Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Today's episode features two legends from the fields of couples therapy and relationship science: Dr John Gottman, and Dr. Julie Gottman. They sit down with Dr. Alexandra for a conversation about their groundbreaking research and careers, as well as their own relationship with one another, and share simple and actionable steps you can use today to deepen connection in your long-term partnership.The Gottman Institute website:https://www.gottman.com/The Love Prescription: Seven Days to More Intimacy, Connection, and Joy by Drs. John & Julie Gottmanhttps://bookshop.org/books/the-love-prescription-seven-days-to-more-intimacy-connection-and-joy/9780143136637Small Things Often (The Gottman Institute podcast):https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/small-things-often/id1498172564 Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Dr. Thema Bryant, president-elect of the American Psychological Association, joins Dr. Alexandra for a rich conversation about how we can heal, grow, and thrive, both on the individual and community level. They also answer a listener question about how and when to speak up in difficult family arguments about religious beliefs.Homecoming: Overcome Fear and Trauma to Reclaim Your Whole, Authentic Self by Dr. Thema Bryant:https://bookshop.org/books/homecoming-overcome-fear-and-trauma-to-reclaim-your-whole-authentic-self/9780593418314The Antiracism Handbook by Dr. Thema Bryant and Dr. Edith G Arrington:https://bookshop.org/books/the-antiracism-handbook-practical-tools-to-shift-your-mindset-and-uproot-racism-in-your-life-and-community/9781684039104The Homecoming Podcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-homecoming-podcast-with-dr-thema/id1471604689Dr. Thema's Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/dr.thema/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274 Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

On this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra dives into a topic that all of us have grappled with at some point or another: talking about the future with our partner. If you're struggling with a pace discrepancy with your partner, whether it's about becoming exclusive, moving in together, getting married, or starting any kind of new chapter, this conversation is for you.Get the Talking About the Future worksheet:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/futureSubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceit Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

On this special Love Stories episode, Dr. Alexandra is joined by Cathy and Todd Adams. They're husband and wife, co-hosts of the popular podcast Zen Parenting Radio, and so much more. Cathy and Todd open up about all aspects of their relationship, discuss how it's grown and changed over time, and explore how it connects with their work around parenting and personal growth.Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World by Cathy Cassani Adamshttps://bookshop.org/books/zen-parenting-caring-for-ourselves-and-our-children-in-an-unpredictable-world/9780306925207?gclid=CjwKCAjwx7GYBhB7EiwA0d8oe0Uh6rkzzhTRl6xTwMGtdHg26Uyp3BGgOsQW9awnt6nNZ8D8rXC5HhoCqvUQAvD_BwEZen Parenting Radio:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/zen-parenting-radio/id414414318Zen Parenting Website:https://zenparentingradio.com/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceit Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Mark Groves joins Dr. Alexandra to answer a listener question about getting back together with an ex, and they discuss the personal growth and expansion that's possible when we allow ourselves to get honest and vulnerable with the people we love most, and with ourselves.Check out Dr. Alexandra's community on the Peanut App:peanut.app.link/ReimaginingLoveSubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Get the Relational Ambivalence worksheet from last week's episode:www.dralexandrasolomon.com/ambivalence Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

The Shrink Chicks—therapists Emmalee Bierly and Jennifer Chaiken—join Dr. Alexandra for a vibrant conversation about cultivating self-understanding in the context of relationships and family. They tackle two wonderful listener questions and share lots of laughs along the way.Check out Dr. Alexandra's community on the Peanut App:peanut.app.link/ReimaginingLoveSubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Get the Relational Ambivalence worksheet from last week's episode:www.dralexandrasolomon.com/ambivalence Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In the second part of the "Should I Stay or Should I Go?" series, Dr. Alexandra continues the conversation about Relational Ambivalence and offers listeners eight things they can do to help them move from stuckness to clarity.Listen to Part 1 of this series:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000574755271Get the Relational Ambivalence worksheet:www.dralexandrasolomon.com/ambivalence"Should I Stay or Should I Go?" article by Dr. Alexandra:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/should-i-stay-or-should-i-go-relational-uncertainty/E-course for therapists & coaches: “Loving Bravely: Helping Clients who are Single, Dating, and Single Again”:https://catalog.psychotherapynetworker.org/sales/pn_c_afc001347_15_lovingbravely_email-105645Mark Groves Ted Talk:https://www.ted.com/talks/mark_groves_you_were_born_to_love_you_evolved_to_fit_in?language=enBook: Deliberate Practice in Emotion-Focused Therapy (Essentials of Deliberate Practice) by Dr. Rhonda N. Goldman:https://www.amazon.com/Deliberate-Practice-Emotion-Focused-Therapy-Essentials/dp/1433832852/ref=sr_1_1?crid=L7QAJ78C3X9T&keywords=rhonda+goldman&qid=1659051680&sprefix=rhonda+goldman%2Caps%2C104&sr=8-1Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274 Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome back to Reimagining Love! On today's episode, Dr. Alexandra explores the complicated question that many of us have faced at some point in our lives: Should I stay in this relationship, or should I leave? If you're unsure of what the wisest path forward is, and you're hoping to proceed with compassion for your partner and yourself, this episode is for you.Check out Dr. Alexandra's community on the Peanut App:peanut.app.link/ReimaginingLoveGet the Relational Ambivalence worksheet:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/ambivalence/Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274 Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Dr. Alexandra's husband Todd joins her in the studio for a special and personal episode about their decades-long love story and marriage, sharing joyful moments and the lessons they've learned along the way.Check out Dr. Alexandra's community on the Peanut App:peanut.app.link/ReimaginingLoveSubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274 Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Dr. Alexandra is joined by Jayson Gaddis, founder of The Relationship School and the book "Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High-Stakes Relationships." They discuss Jayson's approach to conflict-repair, which focuses on calming the nervous system and bringing both partners to their baseline, where the potential for positive change is highest. Jayson and Dr. Alexandra answer a great listener question as well about broaching difficult topics in the context of an intimate partnership.The Family Institute at Northwestern University:https://www.family-institute.org/Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High-Stakes Relationships by Jayson Gaddis:https://bookshop.org/books/getting-to-zero-how-to-work-through-conflict-in-your-high-stakes-relationships/9780306924811The Relationship School:https://relationshipschool.com/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274 Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.