How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett

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Aug 7, 2025 • 49min

Stop Getting Ghosted! The 10 Texting Commandments that Get Women Writing You Back (Textual Healing, Part 2)

Tired of getting ghosted? Do your texting conversations die faster than a fruit fly? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares his 10 Texting Commandments—his tested rules to get women texting you back and saying yes to dates. Yea, thou SHALT obey these holy rules, and ye shall soon get ye some dates!The 10 Texting Commandments:04:00: Thou Shalt Give Authentic Value07:15: Thou Shalt Not Over-Read the Texting Tea Leaves15:51: Thou Shalt Follow the ‘Three Times Rule’12:49: Thou Shalt Not Fear the Double-Text22:45: Thou Shalt Change Her Mood, Not Her Mind26:12: Thou Shalt Text Her Leading Up to the First Date31:40: Thou Shalt Lower the Bar for How Good Your Texts Must Be34:08: Thou Shalt Ask Her Good Questions37:26: Thou Shalt Use Photos, Videos and Voice Notes40:35: Thou Shalt Ask Her Out43:02: Bonus Commandment! Thou Shalt Text Her the Day After a DateREADY TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL:www.DatingTransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL'S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T”? EMAIL CONNELL:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Aug 5, 2025 • 44min

How to Stop Settling in Love: A Therapist Explains Why You Choose the Wrong Relationships (with Jason VanRuler)

Have you ever settled for a woman who wasn’t what you were looking for, but you felt she was the best you could do? Licensed therapist and author Jason VanRuler reveals how hidden childhood wounds quietly shape your dating choices—and how to finally heal and move forward. You’ll learn why men settle, how to escape a “shadow” love life, and get a plan to help you finally find the relationship you really want.Episode Highlights:07:12: The Panic Attack Connell Once Had about Dating and What it Reveals14:45: The Psychology Behind Settling in Love and Life25:45: How to Stop Living a “Shadow Life”28:54: How to Enjoy the Process of Dating36:16: The “Business Partner Test” to Know if She’s the One38:58: Where Introverted Men Should Go to Meet Quality WomenTO DOWNLOAD JASON’S FREE ‘LIFE AUDIT’:http://JasonVR.comREAD JASON’S BESTSELLING BOOK ‘GET PAST YOUR PAST’:Available on AmazonFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF DATING COACHINGIS RIGHT FOR YOU:http://Datingtransformation.com
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Jul 31, 2025 • 1h 5min

Spank You Very Much: The Nice Guy’s Guide to Hot, Shame-Free Sex (with Kink Expert Amanda Dames)

You may not know it, but you are kinky… and so is your next date! That’s right—a whopping 95 percent of singles are kinky, according to certified sexologist Amanda Dames, who joins dating coach Connell Barrett in a juicy episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend.” Dames, host of the Kink Consultant Podcast, will teach you how to have hot, fun, shame-free sex, even if you’re sexually inexperienced.Episode Highlights Include:02:23: From Wall Street to Dominatrix—Amanda’s Wild Origin Story06:14: The Truth About Sexual Shame (and How to Finally Get Past It)16:47: Amanda’s Foolproof Foreplay Rules Every Man Should Know26:55: How to Bring Up Kink on Dates Without Killing the Vibe30:21: Why Some Women Want to Be “Choked” and How to Do It Safely41:21: Why 95 Percent of Us Are Kinky44:55: The Kinky Dating App You MUST TryFOLLOW AMANDA ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY KINK TIPS:@‌The_KinkConsultantGET AMANDA’S FREE KINK WORKSHEET:AmandaDames.comLISTEN TO MORE JUICY STORIES ON “THE KINK CONSULTANT” PODCASTREADY TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL:DatingTransformation.com
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Jul 29, 2025 • 31min

Textual Healing: The New Way to Text and Get Dates—Play, Play, Play… Pull the Trigger (Part 1 of 3)

Do you struggle with texting women? Do you feel like you’re always one boring message away from getting ghosted? Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals his powerful new texting framework to make your messages magnetic: “Play, Play, Play, Pull the Trigger.” You’ll learn how to confidently flirt over text so you get a lot more dates. Plus, you’ll hear how one woman went from rejecting Connell to asking HIM out—just from a short text exchange.Episode Highlights Include:01:15: Connell Sings! (Be Very Afraid)02:35: The “Play, Play, Play, Pull the Trigger” Texting Framework Explained03:45: First She Rejected Connell, Then She Chased HIM for a Date11:19: What Most Guys Get Wrong About Texting (and How to Fix It)17:13: Yes, Good Texting is Learnable—Here’s Why21:57: Connell Walks You Through a Flirty Text Exchange that Led to a DateREADY TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL:www.DatingTransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL'S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T”? EMAIL CONNELL:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Jul 24, 2025 • 1h 5min

The One Flirting Secret that Changes Everything—from Apps to Dates to Charming Approaches

Are you unsure how to talk to women—on the apps or in real life? Tired of being seen as “just a friend”? Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett teaches you his secret weapon: Man-to-Woman Communication. You’re about to learn his turbo-charged flirting method. You’re about to know exactly what to say to spark real chemistry with women, from the dating apps to first dates to approaching with charm.Episode Highlights Include:07:45: How to Finally Escape the Friend Zone16:15: The Secret to Sparking Romantic Attraction (It’s Not What You Think)25:30: How to Lead with Charm and Class—without Coming Off Controlling34:20: Say This to Make Her Swoon on First Dates42:30: How to Ignite Sexual Tension Using Only Your EyesDO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, ‘DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T’:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Jul 22, 2025 • 1h 16min

The Write Stuff: How to Turn Your Boring Bio into a Match Magnet (Live Coaching with Clint)

Struggling on the apps? It’s not you—it’s your boring bio. In this live coaching session, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett helps his new client, Clint, take his profile from generic to magnetic. You’ll learn how to write an irresistible bio in just 3 lines, add charming humor that women love, and finally land matches and dates.Episode Highlights:04:15: Why Your Dating Bio Doesn’t Work and How to Fix It12:58: The 3-Line Bio Formula to Get Her Swiping Right33:00: The Power Question to Put on Your Profile Today47:10: The Funny ‘DILF’ Prompt that Gets Single Dads Dates54:15: How to Ask for Her Number1:04:41: Do This to Never Run Out of Things to Say1:08:47: The Smooth Way to Land the Second Date (Without Asking!)FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:www.datingtransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL'S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, "DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T"? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE "FREE BOOK" IN THE SUBJECT LINE TO GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Jul 17, 2025 • 30min

The Content Trap: Use My ‘80/20 Rule’ to Go from Overthinking to Effortless Flirting

Social media is ruining your love life. You watch tons of dating advice, but you still struggle with women, right? You’ve fallen into the Content Trap—trying to remember so many tips that you overthink every move. In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals why consuming too much TikTok or YouTube content kills your confidence. And his ‘80/20 Rule’ will help unlock your most fun, flirty, authentic self—without trying hard. Because women like you for YOU, not your “game.” Period.You’re About to Learn:01:07: Why Brett’s Try-Hard First Dates Lead to Rejection07:11: Why Treating Women Like “Results” Kills Connection10:14: The Cringe Date that Taught Connell a Priceless Lesson18:31: How the ‘80/20’ Rule Gets You Out of Your Head and Into Her Heart26:29: The Three P’s to Unlock Great First Dates27:50: Stop Consuming Content—Do THIS InsteadFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:www.datingtransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Jul 15, 2025 • 1h 6min

The Neuroscience of Attraction: How to Rewire Your Brain for Dating Success (with Harvard’s Dr. Ali Binazir)

Ever wonder, “Am I enough to find love?” Harvard-educated physician Ali Binazir has a hopeful answer! The man behind the “Trillion Sided Dice” theory of existence (seriously, it’ll break your brain) shares his own dating journey—still a virgin at 23—and the breakthroughs that changed everything. Plus, Binazir, co-author of the bestselling book “The 5 Hidden Love Questions,” explains why approach anxiety is hardwired into your brain, how to flip limiting beliefs, and reveals his charisma formula to help you become more magnetic.You’re About to Learn:01:14: The Trillion-Sided Dice Theory: Why Your Existence Is Literally a Miracle06:22: How Gratitude Can Destroy Your Fear of Dating Rejection13:23: The 5 Hidden Love Questions that Sabotage Your Romantic Life20:31: The Science Behind Your Fear of Approaching—and How to Start Meeting Women27:59: How Dr. Ali Went from a Virgin at Age 23 to Dating Success41:58: The Neuroscience of Happiness: Why Being Happy Attracts Love56:07: The 30-Second Charisma Formula to Create AttractionLEARN MORE ABOUT DR. ALI BINAZIR: http://TaoOfDating.com and http://HappinessEngineering.comGET ‘THE 5 HIDDEN LOVE QUESTIONS’ ON AMAZONFREE TRAINING:Get Dr. Ali’s “Super Charisma: How to Be a Transformative Speaker” course free at http://TaoOfDating.comTO TAKE DR. ALI’s ‘TUNE UP YOUR LIFE’ COURSE: Email him at DrAliB@TaoOfDating.com or DrAli@HappinessEngineering.comFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND: Datingtransformation.com
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Jul 10, 2025 • 1h 11min

From Invisible to Irresistible: The 7 Dating Superpowers that Ignite Attraction—Even if You’re Shy or Introverted

Why do some men effortlessly attract women while guys like you get overlooked? It comes down to mastering the 7 Dating Superpowers. Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals the 7 super attractors that make women think, “Wow, he’s different from other guys!” Whether you want to confidently approach, take your texting skills to new levels, or have great first dates, this encore episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend” will help you transform your love life.Here are the 7 Dating Superpowers You’re About to Learn:9:43: Fearless Approaching so You Can Start Conversations with Women Anywhere15:07: Effortless Flirting so You Can Be Charming and Attractive21:15: Magnetic Charisma so Women Feel Drawn to Your Authentic Self34:14: Unshakable Confidence so “Rejection” Can’t Hurt You40:03: Top-Tier Texting so You’ll Go from “Unread” to Setting Up Dates51:33: Vibe Mastery so Your Dates Are Flirty and Sexy59:48: Decisive Leadership so Women Trust You and See You as Boyfriend MaterialDiscover your dating superpower and become irresistible—as your most authentic self (no creepy pickup moves needed!)FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:http://www.datingtransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL'S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, "DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T"? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE "FREE BOOK" IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU'LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Jul 8, 2025 • 45min

The Professional Man’s Paradox: Why You Succeed at Work but Struggle with Women (with Matchmaker Lisa Goodman)

Isn’t it frustrating to achieve career success yet struggle with women? Dating coach Connell Barrett calls this the “Professional Man’s Dating Paradox.” Simply put, the communication skills that help you excel at work can actually hurt your love life. Renowned matchmaker Lisa Goodman, of Selective Search, is here to help. Goodman reveals why your career strengths can be dating weaknesses—and shares proven strategies to turn boardroom skills into romantic confidence. Get ready to succeed not just at work, but in dating too!You’re About to Learn:07:33: Why You Should Pick Up the Phone Instead of Texting10:31: The Right Way to Talk to Women on First Dates21:31: How to Tell if Your Date is Going Well (It’s All in Her Eyes)34:00: The Truth About First Kisses (When and How to Go for It)40:10: Why Women Want You to Approach Them (Straight from a Female Expert)LEARN MORE ABOUT LISA GOODMAN AND SELECTIVE SEARCH MATCHMAKING:http://www.selectivesearch.comFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:http://www.datingtransformation.comGET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, ‘DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T’:Email Connell: Connell@datingtransformation.com

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