

How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Connell Barrett
Yes, you can get a great girlfriend! And dating coach Connell Barrett will show you how to confidently connect with women by being authentic—no creepy pickup moves needed. On the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, Connell offers the kinds of tested dating tips he shared in his bestselling book, Dating Sucks but You Don’t, and in his TV appearances (GMA, “Today.”) In his 12 years as a coach, Connell has helped thousands of men in 17 countries find love. No wonder Psychology Today named him “America’s top dating coach for men.” Connell personally faced—and fixed—every common dating problem, from not knowing how to flirt to dating-app struggles to low self-confidence. After meeting his dream girlfriend Jess, Connell now helps nice guys and gentlemen find love by dating with “Radical Authenticity.” Ready to meet your soulmate? Join Connell and his expert guests every week for game-changing advice. Carpe date ’em. Seize the date!
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Oct 30, 2025 • 30min
From No Dates to 2 Dates a Week: New Strategies to Fill Your Dating Dance Card
Has it been months—or even years—since you had a first date with an incredible woman? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett explains why your options are scarce, and how to fix it. He’ll walk you through three proven ways to meet women so you can go from zero dates to two quality dates a week.You’re About to Learn:02:25: Why You’re Dateless (and Why It’s About to Change)04:55: How Connell Went from Lonely to Landing 3 Dates in 3 Nights07:03: A Trio of New, Powerful Ways to Get an Abundance of DatesTO TAKE YOUR DATING RESULTS TO A WHOLE NEW LEVEL, BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING: http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com

Oct 28, 2025 • 29min
How a Shy, Lonely Software Engineer Learned to Flirt and Found his Dream Woman—and How You Can, Too!
If you struggle to talk to women or feel stuck in the friend zone, you need to hear Tony’s story. A shy, single dad and software engineer, Tony was dateless when he began working with Connell. By learning how to flirt with women and bring confidence to every date, Tony met his dream girlfriend, Jennifer. In this episode, he shares the exact shifts and flirting techniques that helped him succeed—so you can find love, too.Episode Highlights:01:54: Why Tony Felt Women Didn’t Want Him03:31: The Self-Doubt Voice that Keeps Men Single—and How to Silence It12:36: Steal the “Time Traveler” Online Dating Opener that Got Jennifer’s Attention17:36: How Tony Escaped the Friend Zone on His First Date21:20: The First Date that Changed Everything27:53: Tony’s Take—the One Move Every Shy, Single Guy Should MakeTO TAKE YOUR DATING RESULTS TO A WHOLE NEW LEVEL, BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING: http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com

Oct 23, 2025 • 31min
“Nice Guys Are Sexy—if They Do This One Thing.” A Maxim Model’s Dating Secret
Do you worry you’re “too nice”? Tired of seeing women date jerks? It’s time to own being a nice guy! The truth is, women actually prefer kind men over “alpha males,” if you make 3 key moves. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares these tested tips. Plus—the powerful lesson he learned from a Maxim model. Nice guys can finish first with women, and this episode shows you how.Episode Highlights:04:41: Move #1: Ignore the “Alpha Male” Myth09:05: What 64,000 Women Actually Want in a Man (It’s Not Looks or Money)16:13: Move #2: Be a Man with a Game Plan20:26: Maxim Model: “Nice Guys are Sexy, if They Do One Thing”22:24: Move #3: Direct the Date to Quickly Spark AttractionTO TAKE YOUR DATING RESULTS TO A WHOLE NEW LEVEL, BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING: http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com

Oct 21, 2025 • 1h 14min
How to TRIPLE Your Number of Hinge Matches (with ‘Date Smarter’ Author Tim Molnar)
Dating apps feel rigged, and IRL approaches are just plain awkward, right? How are you supposed to find love today? In this encore episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” author Tim Molnar draws from his insightful new book, “Date Smarter,” to offer practical, research-backed dating strategies. A data-driven dating expert, Molnar shares what works both on the apps and in real life—including one move that has TRIPLED Hinge matches for some singles.Highlights of this Episode Include:05:11: The Primacy Effect: Why the First 5 Minutes of a Date are Make or Break09:45: How to Make Sure You Get Date No. 221:07: How to Get 500 Percent (!) Better Approach Results with the “Small Favor” Strategy26:13: 100,000 Swipes, Zero Dates—Why Some Men Fail on the Apps44:16: Why Paid Dating Apps (Not the Free Ones) Give You a Better Shot at Love47:12: How to Instantly Triple Your Number of Hinge Dates54:07: Why Tim’s IRL Approaches Got Him 10 Times More Second Dates than the Apps DidListen now and triple your number of Hinge matches!LEARN ABOUT TIM MOLNAR AND GET A COPY OF HIS NEW DATING BOOK, ‘DATE SMARTER’:http://www.TimothyMolnar.comGET ‘DATE SMARTER’ ON AMAZON: https://www.amazon.com/Date-Smarter-Strategic-Navigating-Romance-ebook/dp/B0DP3GJPZ5DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING: http://www.DatingTransformation.com

Oct 16, 2025 • 22min
Be Magnetic to Women as the Nice Guy You Are—By Doing ONE Thing
Why do “nice guys” get friend-zoned while jerks get the girl? In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett smashes the “Nice Guy” myth, settles the debate over who should pay on a first date, and shares the time he flew cross-country to surprise a woman he’d never met—with an unexpected “gift.” You will laugh. You will cringe. Listen now!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF 1-1 DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: http://www.datingtransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY: Connell@datingtransformation.com

Oct 14, 2025 • 44min
From Reddit Rage to Real Connection: How Ajay Learned that Women Actually Like Good Guys!
Do you fear that approaching women might get you labeled a creep—or even socially shunned? Connell’s client Ajay once felt that way. Drowning in toxic Reddit advice, Ajay believed that women didn’t want to meet good guys like him. In this episode of ‘How to Get a Girlfriend,” he tells Connell how he went from feeling terrified to approach women to confidently meeting cool, cute girls. It turns out, women actually LIKE good guys.Highlights of this Episode:01:45: Ajay’s Greatest Fear that Kept Him from Approaching Women07:54: How He Met 6 Women in One Day—and Transformed His Confidence13:15: The Instant Kiss that Led to Ajay’s Spiritual Breakthrough22:29: The Biggest Reddit Lie About Approaching… Exposed!28:08: “Get off Reddit!” Ajay’s Unfiltered Advice to Escape Toxic MasculinityDO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING: www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, "DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com

Oct 9, 2025 • 20min
Flip the Authenticity Switch: 4 New Ways to Approach Women IRL (No Pickup Tricks Needed)
Do you see women you’d love to talk to in real life but you freeze up? Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals how to flip the “Authenticity Switch” and go from anxiousness to confidently approaching women—without any cheesy pickup lines. Four powerful shifts will help you meet women in a charming way. Plus, Connell gives you 4 practical approach missions to start meeting women today.DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING: www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, "DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T": Connell@datingtransformation.com

Oct 7, 2025 • 30min
How Shy Robbie Got 5 Numbers in 3 Hours! Steal This Move for Fearless Approaching
Robbie, 26, is a shy software engineer who had never approached a woman in a bar—until one Friday night when dating coach Connell Barrett taught him the Hero Approach. It’s a bold move you make to start a night that unlocks authentic confidence. Three hours later, Robbie had collected 5 phone numbers. “I’m in god mode,” he said at one point. In this episode, you’ll learn how to use the Hero Approach to fearlessly meet women anywhere!Highlights of this Episode:04:47: Meet Robbie, Who Battled Approach Anxiety and Self-Doubt07:10: The Hero Approach: The Game-Changing Move to Unlock Confidence09:35: “Approach Her or I’ll Put You in a Headlock”—Coach Connell Gets Tough12:00: Robbie Reaches “God Mode” and Gets 5 Phone Numbers15:03: Three Approaching Myths DestroyedBOOK A FREE CONSULT CALL WITH DATING COACH CONNELL BARRETT TO LEARN ABOUT HIS 1-on-1 COACHING: http://www.datingtransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL AND HE WILL SEND YOU A FREE COPY OF HIS BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com

Oct 2, 2025 • 29min
5 Fixes to Make Your Online Dating Profile a Match Magnet Today—New Photos NOT Needed
Struggling to get matches on Hinge, Bumble or Tinder? It’s not your looks, and it’s not the dating apps. It’s your profile. Small but costly mistakes make women swipe left. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares five proven “Match Magnet” fixes you can apply today—using the photos you already have. No photo shoot, no stress. Just make 5 simple upgrades to turn your profile into match-generating machine.Episode Highlights:04:30: Match Magnet #1: Be Hilarious, Not Handsome10:04: Match Magnet #2: Entice Her with a Good Travel Shot12:31: Match Magnet #3: Replace Red Flags with Green Flags16:30: Match Magnet #4: Get Down & Flirty21:31: Match Magnet #5: Tug at Her HeartstringsBOOK A FREE CONSULT WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF 1-1 DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: http://www.DatingTransformation.com

Sep 30, 2025 • 1h 12min
From Playdates to First Dates: The Single Dad’s Dating Reset (Live Coaching with Zach!)
Online dating is tough for most men. But when you’re a single dad, it’s hard to find the energy and motivation. In this live coaching session, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett helps his client Zach—a single dad re-entering the dating world—improve both his online dating profile and his mindset. Don’t miss Zach’s breakthrough moment (at the 42-minute mark) when he realizes the real reason he’s not meeting the kinds of women he’s into. Listen now!Episode Highlights:13:36: The Funny ‘DILF’ Prompt that Gets Women Laughing and Writing You Back26:02: How to Navigate Your Busy Schedule and Still Get Dates43:10: Zach’s “Aha!” Moment: “This is Why I Haven’t Had more Dates!”59:25: Zach Unlocks the Power of Fearless Flirting1:08:09: The Secret to Motivation, Action… and a Date by this WeekendDO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF 1-ON-1 DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:http://www.DatingTransformation.com


