
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Yes, you can get a great girlfriend! And dating coach Connell Barrett will show you how to confidently connect with women by being authentic—no creepy pickup moves needed. On the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, Connell offers the kinds of tested dating tips he shared in his bestselling book, Dating Sucks but You Don’t, and in his TV appearances (GMA, “Today.”) In his 12 years as a coach, Connell has helped thousands of men in 17 countries find love. No wonder Psychology Today named him “America’s top dating coach for men.” Connell personally faced—and fixed—every common dating problem, from not knowing how to flirt to dating-app struggles to low self-confidence. After meeting his dream girlfriend Jess, Connell now helps nice guys and gentlemen find love by dating with “Radical Authenticity.” Ready to meet your soulmate? Join Connell and his expert guests every week for game-changing advice. Carpe date ’em. Seize the date!
Latest episodes

May 6, 2025 • 1h 14min
This Simple Move Makes You 500% Better at Approaching—Science Proves It! (Featuring ‘Date Smarter’ Author Tim Molnar)
Dating apps feel rigged, and IRL approaches are just plain awkward, right? How are you supposed to find love today? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” author Tim Molnar draws from his insightful new book, “Date Smarter,” to offer practical, research-backed dating strategies. A data-driven dating expert, Molnar shares what works both on the apps and in real life—including one surprising study that led to 5X better approaching results for its participants.Highlights of this Episode Include:05:11: The Primacy Effect: Why the First 5 Minutes of a Date are Make or Break09:45: How to Make Sure You Get Date No. 221:07: How to Get 500 Percent (!) Better Approach Results with the “Small Favor” Strategy26:13: 100,000 Swipes, Zero Dates—Why Some Men Fail on the Apps44:16: Why Paid Dating Apps (Not the Free Ones) Give You a Better Shot at Love47:12: How to Instantly Triple Your Number of Hinge Dates54:07: Why Tim’s IRL Approaches Got Him 10 Times More Second Dates than the Apps DidListen now so you can get 500 percent better at approaching!LEARN ABOUT TIM MOLNAR AND GET A COPY OF HIS NEW DATING BOOK, ‘DATE SMARTER’:http://www.TimothyMolnar.comGET ‘DATE SMARTER’ ON AMAZON:https://www.amazon.com/Date-Smarter-Strategic-Navigating-Romance-ebook/dp/B0DP3GJPZ5DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.com

May 1, 2025 • 53min
From Lonely to Lining Up Dates: 6 Simple Moves that Make Women Swipe Right on the Apps (Part 3)
If you struggle on the apps, it can make you feel like you’re just not what women want. But the problem isn’t you—it’s your profile! Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett can help. In Part 3 of his special series on online dating, Connell shares the second half of his 12 Essentials of an Irresistible Profile, so you can finally meet bright, beautiful women on Hinge, Bumble or any app.Highlights Include:01:33: Why Your Lack of Matches is Not About Your Looks02:19: How Connell Went from Struggling to Thriving on the Apps07:17: How to Hook Her Interest with this Simple Bio Secret14:19: The Line that Landed Connell Dozens of Great Matches17:45: The Essential that Makes Your Bio Magnetic27:47: Your Secret Weapon: How to Make Her Laugh35:17: The Hinge Poll Prompt that Gets Women Giggling and Wanting to Know More45:47: The 5 Red Flags that Make Her Swipe Left (Fix This Today!)Listen now, make these 6 simple moves, and start getting some great matches!DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Connell@datingtransformation.com

Apr 29, 2025 • 36min
Unlock the 3 S’s for Unshakable Confidence—and Attract the Women You Want!
There’s a big dating mistake you’re making—and you don’t even realize it. Most men obsess over tactics (what to say, how to text) instead of building the real foundation for success: a bulletproof mindset. In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals the 3 S’s of dating success. The 3 S’s will build you unstoppable confidence and attract the women you want, all while being authentic. Listen now to start transforming your love life.DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Connell@datingtransformation.com

Apr 24, 2025 • 40min
Get Ready to Love, Love, LOVE the Dating Apps! 6 Profile Fixes for More Matches Fast (Part 2 of 4)
Not getting good matches? Think the dating apps are rigged against you? Have hope! The truth is, you’re just making a few profile mistakes that hurt your results. This episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend” is Part 2 in a series on the 12 Essentials of an Irresistible Dating Profile. It’s the same strategy that dating coach Connell Barrett used to meet his girlfriend Jess. You’re about to learn 6 powerful fixes to finally start matching with women you want to date.Highlights of this Episode:01:32: The Real Reason You Don’t Get Good Matches05:15: The Secret to Taking Photos Women Can’t Resist08:56: How Connell Instantly Became 88 Percent More Attractive in His Photos17:50: The Mistake You Make with Photos that’s Costing You Matches22:11: The Action Photo that Will Get Women Liking Your Profile29:57: How to Melt her Heart … and Match with You!34:38: How to Write a Flirty Prompt to Escape the Friend ZoneListen now so you can finally start getting matches!DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALLWITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Connell@datingtransformation.com

Apr 22, 2025 • 49min
Do Women Ignore You on the Apps? These 12 Profile MUSTS Will Finally Get You Great Matches (Part 1 of 4)
Not getting good matches on Hinge, Bumble or the apps? The problem isn’t you. (You’re awesome!) It’s your profile. You’re probably missing a few of the 12 Essentials of an Irresistible Profile. In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals the 12 photo and bio upgrades that will get you great matches—so you can finally start dating women you’re excited about. And you’ll do this with charm and authenticity, no sketchy pickup moves needed!Here are the 12 Essentials of an Irresistible Dating Profile:08:40: #1: A Magnetic First Portrait Showcasing the Authentic You13:00: #2: A “Knockout” Second Photo17:01: #3: A “Man of Action” Picture20:41: #4: Show Off Your Social Proof24:55: #5: Tug At Her Heartstrings28:28: #6: Flirtatious Energy32:43: #7: A Bio Hook She Can’t Resist35:27: #8: Show, Don’t Tell!36:54: #9: On Your Bio, Be Specific (Not Vague)38:28: #10: Display Your Authentic Sense of Humor40:43: #11: Write an “Emotional Maturity” Prompt43:19: #12: No! Red! Flags!DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Connell@datingtransformation.com

Apr 17, 2025 • 57min
‘I Went from Lonely to Dating Like Crazy!’ How Kyle Attracted His First Girlfriend in Years, and How You Can Too (Live Coaching)
A proud veteran with a big heart, Kyle was lonely and struggling to get dates—until dating coach Connell Barrett showed him how to approach women with real confidence and charm. “It’s amazing, but authenticity really does work,” Kyle says in this live coaching call. Soon he was going on two dates a week and had landed a girlfriend. Now newly single, he’s ready to level up again. Listen as Connell reviews Kyle’s Hinge profile and shares 3 simple ways to get more matches today.The Moments You Don’t Want to Miss:07:11: From Lonely to “Dating Like Crazy”—Kyle’s Big Breakthrough08:32: How Kyle Overcame Approach Anxiety and Attracted Women IRL15:08: Connell Reveals the 12 Essentials of an Irresistible Online-Dating Profile17:35: The Photo You Need to Add to Get More Matches25:30: Should You Pay to Boost Your Profile? Connell Breaks it Down31:33: How to Write a Prompt that’s Funny and Flirty47:07: The Approach Opener Kyle Used to Meet a Large Group of Women at a BarDO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Connell@datingtransformation.com

Apr 15, 2025 • 36min
Ask the Dating Coach: ‘I Don’t Think I’m Good-Looking. Do I Even Have a Chance with Women?’
Do you worry that you’re just not good-looking enough to date the kinds of women you’re into? In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett helps a man who wonders if any women will ever want him because he thinks he’s “ugly.” Connell breaks down what actually makes a man attractive—and it’s not male-model looks. Plus, another listener asks why women agree to dates and then cancel last minute, and Connell shares an easy fix.Episode Highlights:05:30: “Connell, Am I Not Good-Looking Enough to Attract Women?”15:15: “I Cried During ‘Titanic’ and She Ghosted Me—Was I Too Vulnerable?”20:25: “Damn You, Autocorrect! I Just Called Her ‘Boobzilla’!”24:14: “Why Do Women Keep Canceling on Me Last Minute?”32:45: “She Loves My Dog but Not Me. Am I in the Friend Zone?”Listen now and take the next step toward meeting your dream girlfriend.DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Connell@datingtransformation.com

Apr 10, 2025 • 40min
Tired of Struggling on Tinder and Bumble? Try the Innovative Dating App that Helps Men and Women Connect IRL!
Tired of endless swiping that never leads to dates? Want to meet wonderful women in real life? Dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes David Vermeulen, founder of Inner Circle, a different kind of dating app. Inner Circle helps singles skip the small talk and make meaningful connections, both online and offline. As Vermeulen explains in this encore episode, Inner Circle hosts real-world events so its members can stop wasting time on flaky matches and connect with singles who genuinely want to date.With Connell and David as your guides, you’ll discover:4:46: The Dating Horror Story that Inspired David to Start Inner Circle6:38: How Inner Circle’s Technology Virtually Eliminates Fake Profiles7:55: Why the Platform’s IRL Events is “Where the Magic Happens”10:43: A Game-Changing Strategy for Introverts to Meet Women in the Real World11:25: Connell’s One-Sentence Dating Mantra that Will Transform Your Love Life19:29: How “Tinder is Like McDonald’s,” in David’s View27:41: Why Quality Matches Always Beat Quantity30:54: How to Decide if She’s Worth a Second Date33:36: A Simple Writing Tip to Make Your Bio Magnetic to Women35:32: David’s Surprising Rule for Online-Dating Success: “Opposites Don’t Attract”Ready to finally connect with women on a dating app that actually works? Listen now!LEARN MORE ABOUT INNER CIRCLE:https://about.theinnercircle.co/CHECK OUT INNER CIRCLE ON INSTAGRAM:https://www.instagram.com/innercircleco/DOWNLOAD THE INNER CIRCLE APP:https://apps.apple.com/us/app/inner-circle-dating-community/id838136374FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com

Apr 8, 2025 • 1h 35min
Too Anxious to Approach? Use these 5 Steps to Boldly Meet and Date Wonderful Women (Live Coaching with Ryan)
You see a gorgeous girl and want to approach her—but you freeze up! “What do I say? What if I’m creepy?” That inner voice kills your confidence, keeping you stuck and frustrated. Let’s fix it today! In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett teaches his client Ryan the 5 Master Steps to boldly approach women with charm and authenticity—no weird pickup moves needed.What You’ll Learn in this Live-Coaching Episode:10:15: What Stops Ryan from Approaching—and How He Fixed It with “Terminator Glasses”14:22: How to Turn Every Approach into a Fun, Confidence-Building Win24:45: How to Flirt with More Sexuality While Remaining a True Gentleman40:22: How to Tell If She Likes You… or Wants You to Walk Away45:40: How Connell Made Out with a Total Cutie—Just 1 Hour After She Rejected Him!52:00: The 5 Master Steps to Approaching Women with Authentic Confidence1:12:03: One Easy Move to Instantly Build Momentum in Any Bar or Venue1:22:23: Why Bold Risk-Takers are Irresistible to WomenWant to know exactly what to say in a way women find magnetic? Listen now!DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Connell@datingtransformation.com

Apr 3, 2025 • 1h 3min
Women Love Nice, Nerdy Guys like YOU—If You Do 1 Important Thing (with Dating Coach Nick Notas)
Dating coach Nick Notas, with over 15 years of experience, shares insights on why many women are drawn to nice, nerdy guys. He explains how being authentic can make your geeky traits attractive. Nick reveals the pitfalls of pickup artist tactics and stresses the importance of genuine self-confidence. He discusses fun conversation starters for dates and debunks misconceptions about height in dating. Plus, he offers tips on meeting women through local events, emphasizing the significance of shared interests and personal growth in building meaningful connections.