucked in by emotion. QUESTION What have you previously viewed as wrong or broken in your spouse, but now view as powerful? Point #4: Embrace the Dark AND the Light Garrett: When you start accepting that this is true inside of you – the Diabolical AND the Divine – when you accept that this is true about you, when you come to terms with and embrace and love both sides of you, you start to love and appreciate humanity and people around you at a level you never could before because you’re not fucking hiding anymore. Inside Wake Up Warrior, Warrior Woman, and Big Money Stylist, we lead individuals on this path that accepts the true power of who you are on both extremes: in the Dark AND in the Light, in the Night AND in the Light, so they can ultimately gain the purest sight of being able to see truth. QUESTION What part of you are you suppressing and not embracing? Point #5: Submission vs Sedation Danielle: How do I get to the end result I’m looking for in a particular situation? What are the steps required? It always requires submission at some level. Ultimately, I’m happier and get what I want. That overall feeling is better than retreating and closing down. Sedation can be a sneaky little bastard, and it can come in many forms. Garrett: Most couples don’t want to submit, so they sedate. They go to whatever they need to in order to avoid having to collide: they eat, drink, pop pills, ignore, delve into fitness. People go to religion to justify the shitty relationship they’re in; that somehow it will be magical when they die. QUESTION Where inside of your relationship are you sedating to avoid collision? Communication Challenge: How has your upbringing affected your ability to embrace both the Darkness and the Light within you? Date Night Topic: Have a conversation about your particular Crazy. What is the name of your Dark side? Quote of the Week: “Individually, if you do not come to terms with the fact that you have a brilliant side that is filled with light, AND you have a brilliant side that is filled with Night, that your Crazy offsets your Creator, and that your Creator cannot exist without your Crazy; until you can come to terms with yourself on this, you will never find harmony long-term in a relationship with any other person, specifically with your wife.” –Garrett J White “I think people sedate their blessing. They think their blessing is their curse, so they sedate the thing that can actually give them power. What if you looked at these things as a blessing and not a curse? What if you used these to learn how to navigate through life instead of sedating what God gave you as ‘different?’ What if you learned how to use it to your benefit?” –Danielle K White Head over to Amazon to pick up your copy of the book, Be the Man. To begin your journey in living the Warrior’s Way, click on these sites: warriorbook.com, dkwstyling.com, wakeupwarriorwoman.com

Oct 16, 2018 • 33min
Magic in the Moments | Date Your Wife | Ep 041
This week’s episode is from the recent Warrior Wealth for Women event in Dana Point, California, where Garrett and Danielle trained over 300 women in the art of making, keeping, and growing money. _______________________________________________________________________________________________________ Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast….MONEY Point #1: Greedy Bitch? Many people sacrifice everything for their business and end up broken and run down. A lot of people think that money doesn’t matter, or the if they do say it matters, they’re looked upon as a greedy bitch. You can only sacrifice so much before there’s nothing left. Heart and sacrifice don’t pay the bills, and no one is coming to save you. QUESTION Where in your world are you sacrificing and have nothing left? Point #2: Doormat Dora When you surround yourself with people and clients who don’t value you, who don’t value your service, and who don’t value your time, you end up feeling like a doormat. When you begin finding value in yourself, things begin to shift, and you start making new choices that align with the new level of value you see in yourself. QUESTION As you take a look inside your life, who are you surrounding yourself with? Point #3: Magic in the Moments There is a voice inside of you that will guide you through the war with yourself. God happens to be the closest spectator to spar with, to make you strong enough to go to war with you. Look into the moments that occur, the moments that shift things forever, where the voice says, “Consider this.” Listen for the moments where truth is laid out for you exactly how you need to hear it. QUESTION What magic moments are you hearing right now? Point #4: Value the Shit Out of Yourself When your calling, vision, and purpose are clear, you can become rest-less as you have this relentless yearning to run towards your goals. As we prune and purge our lives, and begin valuing the shit out of ourselves, the clients and friendships we lose are the shit we are cleaning out of our systems and lives. QUESTION Where in your world do you need to do some house cleaning in order to create some space? Point #5: Who Must I Become? If you’re raising the bar for yourself, can you honestly say you’re giving the best possible experience that you know how to give? Every day, you must kill yourself and become the next new version you, one step at a time. A new purpose must burn inside your heart; you hunt the money to find the next version of yourself. QUESTION What is the vision you have for yourself? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation around this idea of Magic in the Moments. Date Night Topic: What vision do you have for you as a couple inside this topic of Money? Quote of the Week: “Consider the purpose of your life is expansion; that money, marriage, and children are the trifecta of expansion.” –Garrett J White “You have to be able to produce in order to find the next version of yourself.” –Danielle K White Head over to Amazon to pick up your copy of the book, Be the Man. warriorbook.com, dkwstyling.com, wakeupwarriorwoman.com

Oct 9, 2018 • 31min
Primal Connection |Date Your Wife | Ep 040
On the heels of a fabulous weekend getaway to New York City, Danielle and Garrett have a conversation about the importance of taking time away from their children and their day-to-day responsibilities, and reconnecting with each other as a couple on a deeper level. _______________________________________________________________________________________________________ Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast….Sex Point #1: Weekend Getaways At least four times a year, Garrett and Danielle take long weekend trips to reset their relationship. Before Garrett began committing to these getaways, he was unable to see the ROI in them. For ten years, he had a difficult time reconciling spending money on any types of vacations. QUESTION When was the last time you and your spouse went on a weekend getaway? Point #2: Refresh and Unplug In the Strategic Coach program, Dan Sullivan created the Entrepreneur Time System. Inside of that, you have Focus Days, Buffer Days, and Free Days. When you go on weekend getaways, there are a couple of things that have to happen: 1- you must be able to refresh, and 2- you must be able to unplug. QUESTION What do you and your spouse do in order to come away refreshed from these getaways? Point #3: Can’t vs Can You’ll always find something that can get in the way of taking time away from the kids in order to be with each other; you don’t have time, the conditions aren’t right, it’s either all or nothing. A lot of times, we focus on what we can’t do instead of what we can do. If your marriage is in a rough place, it’s even easier to justify why you can’t do something. QUESTION What excuses can you clear away in order to make room for weekend vacations with your spouse? Point #4: Sexual Distance When Danielle feels like they’re in a weird place, she thinks back to the time when they were dating. “What were the behaviors I was doing that I don’t do anymore?” Garrett: If you have some distance sexually, it’s very easy to get stuck in a routine where you start going through these phases: anticipation, desperation, fuck you, and apathy. QUESTION What are some things you did when you were dating that you’re no longer doing? Point #5: Primal Connection If you don’t get space away from your current environment, you can’t return to the primal nature that actually connected you in the beginning. If you’re not connecting regularly, you end up inside of a stale relationship where you’re simply partners in the game, sans the lust and the primal connection. QUESTION What are you doing to retain and ignite the primal connection you felt when you first met and dated your spouse? Communication Challenge: Take a walk down memory lane and reminisce about the things you loved doing together when you first met and while you were dating. Date Night Topic: Get your calendars out and plan your weekend getaways for the next 12 months. Quote of the Week: “I’m constantly creating opportunities inside of our relationship to have space away with Danielle.” –Garrett J White “Let’s hit the reset button before it gets too far into the fuck you mode.” –Danielle K White Head over to Amazon to pick up your copy of the book, Be the Man. warriorbook.com, dkwstyling.com, wakeupwarriorwoman.com

Oct 2, 2018 • 30min
Direct Communication | Date Your Wife | Ep 039
Married co-hosts of the Date Your Wife podcast, Danielle K and Garrett J White, share their experiences with you each week as they do their best to navigate their way through this life. This week, the topic of conversation is Communication. _______________________________________________________________________________________________________ Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast….Communication Point #1: Some Like it Hot Danielle attributes her direct communication to the fact that she’s a Taurus. “They’re actually sweet people, but if you set them off, you better get out of the fucking way.” In marriage, she believes you have to use tact when you communicate with your partner. She usually runs questionable things through the ‘dating filter’ before she sends them to Garrett: “If we were dating, would I say this?” QUESTION How often do you find yourself running your communication through filters? Point #2: Don’t Poke the Bear Garret: Once Danielle is face down in the pillow, and the dog is curled up at her feet, I am now encroaching into the evil lair of insanity. I go about my evening routine knowing that Danielle is in comatose mode. Danielle: Do you want to make love to your whiteboards, or do you want to make love to me? Just give me a little squeeze. If I respond, you’re in luck; if I say nothing, you’re shit out of luck. QUESTION What non-verbal signals and signs do you give to each other? Point #3: Feeling Wanted Garrett: There was a time I was unable to acknowledge to myself nor have a conversation with Danielle about the fact that sex was important to me. I was always indirect and hoping things would work out instead of directionally speaking to them. It was the same with my businesses. Danielle: I started to understand that in order to get what I wanted, we both had to feel wanted. Girls like and want sex, but I think it’s more of being wanted, and having that attention and validation that my man is into me. QUESTION How do you make sure your partner feels wanted by you? Point #4: Direct Communication Garrett: Part of the conversation in our home is that we talk directly with each other, as well as in front of our children. Our kids have very strong opinions about things, and they use very powerful language. I used to steer clear of direct communication in our marriage, particularly on the topic of sex, because I just did not know how to get over my story of feeling rejected and my pain of feeling so. QUESTION In what areas of your life do you have a challenge with direct communication? Point #5: Running Man Garrett: I had given myself permission for a very long time to allow our relationship to be on eggshells, mostly because I literally couldn’t commit to much and I was always in a place where I was ready to bail. About two years ago, a shift took place inside of Garrett causing the back door to completely disappear. Danielle noticed huge results after Garrett finally gave himself permission to commit and go all in. QUESTION What level of commitment do you have inside your marriage? Communication Challenge: Inside your relationship, where are you avoiding direct conversations? How is this impacting .your marriage? Date Night Topic: Have a conversation about this topic: “In order to get what I wanted, we both had to feel wanted.” Quote of the Week: “Commitment itself is the bridge or gateway to actual direct communication. If you’re not committed to your marriage, or to the person you’re married to, direct communication cannot happen.” –Garrett J White “As we set our relationship up for success, it impacts so many other areas of our life, including the example we set for our children.” –Danielle K White Head over to Amazon to pick up your copy of the book, Be the Man. warriorbook.com, dkwstyling.com, wakeupwarriorwoman.com

Sep 25, 2018 • 34min
Go In With Love |Date Your Wife | Ep 038
The conversation of Parenting is the theme of this week’s episode of the Date Your Wife Podcast, where the Whites discuss accountability, checklists, belief systems, unsolicited advice, and loving your kids no matter what. _______________________________________________________________________________________________________ Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast….Parenting Point #1: Morning Chaos Garrett describes their eleven-year-old daughter as a morning psychopath. She sets her alarm to go off up to nine times every morning just so she can wake up and get out of bed. Their seven-year-old daughter is very much into routines. It’s almost as if she goes into auto-pilot in the morning and is good to go as long as everything is set up perfectly for her in advance. QUESTION How are your children similar? How are they different? Point #2: Unsolicited Advice Garrett is very committed as a parent to teaching the ‘right’ thing to his children. He’s had people reach out to him offering unsolicited advice about their parenting styles. Danielle: Everybody is super judgy about parenting styles, and at some level, every parent feels like they have fucked up their kids. QUESTION How do you handle unsolicited advice when it comes your way? Point #3: I Love You No Matter What If Danielle had to choose only one thing to teach their children, it would be accountability coupled with love. “If you could embed accountability and love into a kid, I think that would solve the world’s problems.” Years ago, Garrett began telling his daughters, “I love you, no matter what.” No matter what they do or say, he told them he will always love them. QUESTION If, as a parent, you could only teach your children one thing, what would that be? Point #4: Boxes and Checklists Just like in education, there’s a box that people try to put their kids into of ‘this is what it looks like to be successful.” And anything that doesn’t fit inside that box, they consider inaccurate or not right. For most parents, they’re always trying to get it “right” with their children, so they always feel guilty. And because they never get it ‘right’ based on a checklist that never ends, they don’t focus on the actual belief systems they want to instill in their children. QUESTION How are you keeping your children inside a box? Point #5: Core Beliefs Garrett: You can teach your kids all kinds of tactics, but what are the important mindsets and skillsets that you ‘should’ teach your children? There are plenty of people who know how to do the dishes, yet are unable to produce in life. I’m convinced that what people actually learn as children and what they take into their adult life is driven by the values and beliefs their parents instill in them, both by what they say and by what they watch their parents do. QUESTION What are the core beliefs that you are brainwashing your kids to believe that are empowering them as people? Communication Challenge: What are the actual belief systems that matter to you, and that you are instilling in your children? What are the beliefs about themselves and the world that you are consciously depositing into them? Date Night Topic: On your next Date Night, have a conversation about how you want your children to remember your interaction and love connection as a couple. Quote of the Week: “I was blown away when I got married at how horrifically unprepared I was to be a married man.” –Garrett J White “She’s not mine to manipulate and control; I’m there to guide her, lead her, show up, and do the best I can as a parent.” –Danielle K White Head over to Amazon to pick up your copy of Be the Man. warriorbook.com, dkwstyling.com, wakeupwarriorwoman.com

Sep 18, 2018 • 28min
It's Easier To Be The King in Business Than It Is To Be King In Your Home | Date Your Wife | Ep 037 | Date Your Wife | Ep 037
The topic of money is this week’s conversation inside of the Date Your Wife podcast. The unique dynamics inside of a married relationship create a very difficult game for many couples when it comes to the sticky topic of money. __________________________________________________________________________________ Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast….MONEY Point #1: Catch-22 Back in the day, Danielle hated Garrett because he was working so much. But she didn’t hate the business because that’s what was paying the bills. “I got to this place where I felt Garrett loved the business more than he loved me.” Garrett: Men can control what happens in business more than they can control what happens at home. It’s easier to be the King in business than it is to be the King at home. QUESTION Gentlemen, have you lost your crown? What are you going to do to get it back? Point #2: Split in Two Many women who out-produce their husbands are in this space of: How do I deal with my husband who is not being the man? I’m dominating him in business and trying to decide if I should get a divorce. Garrett: When a man allows his wife to split the bills, it splits his power and creates a bit of submission in a weird way. Men, at the primal level, must be okay with the stewardship and responsibility of “I must pay the bills independent of my wife.” QUESTION How do you as a couple feel about this? Point #3: Wake-Up Call At one point in their marriage, Danielle hid how much money she was making. She split up her bank accounts to create a safety net for herself because she wasn’t sure if their marriage was going to work out. When she got triggered about something, she revealed to Garrett that she had made $30k the previous month which served as a wake-up call in the form of a big two by four straight into his balls. QUESTION Ladies, why do you hide your money from your husband? Point #4: Show Me the Money, Honey There’s an artist inside Danielle’s Big Money Stylist network who is outproducing her husband in a massive way. “I love my husband and I want to be more sexual, but I’m just not attracted to him.” Garrett: This is a sticky situation, and there’s not a simple one-cut solution. When Danielle was making more money, her tolerance of behavior by me went down, and her desire to connect with me sexually also went down. QUESTION How is this dynamic affecting your marriage? Point #5: Friday Night Fights A recent fight between Danielle and Garrett would have been the end of their marriage a few years ago. But this time it compelled them and opened them up. Danielle: When your foundation is rocky and an explosion happens, it’s hard to build that back up. Now, we can have a fight and come back and talk about it because our foundation is more solid. QUESTION What condition is the foundation of your marriage in? Communication Challenge: Gentlemen, I want you to have a conversation with your wife about the dynamics of money. What is the connection to the attraction for you and the money you’re making or the lack of money you’re making? If you’re a man and not paying the bills, have that conversation with your wife and just see where it takes you. If you can get her to be honest with you, it may be the prompting that you need to ultimately rise. Date Night Topic: Have a conversation about what you can do to create a stronger foundation inside of your relationship. What does that look like for both of you? Quote of the Week: “There are very few men on this planet who are actually ok with their wives out-fucking producing them. The girl owns the money card AND the vagina card. She owns the victory, the gina, and the money.” –Garrett J White “When you weren’t my money, you weren’t my honey. When I hold all the control, there’s no chemistry.” –Danielle K White __________________________________________ Head over to Amazon to pick up your copy of Be the Man. warriorbook.com, dkwstyling.com, wakeupwarriorwoman.com

Sep 11, 2018 • 32min
The Cirque du Soleil of Married Sex | Date Your Wife | Ep 036
T With shots of tequila in their system and amidst the flirtatious back-and-forth bantering that easily doubles as foreplay, the White’s jump into another episode of the Date Your Wife podcast with a conversation around Garrett’s favorite topic, Sex. For the new listeners, Danielle explains QQP (Quickie, Quickie Pornstar) and they have an honest and revealing discussion about keeping married sex spicy. ________________________________________________________Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast….SEX Point #1: If You Don’t Mop the Floors, Somebody Else Will Danielle: Many women approach sex with a “let’s just get ‘er done” attitude. If guys go long enough with only a simple clean up job, they’re not going to be satisfied. Garrett: Danielle’s sex game in the last six months has gone through the roof. As a woman, she has literally blown my mind. QUESTION Where has mopping the floors in your marriage gotten you? Point #2: Avoiding the Shithole of Married Sex Danielle: Sometimes you have to act the part and play the role during sex. Entertain that idea and have fun with it. Just because you’re laying there with your legs spread open doesn’t mean that’s attractive. When you’re married, if you expect to have that chemistry and spark, play the fucking game. QUESTION What is the condition of your sex life? What are the facts? Point #3: Girls Just Want to Have Fun Danielle: I’m happy that my man is fulfilled When you have fun with sex, you man is feeling fulfilled. It’s fun for him and it’s fun for you – it goes both ways. Pretend you’re dating and ask yourself, How would I act? What would I do? Even after years of marriage, it becomes fun to entertain that thought and go with it. QUESTION Ladies, how do you feel about yourself when you just let yourself go and have fun? Point #4: The Sex Game Garrett: Many men have this faulty understanding about sex. They want to have sexual connection with their wife and they think that making money and investing in the children will get them that. At the end of the day, she wants sexual connection but she also wants something else – she wants attention. If you give that to her, she will support you in the sex game and it will bring your marriage together. QUESTION What are you expecting from your wife yet at the same time neglecting to give her? Point #5: Patterns Garrett has this pattern of putting the girls to sleep and engaging in their nighttime routine, while Danielle professes that she’s not a very routined mom: “Brush your own teeth, say your own prayers, tuck yourself in.” Garrett: There’s a lot of dad-guilt that comes when you work a lot. I do spend time with the girls in the mornings but I find I sometimes use them as an excuse to not have to be intimate with Danielle at night. QUESTION What patterns are in need of changing in order for you to make more time with your spouse? Communication Challenge: Gentlemen, if you want your floors more than mopped, what are you doing to create the environment for your wife to want to shine your floors? Date Night Topic: Have a converation about patterns that you see in your marriage and what you can begin doing today to change a pattern in one area of your life that will benefit your marriage. Quote of the Week: “The moon was out, the doors on our deck were open, and it was “Go Time.” –Garrett J White “In a relationship, if you say, “I don’t want to [have sex],” it’s honestly like starting a new workout. Put in the work now and eventually it gets easier. Before you know it, it’s actually kind of fun.” –Danielle K White __________________________________________ Head over to Amazon to pick up your copy of Be the Man. warriorbook.com, dkwstyling.com, wakeupwarriorwoman.com

Sep 4, 2018 • 28min
The Strength of Vulnerability | Date Your Wife | Ep 035
Danielle and Garrett are back inside the studio this week after leading 300 women through the powerful inaugural event, WarriorWomen. Knowing they have been called to serve, they are on a momentum high inside the Warrior Time Warp where change happens quickly when one is willing to be vulnerable and submit to the processes and evolutions, which Garrett and his family demonstrated themselves during a two-hour gut-wrenching and liberating experience. warriorbook.com, dkwstyling.com, wakeupwarriorwoman.com ________________________________________________________ Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast….COMMUNICATION Point #1: Vulnerability Danielle: Emotion is getting feelings out, vulnerability is digging deep and exposing who you really are. Garrett: I defined vulnerability as a weakness for a long time. What I’ve come to know is that there’s strength in vulnerability QUESTION How has your definition of being vulnerable shifted over the years? Point #2: Emotional Closure Garrett: Married at a very young age to my first wife, we experienced a lot of chaos and life was very difficult. After 18 months, she said she was done, I ran, and we ultimately divorced. For 16 years, I didn’t know how to be in their world; I didn’t know how to show up for my son. I unplugged and ignored. We never had any emotional closure to what happened. QUESTION Where in your world have you not experienced emotional closure and it’s time for that to happen? Point #3: Submission Brings Freedom Garrett: We submitted to a process of breaking down the hard shell. Diving into this, I had no fucking idea what would happen, but what I did know was that our experience would ultimately help millions of people. QUESTION What do you know you want to be released from that has held you in a prison? Point #4: Letting Go Danielle: The recurring theme that Kristi brought up was, “I felt like I wasn’t good enough for you. And now our son is with you – and again, I’m not good enough.” I felt the entire room was lighter, that everyone had released something. QUESTION What do you experience when you let things go? Point #5: The End. Garrett Garrett: Danielle was key to the reuniting of Parker and me. “Stop pretending like he’s your son and that you’re his father. You’re not. Right now, you’re just trying to decide if you can be friends.” QUESTION Where in your world do you need to change how you view yourself? Communication Challenge: What does it mean and look like in your marriage to be vulnerable? Date Night Topic: Date Night is one of the places you can get to that real, raw, and vulnerable place within your marriage. You have the space to talk without kids or others around. Have a conversation this week during Date Night and inside of that, get real, raw, and vulnerable – even if it means having an argument or collision. Quote of the Week: “One of the most intense two hours of my life was during WarriorWomen where I was on stage with my ex-wife, our son, my mother, and Danielle.” —Garrett J White “You didn’t lose Parker, this is just the next chapter where all of us get to be a part of his life.” —Danielle K White

Aug 28, 2018 • 29min
The Power of Space | Date Your Wife | Ep 034
The White’s discuss the importance of getting away as a couple in this week’s episode. ____________________________________________________________________ Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast….PARENTING Point #1: Reconnection Brings Rejuvenation Danielle: I think it’s crucial to have time together to reconnect, then when you go back home to the kids, you are rejuvenated. When our relationship is on point, kids notice. They can pick up on the energy between you and your significant other. QUESTION How do you show each other that remembering your anniversary important to you? Point #2: Mommy Guilt Danielle: It happens to all the moms I talk to. Even though you’re excited and have a good time, there’s always this weird anxiety leading up to the vacation. I feel that anxiety never really goes away unless you just push forward. You have to go on these trips and realize your kids are going to be just fine. QUESTION How do you as a couple deal with two different visions of where to invest your money? Point #3: Hiring Help Garrett: Can you see how your entire world has been held hostage by the fact that the only people you will trust to watch your children are your parents? The entire game from a guy’s perspective comes down to you as a man creating space for your wife. One of the big hurdles you’re going to have to overcome is getting your wife to be okay with hiring help that is not free and I not part of the family. QUESTION How do you and your wife feel about this? Point #4: Cashing In Chips Danielle: Free help is never free. I feel like there is this debt with the Universe with family. I watched your kids so you have to watch mine; I brought you dinner so you have to bring me dinner too. There’s always this unspoken feeling of cashing in of favors with family and close friends. There’s no such thing as free help when you go into it with the mindset of I will do this for you if you do this for me – then you owe me. QUESTION How often do you use your parents friends instead of hiring someone? Point #5: What’s Important to You? Garrett: Some guys are saying I don’t have enough money to get a babysitter. I say bullshit. You have enough money to put gas in your car; you’ll have enough money to get what you believe is important to you. Space away from the kids creates perspective and power -perspective on your children, on you as a couple and perspective on your life. QUESTION What are your priorities? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation around the topic of Free Help vs Hired Help. Date Night Topic: Talk about places you would like to go on your quarterly trips together, set the dates, and begin making plans for it. Quote of the Week: “When you move away from working in the family and inthe relationship, and start to work on the relationship and on the family by taking trips and date nights away, you gain perspective. And that perspective is your power.” —Garrett J White “All you ladies out there, stop trying to be superwoman. It’s not serving you. Surrender to the fact that date nights are important and vacations are important, regardless of the anxiety you have surrounding your children. Guess what. You’re not the only one that can parent for your children.” —Danielle K White