

How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Connell Barrett
Yes, you can get a great girlfriend! And dating coach Connell Barrett will show you how to confidently connect with women by being authentic—no creepy pickup moves needed. On the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, Connell offers the kinds of tested dating tips he shared in his bestselling book, Dating Sucks but You Don’t, and in his TV appearances (GMA, “Today.”) In his 12 years as a coach, Connell has helped thousands of men in 17 countries find love. No wonder Psychology Today named him “America’s top dating coach for men.” Connell personally faced—and fixed—every common dating problem, from not knowing how to flirt to dating-app struggles to low self-confidence. After meeting his dream girlfriend Jess, Connell now helps nice guys and gentlemen find love by dating with “Radical Authenticity.” Ready to meet your soulmate? Join Connell and his expert guests every week for game-changing advice. Carpe date ’em. Seize the date!
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Jan 15, 2026 • 1h 5min
‘I Was Getting Ghosted on the Dating Apps, but Now Women Reply to My Openers’ (Live Coaching with Evan)
You get matches, but then you’re not sure what to write for your opener. You don’t want to sound boring or try-hard, so you overthink it, and the conversation dies before it begins. In this live coaching session, dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes his client Evan, who got great at writing openers that women reply to. Plus, Evan gives some tips on how to meet women in coffee shops and get instant dates, just like he does.Episode Highlights03:20: From Shaking Hands to 80+ Confident Approaches—Evan’s Transformation]06:01: What to Say and Not Say When You Approach09:15: The Coffee Shop Icebreaker that Led Evan to a Make-Out in Just 30 Minutes!18:45: The Funny Hinge Opener that Gets Women Writing You Back1:01:02: The One Dating Tip Every Guy Needs to HearBOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW 1-ON-1 COACHING CAN HELP YOU MEET WOMEN AND FLIRT WITH CHARM:DatingTransformation.com

Jan 8, 2026 • 24min
Fix the Flirting Flaw that Creeps Women Out (the New Rules of Dating, Part 2)
Are you ready to flirt with women without coming off as “creepy”? In Part 2 of his 26 New Rules of Dating, bestselling author and dating coach Connell Barrett reveals the invisible blind spot that makes good guys accidentally seem creepy—and he helps you fix it. Learn how to flirt with confidence and authenticity, and make 2026 the year you meet your dream girlfriend.Episode Highlights:01:47: The Classy Approaching Move that Women Find Fascinating06:58: Do This to Get Girls Texting You Back13:13: The Right and Wrong Way to Use A.I. on the Apps16:34: The Flirting Flaw that Makes Decent Men Seem Creepy20:37: The Question to Ask on Every First DateBOOK A FREE CALL WITH DATING COACH CONNELL BARRETT TO LEARN IF 1-ON-1 COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL TO GET A FREE COPY OF HIS BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:connell@datingtransformation.com

Jan 6, 2026 • 28min
Bad Dating Advice Has Failed Decent Men: Here Are 26 New Rules for 2026 That Actually Work (Part 1)
Be mysterious. Don’t double-text. Use “tricks” to make her chase you. Yuck! Most dating advice is as outdated as flip phones and Fax machines. The old playbook just doesn’t work. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett unveils his 26 New Dating Rules for 2026. In part 1, he shares how to be kind and confident, why texting “like a girl” is a good thing (seriously!), and reveals the playful dating app opener that women love.Episode Highlights:02:05: Why Women Want You to Talk to Them IRL (and How to Do It)07:05: How to Channel Your First Date Nerves to Spark a Connection09:14: The Dating App Opener You Must Try20:50: The Dreaded Mistake to Stop Making on Dates24:51: Talk about This to NEVER Run Out of Things to SayBOOK A FREE CALL WITH DATING COACH CONNELL BARRETT TO LEARN IF 1-ON-1 COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL TO GET A FREE COPY OF HIS BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:connell@datingtransformation.com

Dec 26, 2025 • 25min
Stop Freezing Up! What to Say to Meet Women in Real Life (No Weird Pickup Lines Needed)
You see women you’d love to meet IRL, but you just don’t know what to say. So you freeze up. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares his What-to-Say Method, a simple, rejection-proof framework that makes it easy to meet women in bars, coffee-shops, or the gym. Learn how to start light, flirty conversations without memorized scripts or awkward pickup lines—and finally feel confident talking to women anywhere.Episode Highlights:02:17: The What to Say Method: 3 Simple Ways to Break the Ice Anywhere05:52: Option A: The Charming Compliment07:15: Option B: The Insightful Question10:39: Option C: The Playful Observation17:15: Client Win: How Robbie Went from Anxiety to Instant Coffee Dates20:45: What to Do if You STILL Freeze When You Want to Talk to WomenBOOK A FREE CONSULTATION CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO APPLY HIS WHAT-TO-SAY METHOD AND MEET WOMEN IRL:www.DatingTransformation.com

Dec 23, 2025 • 1h 1min
“I Approached a Woman and 2 Strangers Literally Applauded Me” (Live Coaching with Andrew)
Andrew was the dateless, anxious guy who never approached women. Now, he gets numbers and dates—and after one especially bold effort, two strangers literally applauded him. In this live coaching session with dating coach Connell Barrett, Andrew breaks down the simple, practical strategies that changed everything. Andrew isn’t a natural extrovert. He just did the work. And if he can do this, you can too.EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS02:10: From Anxious to Approaching Women Anywhere35:55: The Daily Confidence Ritual that Changed Everything38:25: Exactly What Andrew Said to Her that Sparked an Instant Make-out43:47: The Exact Moment Andrew’s Fear of Approaching Vanished46:42: What to Say When A Woman You’re Dating Asks, “Are We Exclusive?”BOOK A FREE CALL WITH BESTSELLING AUTHOR CONNELL BARRETT TO LEARN IF 1-ON-1 COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL TO GET A FREE COPY OF HIS BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: connell@datingtransformation.com

Dec 18, 2025 • 31min
‘I Sent a Voice Note About Her Boobs…to HER! Can I Recover?’ Dating Coach Connell Barrett Breaks It Down
Ever had a jaw-dropping dating disaster? Wait until you hear about the guy who sent a cringe-worthy voice note about his date’s breasts… directly to her! But what if a screwup like that gets her MORE into him? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett answers listener questions, reveals why dating disasters happen, and shares how to recover with confidence and class.Episode Highlights:00:54: The Vexing Voice Note: How Screwing Up Can Actually Help You02:35: Whoops! Connell “Hits On” a Stranger—in Front of His Date05:40: The 3-Step Framework to Recover from a Dating Disaster16:47: The Do’s and Don’ts of Sexting21:58: Exactly How Many Texts to Send to Get a First DateBOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW HIS 1-ON-1 COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM WOMAN: www.DatingTransformation.com

Dec 16, 2025 • 25min
From Ghosted to Getting Great Dates: The 26 New Rules of Online Dating for 2026 (Part 2)
Online dating is changing faster than you can say “swipe.” And not knowing what works on the apps in 2026 will cost you matches, dates… and even keep you from finding love. In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals the rest of his 26 new rules for online dating success in 2026. Apply these practical tips to go from frustration to finally getting great dates—just like Connell’s clients do.Episode Highlights:01:45: The New Way to Use Audio Prompts on Hinge10:10: How the “3 Passions Rule” Makes Your Bio Magnetic12:00: What Causes Swiping Fatigue—and How to Fix It16:41: How to Set Up a First Date in Just 3 Messages19:23: Connell’s Texting Framework to Stop Getting GhostedBOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO LEARN WHY AUTHENTICITY IS THE SECRET WEAPON TO IMPROVING YOUR DATING LIFE: www.DatingTransformation.comGET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T.” EMAIL HIM WITH THE SUBJECT LINE “FREE BOOK” & GET YOURS TODAY! Connell@DatingTransformation.com

Dec 11, 2025 • 36min
Online Dating Is Brutal in 2026—Here Are 26 New Rules to Finally Get Good Matches (Part 1)
You’re exhausted by the dating apps, right? The endless swiping, the scarcity of matches, the ghosting. The problem? Online dating has changed, and most guys are still using outdated strategies. In this two-part episode, dating coach Connell Barrett breaks down his 26 new rules for online dating in 2026. It’s time to match more, get ghosted less, and finally find your dream woman in the new year.Episode Highlights:03:30: The Biggest Myth About Online Dating that Changes Everything07:20: How to Choose Photos You KNOW Will Work (Backed by Data)13:27: Survival of the Spiciest: The Prompt Women Respond To19:02: Replace Your Opening Photo with This33:12: The Secret to Taking Your Bio from Boring to Swipe-ableBOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW HIS COACHING CAN HELP YOU MEET THE GIRLFRIEND YOU’VE ALWAYS WANTED: www.DatingTransformation.com

Dec 4, 2025 • 35min
Introducing The 6 Icks: A New Dating Framework to Never Be Creepy—and Always Flirt with Charm
Chances are, you freeze up around women because you’re afraid of seeming weird or creepy. You just don’t want to give women “the ick,” right? In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett proudly unveils his new framework: The 6 Icks—the 6 core behaviors that creep women out. Once you know them, you’re free to make confident, calibrated moves without seeming pushy or inappropriate.Episode Highlights:02:45: The Moment Connell Learned How to Approach with Charm, Not Creepiness12:15: The Sex Object Ick: Leading with Sexual Comments that Objectify Women13:05: The Too Timid Ick: Hesitant, Fearful Energy that Feels Uncomfortable14:20: The Me-First Ick: Making It About What You Want, Rather than a Win-Win15:22: The Try-Hard Ick: Desperate Bragging, Instead of Authentic Core Confidence16:35: The Signal-Blind Ick: Missing or Ignoring Her Cues and Escalating the Wrong Way20:01: The Agenda Ick: Using Manipulative Tactics & Ignoring Her BoundariesBOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW 1-ON-1 COACHING CAN HELP YOU MEET WOMEN AND FLIRT WITH CHARM:DatingTransformation.com

Dec 3, 2025 • 38min
The Truth about Liquid Courage + 9 Ways to Make Sobriety Your New Edge in Dating (Part 3)
Dating sober raises real questions: Will women find you less interesting without alcohol? How do you handle social anxiety at bars or parties without “liquid courage”? And is liquid courage even real? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett answers 10 questions from sober (and sober-curious) men, revealing how to unlock core confidence, enjoy great dates, and make sobriety your new edge in dating.WANT TO MEET YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND IN 90 DAYS OR LESS? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF HIS 1-ON-1 COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: http://DatingTransformation.com


