

How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Connell Barrett
Yes, you can get a great girlfriend! And dating coach Connell Barrett will show you how to confidently connect with women by being authentic—no creepy pickup moves needed. On the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, Connell offers the kinds of tested dating tips he shared in his bestselling book, Dating Sucks but You Don’t, and in his TV appearances (GMA, “Today.”) In his 12 years as a coach, Connell has helped thousands of men in 17 countries find love. No wonder Psychology Today named him “America’s top dating coach for men.” Connell personally faced—and fixed—every common dating problem, from not knowing how to flirt to dating-app struggles to low self-confidence. After meeting his dream girlfriend Jess, Connell now helps nice guys and gentlemen find love by dating with “Radical Authenticity.” Ready to meet your soulmate? Join Connell and his expert guests every week for game-changing advice. Carpe date ’em. Seize the date!
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Oct 7, 2025 • 30min
How Shy Robbie Got 5 Numbers in 3 Hours! Steal This Move for Fearless Approaching
Robbie, 26, is a shy software engineer who had never approached a woman in a bar—until one Friday night when dating coach Connell Barrett taught him the Hero Approach. It’s a bold move you make to start a night that unlocks authentic confidence. Three hours later, Robbie had collected 5 phone numbers. “I’m in god mode,” he said at one point. In this episode, you’ll learn how to use the Hero Approach to fearlessly meet women anywhere!Highlights of this Episode:04:47: Meet Robbie, Who Battled Approach Anxiety and Self-Doubt07:10: The Hero Approach: The Game-Changing Move to Unlock Confidence09:35: “Approach Her or I’ll Put You in a Headlock”—Coach Connell Gets Tough12:00: Robbie Reaches “God Mode” and Gets 5 Phone Numbers15:03: Three Approaching Myths DestroyedBOOK A FREE CONSULT CALL WITH DATING COACH CONNELL BARRETT TO LEARN ABOUT HIS 1-on-1 COACHING: http://www.datingtransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL AND HE WILL SEND YOU A FREE COPY OF HIS BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com

Oct 2, 2025 • 29min
5 Fixes to Make Your Online Dating Profile a Match Magnet Today—New Photos NOT Needed
Struggling to get matches on Hinge, Bumble or Tinder? It’s not your looks, and it’s not the dating apps. It’s your profile. Small but costly mistakes make women swipe left. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares five proven “Match Magnet” fixes you can apply today—using the photos you already have. No photo shoot, no stress. Just make 5 simple upgrades to turn your profile into match-generating machine.Episode Highlights:04:30: Match Magnet #1: Be Hilarious, Not Handsome10:04: Match Magnet #2: Entice Her with a Good Travel Shot12:31: Match Magnet #3: Replace Red Flags with Green Flags16:30: Match Magnet #4: Get Down & Flirty21:31: Match Magnet #5: Tug at Her HeartstringsBOOK A FREE CONSULT WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF 1-1 DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: http://www.DatingTransformation.com

Sep 30, 2025 • 1h 12min
From Playdates to First Dates: The Single Dad’s Dating Reset (Live Coaching with Zach!)
Online dating is tough for most men. But when you’re a single dad, it’s hard to find the energy and motivation. In this live coaching session, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett helps his client Zach—a single dad re-entering the dating world—improve both his online dating profile and his mindset. Don’t miss Zach’s breakthrough moment (at the 42-minute mark) when he realizes the real reason he’s not meeting the kinds of women he’s into. Listen now!Episode Highlights:13:36: The Funny ‘DILF’ Prompt that Gets Women Laughing and Writing You Back26:02: How to Navigate Your Busy Schedule and Still Get Dates43:10: Zach’s “Aha!” Moment: “This is Why I Haven’t Had more Dates!”59:25: Zach Unlocks the Power of Fearless Flirting1:08:09: The Secret to Motivation, Action… and a Date by this WeekendDO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF 1-ON-1 DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:http://www.DatingTransformation.com

Sep 25, 2025 • 52min
Stop! Getting! Ghosted! The 5 Flirting Escalators to Turn First Dates into Second (and Third and Eighth) Dates
More live coaching! Join dating coach and bestselling author (“Dating Sucks but You Don’t”) Connell Barrett as he helps his client Evan break through a big roadblock: getting ghosted after first dates. Connell reveals the 5 Flirting Escalators—the crucial steps Evan was missing. Get ready to stop hearing “I’m not feeling a connection” and start hearing “When are we going out again?” Listen now.DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF 1-ON-1 DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: http://www.DatingTransformation.com

Sep 23, 2025 • 33min
‘My Penis is Small. Should I Have Surgery to Impress Women?’ Dating Coach Connell Barrett Takes Your Questions
Insecurities don’t have to crush your confidence and hurt your dating life. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett takes on a listener’s raw question about penis size and enlargement surgery. Plus, Connell shares the right (and wrong) way to use A.I. in your online-dating strategy. And he reveals the right way to text women between dates.You’re About to Learn:01:39: Will $16,000 Penis Enlargement Surgery Fix a Man’s Dating Confidence?14:55: A Simple Sex Tip to Make You Feel 2 Inches Bigger16:51: The Right vs. Wrong Way to Use ChatGPT in Online Dating29:10: This is How Often You Should Text Her Between DatesDO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF 1-ON-1 DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: http://www.DatingTransformation.com

Sep 18, 2025 • 32min
Women Reveal the Truth: Approaching is Charming, Not Creepy—if You Do THIS
Do you want to confidently meet attractive women you see in bars, cafes or the gym… but you’re afraid you’ll seem creepy? Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett has good news: Woman WANT you to approach—if you do it the right way. Your fear of approaching is about to end! Plus, Connell reveals exactly what to say to break the ice and what NOT to say.DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING: http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com

Sep 16, 2025 • 52min
Become a Magnetic Flirt on First Dates in 3 Simple Moves (Live Coaching with Matthew)
Awkward silences, small talk that goes nowhere, the dreaded “I’m just not feeling” text. Bad dates suck! In this live-coaching episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett helps his client Matthew go from the nice, lonely guy who runs out of things to say to a magnetic flirt who women cannot resist. Discover the 3 flirting moves that Matthew is using to create playful, authentic chemistry on dates. Listen now!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:http://www.datingtransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com

Sep 11, 2025 • 37min
“His Coke Dealer Came to the Date!” 5 Funny Dating Disasters to Keep YOU from Being Her Horror Story
Want to know what NOT to do on a date? Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares five cringe-worthy dating disasters. From the investment banker whose cocaine dealer made a surprise appearance, to Connell’s double-decker bus ride straight to the Friend Zone, these cautionary tales will help you avoid becoming her next dating nightmare.Highlights—Err, Lowlights?—of this Episode:05:34: MURDER, SHE WATCHED: Maybe Don’t Show Her Your Student Film Where You “Kill” Someone12:03: BUS RIDE TO THE FRIEND ZONE: Why Grand Gestures Just Don’t Work20:54: AREOLA GRANDE: Because There’s No Good Time to Ask Her Nipple Size25:50: FIRST DATE, LAST RITES: “Here Are Pics from My Grandma’s Funeral. So How About a Second Date?”31:25: COKE-BLOCKED! Meet the Banker Who Brought His Coke Dealer as a Plus-OneBOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-ON-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com

Sep 9, 2025 • 42min
Will You Find True Love—or End Up Settling? It All Comes Down to ONE Thing
Have you ever deleted a dating app in frustration? Or stopped yourself from following up after being left “on read”? Quitting too soon only leads to settling—or staying single. The solution is resilience. In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals how grit and tenacity can help you land more dates, build confidence, and find the relationship you want. Love or loneliness—the deciding factor is resilience.BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-ON-1 COACHING: http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com

Sep 4, 2025 • 32min
The Shy Guy’s Advantage: 5 Approaching Secrets to Help Introverts Confidently Connect with Women
Approaching women as a shy, introverted guy can feel terrifying. But that shyness is actually your hidden advantage. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals 5 powerful shifts to help introverts confidently meet women in real life. You’ll also discover his go-to icebreaker that almost always works.BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-ON-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com