Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

World-renowned author and therapist Terry Real joins Dr. Alexandra for a discussion about his career, his new book (Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship), men in relationships, conflict resolution, and more.The Family Institute at Northwestern University:https://www.family-institute.org/Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship by Terry Real:https://bookshop.org/books/us-getting-past-you-and-me-to-build-a-more-loving-relationship/9780593233672Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274 Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Dr. Alexandra explores the common underfunctioning/overfunctioning dynamic in long-term partnerships. She talks about why many couples fall prey to these roles, including cultural messaging and family-of-origin scripts, and she shares strategies for breaking free from this dance so that the relationship can feel more balanced.Get the companion worksheet for this episode:www.dralexandrasolomon.com/dynamicThe Family Institute at Northwestern University:https://www.family-institute.org/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274“Overfunctioning and Underfunctioning” by Dr. Will Meek:https://willmeekphd.com/overfunctioning-underfunctioning/“Women Aren't Nags—We're Just Fed” Up by Gemma Hartley (Harper’s Bazaar, September 2017):https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a12063822/emotional-labor-gender-equality/“I Live With a Woman—We're Not Immune to Emotional Labor:How LGBTQ couples navigate gender roles at home” by Trish Bendix (Harper’s Bazaar, October 2017):https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a12779502/emotional-labor-lgbtq-relationships/Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live) by Eve Rodsky:https://bookshop.org/books/fair-play-a-game-changing-solution-for-when-you-have-too-much-to-do-and-more-life-to-live/9780525541943?gclid=CjwKCAjwyryUBhBSEiwAGN5OCMpPV9pDU8oYDF4N2gccTwdOWo4hb8gHLsp3DfY1sTLi7IrxdD83YxoCGiQQAvD_BwE Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

On this Love Stories episode, Dr. Alexandra is joined Alexandra Fine, the co-founder and CEO of Dame Products, an innovative company that designs pleasure-enhancing products for people with vulvas. This episode is all about Dame the brand, but more importantly, it’s about Al, the very special person behind Dame's groundbreaking products, who had a radical vision she followed to fruition.Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Shop Dame Products (use code LOVEPOD for a discount at checkout):https://www.dameproducts.com/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274 Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Lori Gottlieb, Atlantic columnist and bestselling author of “Maybe You Should Talk to Someone,” joins Dr. Alexandra for a conversation about her book and the role of therapy in modern life. They also answer two listener questions together.Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb:https://bookshop.org/books/maybe-you-should-talk-to-someone-a-therapist-her-therapist-and-our-lives-revealed/9781328662057"Dear Therapist" Column in The Atlantic:https://www.theatlantic.com/projects/dear-therapist/Dear Therapists with Lori Gottlieb & Guy Winch (podcast):https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-therapists-with-lori-gottlieb-and-guy-winch/id1523340696Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274 Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Dr. Alexandra is joined by Nedra Tawwab to talk about relational boundaries, self-advocacy, and communication. Nedra offers a whole host of wonderful questions we can ask ourselves when we are feeling drained or annoyed by our partner, as well as suggestions for a listener with a depressed partner who is struggling to establish caretaking boundaries in her relationship.Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Shop Dame Products (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)https://www.dameproducts.com/?gclid=Cj0KCQjw3IqSBhCoARIsAMBkTb0r5_iBQR_NRXogKj6fneSiDWl64rULQK1kh0RbSp-HWfzT9_dPZbgaAlRwEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.dsSet Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab:https://bookshop.org/books/set-boundaries-find-peace-a-guide-to-reclaiming-yourself/9780593192092Nedra's Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/nedratawwab/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274 Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Dr. Eli Finkel, a social psychology professor at Northwestern University, joins Dr. Alexandra for an in-depth discussion about the state of marriage and long-term partnership today, in an ever-changing and ever-complicated world. They also discuss Eli's book, The All-Or-Nothing Marriage, and answer a listener question together about a new relationship.The Family Institute at Northwestern University:https://www.family-institute.org/The All-Or-Nothing Marriage by Eli J. Finkel:https://bookshop.org/books/the-all-or-nothing-marriage-how-the-best-marriages-work/9781101984345Dr. Eli Finkel's Website:https://elifinkel.com/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274 Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Have you ever been ghosted? Dr. Alexandra dives into the cultural weight of this term, and why the experience of being left in the lurch can feel so incredibly painful. Rather than fixating on the unanswerable question of why someone ghosted us, wondering if we did something wrong, or minimizing the pain, Dr. Alexandra encourages us to sit in the grief of a confusing ending and find strength amid the disappointment.Shop Dame Products (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)https://www.dameproducts.com/?gclid=Cj0KCQjw3IqSBhCoARIsAMBkTb0r5_iBQR_NRXogKj6fneSiDWl64rULQK1kh0RbSp-HWfzT9_dPZbgaAlRwEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.dsDr. Alexandra’s E-Course: Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit:https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceitWe Need to Talk About Ghosting - Worksheet:https://docs.google.com/document/d/1AdPotRUt94nPJ5i8-mDavCuzsmwecgRPrg4rqnjWmFg/edit?pli=1Share your feedback in the Reimagining Love Listener Survey:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/survey/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In celebration of her new novel, Love Marriage, acclaimed writer Monica Ali joins Dr. Alexandra for a vibrant discussion about writing love stories, exploring themes of sexuality and culture in fiction, and the things that creative writing and therapy may have in common. Love Marriage is a beautiful book that follows two cultures, two families and the secrets they keep, and is available for pre-order now (see below).Pre-order Love Marriage by Monica Ali:https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Love-Marriage/Monica-Ali/9781982181475Share your feedback in the Reimagining Love Listener Survey:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/survey/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Monica Ali's website:https://www.monicaali.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Dr. Alexandra is joined by Resmaa Menakem, a therapist and licensed clinical social worker who specializes in the healing of racialized trauma, for a truly transformative conversation about the somatic impacts of racism and how we can move towards reckoning and healing.Share your feedback in the Reimagining Love Listener Survey:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/survey/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Resmaa's website:https://www.resmaa.com/The Quaking of America: An Embodied Guide to Navigating Our Nation's Upheaval and Racial Reckoning by Resmaa Menakemhttps://bookshop.org/books/the-quaking-of-america-an-embodied-guide-to-navigating-our-nation-s-upheaval-and-racial-reckoning/9781949481747My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies by Resmaa Menakemhttps://bookshop.org/books/my-grandmother-s-hands-racialized-trauma-and-the-pathway-to-mending-our-hearts-and-bodies-9781942094470/9781942094470 Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Boundaries are front and center in this episode with guest expert Terri Cole, author of the book “Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free.” Dr. Alexandra and Terri talk about how the skill of setting boundaries is essential in relationships, and they answer two listener questions together that relate to this issue.Shop Dame Products (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)https://www.dameproducts.com/?gclid=Cj0KCQjw3IqSBhCoARIsAMBkTb0r5_iBQR_NRXogKj6fneSiDWl64rULQK1kh0RbSp-HWfzT9_dPZbgaAlRwEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.dsShare your feedback in the Reimagining Love Listener Survey:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/survey/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free by Terri Cole:https://bookshop.org/books/boundary-boss-the-essential-guide-to-talk-true-be-seen-and-finally-live-free/9781683647683Terri’s Boundary Quiz:https://boundaryquiz.com/Terri’s website:https://www.terricole.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.