The Connection with Marty Moss-Coane

Slavery in America ripped a million Black families apart as they were sold, and often resold in the years leading up to the Civil War. After emancipation, desperate mothers, fathers and children placed advertisements in and wrote letters to newspapers looking for their lost loved ones. Many of their searches continued for decades, into the 20th century. Judith Giesberg has created a digital archive of the ads and letters and highlighted ten of these personal stories in her new book, Last Seen. They are an inspiring testament to the power of family and freedom and cruel realities of slavery. This week, the lost and found legacy of family separation. Judith Giesberg is a professor of history at Villanova University. Also joining us is Adrienne Whaley, an educator and genealogist.

We all have something in common: we’re going to die one day. It’s a scary thing to think about, much less talk about. But Alua Arthur thinks about and talks about death a lot. She is an end-of-life doula, helping people find some semblance of peace as they go through the dying process. Years ago, when Arthur was deeply depressed, she met a woman on a bus in Cuba who had cancer and was traveling the world before she died. Their personal conversations helped bring Alua back to life and set her on this career path. Her book, Briefly Perfectly Human: Making an Authentic Life by Getting Real About the End, is part memoir, and full of moving stories about what people want when they are dying. The organization she founded, Going with Grace, provides end of life planning, training, and support.

Stress, exhaustion and negativity can lead to workplace burnout. Kandi Wiens explains how to reset your relationship with work.

Jennifer Finney Boylan reflects on her life as a transgender women and the ongoing fight for acceptance and rights.

Psychologist Ethan Kross explains how to master your emotional life.

Psychology professor Tessa West on why job satisfaction doesn’t mean you have to love for your work. Her new book is “Job Therapy: Finding Work that Works for You.”

It’s not easy to say no or to speak up if you disagree with someone or object to something that someone has said or done because it’s wrong. It often feels easier to just comply, to go along to get along, to defer especially when dealing with people in power. Organizational psychologist Sunita Sah says we pay a big emotional price when we do things against our better judgement. Dr. Sah was a self described “good girl” growing up and has spent her professional life studying defiance, ethics, advice and authority. In her new book, Defy, she writes that defiance is not always about rudeness or disobedience, rather “it’s about acting in accordance with your values when faced with the pressure to do otherwise.” Of course that means knowing what your values are. On The Connection this week: when defiance is better than compliance…how to speak up when it matters.

Marketing companies can be pretty sneaky when trying to get new customers. Instead of straightforward sales pitches, they’ve turned to manipulative tactics used by cults.

Do you dread wintertime? Learn how to love it. Psychologist Kari Leibowitz explains how to cultivate a winter mindset to cope with cold days and the dark times in life.

Do you feel blah? Does your life feel drab and unexciting? Do you have a vague sense of emptiness? You could be languishing…and you’re not alone.