The Connection with Marty Moss-Coane

Author Oliver Burkeman on why it’s time to settle for your imperfections and ditch the relentless self-help messaging of productivity and control.

Psychologist John Kounios on our creative brain and those “eureka moments.” Plus, how composer Jennifer Higdon channels her creativity into her music.

Is caregiving a public or private responsibility?

Brothers Howard and Bryan Stevenson reflect on their Delaware childhood, their social justice work and how to make sense of these troubled times.

No one is perfect. We all make mistakes, disappoint people we care about and fall short from time to time. We know that’s true and yet, it is tough to be criticized. It can make us feel like a failure…ashamed, exposed, vulnerable. On this episode, giving and taking criticism at home and at work. We’ll talk about the difference between constructive and destructive criticism, the role of trust and empathy when delivering and receiving negative feedback, why the “feedback sandwich” doesn’t work, and how to handle the loudest critic of all: the one in our head. We’re joined by psychologist Andrea Bonior, author of Detox Your Thoughts: Quit Negative Self-Talk for Good and Discover the Life You’ve Always Wanted and Christine Porath, professor of management at the University of North Carolina, Chapel Hill and the author of Managing Civility.

Couples therapist Terry Real explains how to resolve conflict and maintain intimacy for lasting relationships.

Victor Frankl survived 4 death camps during WW2 while losing his parents, his brother and his wife to Hitler’s murderous regime. While Frankl experienced the worst of humanity and the terrors of human suffering, he realized that finding meaning, even in Auschwitz, was essential to survival and living a life of purpose. What guidance can Frankl and other existential thinkers of that time offer us to deal with the stresses and uncertainties of today’s world? Our guest, social and cultural psychologist Steven Heine, says that everything we do is “wrapped up in layers of meaning” and that connection is at the root of a life well-lived. His book is, Start Making Sense: How Existential Psychology Can Help Us Build Meaningful Lives in Absurd Times.

Charles Darwin was the first to define the psychology of disgust, writing in the 19th century that it was a feeling of revulsion related to the senses most notably the sense of taste. Today, psychologist Paul Rozin is one of the world’s leading authorities on disgust describing it as “the fear of incorporating an offending substance into one’s body.” He has devised some ingenious experiments to tap into the feelings and expressions of disgust like, the dead-cockroach-in-drink test, and has developed a 32 item disgust scale. While we tend to associate disgust with the smell of decay or the taste of spoiled food, disgust has cultural, political and social implications. This week, Paul Rozin takes us into the inner workings of disgust: why we grimace when we feel disgust, the role of disgust in evolution, why we find some things nauseating, and the moral implications of disgust. Rozin has spent 50 years exploring this stomach-turning emotion and is a professor emeritus at the University of Pennsylvania.

Sarah Bergenfield, an autism educator and author, shares her journey of navigating life with autism after a diagnosis in her 50s. She discusses the confusion and challenges of sensory overload and societal expectations. Maureen Dunne, a cognitive scientist and neurodiversity expert, highlights the necessity of including neurodivergent thinkers in the workplace to inspire innovation. Together, they emphasize the importance of understanding and embracing neurodiversity as a valuable strength, promoting acceptance and supportive environments for all.

Memory is not a file cabinet or computer where information is neatly stored and easily retrieved. We are constructing and reconstructing our memories all the time. Psychologist Ciara Greene says we should think of memory as the bricks in a LEGO tower that we are constantly reassembling. She is co-author of a new book, Memory Lane: The Perfectly Imperfect Ways We Remember. While our memories can be unreliable and malleable, they are also a key to our identity, including the decisions we make, the social bonds we form and how we make sense of the world. We’ll talk about how memory has evolved to help us solve problems, why eye witness testimony is often wrong, how emotions influence memory, why we forget and why fake news and false memories can feel so real. Ciara Greene leads the Attention and Memory Lab at University College Dublin.