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Jun 10, 2025 • 39min

I Got Rejected 567 Times… Which is Why I’m GREAT with Women Now

Fear of rejection can make you freeze. It’s why you don’t say hi to the stylish woman at the café or make a move on the date. In this episode of. “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett gets raw and real about his own fear of rejection. He also shares how getting blown off so many times (“F-off, Ginger!”) actually opened the door to real romantic wins! If you’re tired of being too afraid to make move, this episode will change your dating life.Episode Highlights:05:44: The Rejection that Changed Connell’s Dating Life09:45: The 2 Hidden Forces that Create Your Fear of Rejection14:35: When Connell’s Date Left Him—Mid-Date!—for Another Guy18:35: “F---- off, Ginger!” How a Brutal Brush-Off Led to an Incredible Romantic Win27:00: 4 New Ways to Look at Rejection and Become a Fearless, Confident ManDO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Jun 5, 2025 • 59min

The Flirty Dozen: 12 Ways to Smash Out of the Friend Zone and Spark Connection on First Dates

Struggling to escape the Friend Zone? Discover twelve transformative strategies to ignite romantic sparks. Learn why women lose interest after dates and how to keep the connection alive. Uncover the art of sending charming texts that build excitement before you meet. Explore six effective moves to make your date engaging and memorable. Get tips on how to confidently initiate your first kiss without awkwardness. Plus, find out what to text the next day to secure that second date!
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Jun 3, 2025 • 49min

How to Be Bold, Flirty—and Never, Ever ‘That Creepy Guy’: A Dating Guide for Modern Gentlemen

Navigating the dating scene can be tricky, especially in today’s climate of heightened awareness. Discover how to flirt confidently without crossing boundaries. Learn the ins and outs of texting, making a move at work, and asking for a kiss with respect. There’s also valuable advice on how to sext the right way and what to keep in mind when inviting someone over. Ultimately, it’s about being bold yet respectful, while building genuine connections that resonate.
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May 29, 2025 • 31min

27 Flirting Tips in 27 Minutes! Go from the Friend Zone to the First Kiss—FAST

Not knowing how to flirt with women can leave you awkwardly fumbling your words. Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett has fast, field-tested fixes! In just 27 minutes, he shares 27 practical flirting tips to help you confidently make sparks fly—on dates, during approaches, and over text. Get ready to escape the friend zone and boldly land that first kiss, even if you’re shy!Episode Highlights Include:03:00: 3 Playful First-Date Games that Instantly Spark Chemistry04:10: How to Flirt Without Being Needy or Weird09:00: Rejection-proof openers for Shy or Introverted Men17:41: The Right Way to Compliment Women (They Love This!)21:55: The Funny, Flirty Text that Gets You a Second Date26:47: A Great Question to Dial Up SparksFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:http://www.datingtransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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May 27, 2025 • 35min

Use these 8 Flirty Questions to Stop Boring Women and Spark Deep, Romantic Conversations

Do you get stuck in “interview mode” on dates? Not sure how to text women in a way that actually gets replies? In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett answers your questions to help you break out of boring small talk, ask magnetic flirty questions, and master texting with a simple 4-word rule. Whether you’re just starting out or stuck in a dating rut, this episode gives you the tools to build real connection—and get the girlfriend you want.You’re About to Learn:01:45: Why Some Women Want to Date Guys with Little to No Sexual Experience08:18: How to Get out of Interview Mode with these 8 Flirty Questions19:30: Why Some Men Become Incels—and How to Avoid this Trap29:11: Your New 4-word Framework that Makes Texting Fun and Effective33:42: Should You Worry if your Girlfriend is Texting Her Ex?Listen now and take on step closer to finding your dream girlfriend!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:http://www.datingtransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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May 22, 2025 • 44min

Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)

Do you struggle to read women? The fear of making the wrong move—and seeming creepy—can kill your confidence. In this encore episode, dating coach Connell Barrett talks with renowned expert and bestselling author Kezia Noble, who’s helped over 100,000 men. They dive into how to read a woman’s signals, how to make the right moves (and avoid the wrong ones), and create real attraction through authenticity.Kezia and Connell discuss:7:35: How Kezia Learned to Get Great Results for Her Clients15:40: How to Dial Up Attraction Using her “Double-Sided Compliment”18:12: “The Shadow,” the Side of Men that Women Find Seductive21:45: What to Say on Dates to go from Boring to Charismatic23:05: How to Be Authentically Interesting to Women as the Raw, Real You29:05: The Right Way to Talk About Your Career… and the Wrong Way30:45: The Truth about How Much Looks Really Matter to Women33:51: Why Women Hate the Apps and are “Absolutely Dying” for Men like You to Approach Them37:35: How to Get a Woman Who Rejected You to Change Her Mind and Chase YouListen now and start so you can finally understand what women want!TO LEARN ABOUT KEZIA’S 1-1 COACHING PROGRAMSwww.kezia-noble.com/VISIT KEZIA’S YOUTUBE CHANNELhttp://www.youtube.com/@KezianobledatingexpertGET KEZIA’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “THE NOBLE ART OF SEDUCING WOMEN”http://www.amazon.com/Noble-Art-Seducing-Women-Foolproof/dp/1843587629FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO DISCUSS COACHINGhttp://www.datingtransformation.com/contact
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May 20, 2025 • 1h 1min

Tongue-Tied with Women? Become a Funny Flirt with 3 Simple Moves and Get Her Giggling! (Live Coaching with Jake)

Do you feel tongue-tied around attractive women? Want to be funnier and flirtier, but you’re not sure how? In this live coaching session with his client Jake, dating coach Connell Barrett shares 3 simple moves to master funny banter and playful flirting. You’ll hear Jake go from awkward silences to laugh-filled connections, learning how to be funnier and way more attractive—without any weird pickup-artist tricks! Because women are attracted to your most authentic self.You’re About to Learn:03:01: Why Women Tell Guys Like Jake, “Sorry, Not Feeling a Connection”07:11: How to Lightly Tease Women in a Way they Love15:32: The Right Way to Use Sarcasm on a Date—and the WRONG Way21:03: An Easy Technique to Never Run Out of Things to Say25:39: 3 Ways to Ace Your Next Speed-Dating Event… and Get Phone Numbers!34:58: The First-Date Question to Ask Every Woman43:57: The Secret to Unlocking True Charisma, While Being Authentic54:57: 1 Simple Move to Get Out of Your Head and In the Zone on DatesFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: http://www.datingtransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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May 15, 2025 • 48min

From Dateless to Dates on Demand! How to Improve Your Profile and Get 2 Dates Per Week (Part 4 of 4)

Are you struggling to get great matches on the apps? Get ready for the game-changing finale of a 4-part series on the 12 Essentials of an Irresistible Profile. Your host, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett, reveals how to troubleshoot and fix 7 hidden profile problems. Want to land two dates a week? Listen now!Highlights of this Episode Include:01:52: The 12 Essentials You Need for Great Results06:15: Ben’s Success Story: From 3 Matches to 87 Matches (!) in Just 2 Days09:44: How Connell Diagnosed His Own Profile to Go from Crickets to Dozens of Matches14:41: Problem 1: Crickets After Launching: How to Diagnose the Issue16:42: Problem 2: Only Getting Mediocre Matches: What to Adjust20:27: Problem 3: Matches, But No Replies: Why She’s Not Messaging Back25:14: Problem 4: Matches, But No Dates: How to Fix the Issue27:15: Problem 5: Not Seeing Women You Want to Date: A Simple Solution30:07: Problem 6: Your Profile LOOKS Good But Still Flops: The Key Photo You Need34:26: Problem 7: Getting Ghosted Often: Why Women Disappear Suddenly39:44: PLUS: Why You Must, Must, MUST Use Hinge!Listen now to make your phone a date-generating machine!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:http://www.datingtransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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May 13, 2025 • 25min

7 Powerful Secrets to Attraction that Women Have Taught Me (You Need to Know These!)

Do you ever wonder, “How the heck do I become more attractive to women?” You’re about to find out—from women themselves. After 20 years studying the art of male-female connection, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares 7 powerful secrets he learned directly from women he’s dated. You’ll discover how to have better first dates, how to text women, how to avoid the friend zone—and more.Highlights of this Episode:02:49: Secret #1—Women Want to See Your Softer Side06:12: Secret #2—Don’t Try to Score Points on Dates; Just Don’t Lose Points07:57: Secret #3—Women WANT You to Come Talk to Them, If You Do This10:40: Secret #4—It Isn’t Creepy to Approach Women; It’s Creepy NOT To15:48: Secret #5—You Can Text Her as Much as You Want… Here’s How18:33: Secret #6—The Truth About Going for the First Kiss20:56: Secret #7—On the Apps, Persistence + Charm = DatesDO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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May 8, 2025 • 59min

Do Women on Tinder Ignore You? The Man Who Invented Swiping Reveals How to Finally Get Matches (with Tinder’s Jonathan Badeen)

Back in the day, Jonathan Badeen was an introvert struggling to meet women and get dates. (Sound familiar?) So he did what any guy would do—he co-founded Tinder, invented swiping, and changed dating (and the world) forever. In this encore episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” Badeen joins host and dating coach Connell Barrett to help you finally get quality matches on the apps.In this episode, Jonathan and Connell discuss:5:59: Why Tinder is for More than Just Hookups19:26: The Aha Moment when Jonathan Came Up with Swiping22:49: Why Authenticity is What Women Want—on Tinder and in Real Life31:57: The Real Reason You’re Not Getting Good Matches35:35: The Myth that “Dating Apps Just Don’t Work”39:29: How to Inject Fun into Your profile to Get Women Messaging You First41:15: How Shy Guys and “Nerds” Can Win on the Apps52:21: Why Jonathan Would Swipe Right on Minnie MouseListen now for wisdom from the man who changed dating—and finally land great Tinder dates!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:http://www.datingtransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com

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