Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Have you ever been ghosted? Dr. Alexandra dives into the cultural weight of this term, and why the experience of being left in the lurch can feel so incredibly painful. Rather than fixating on the unanswerable question of why someone ghosted us, wondering if we did something wrong, or minimizing the pain, Dr. Alexandra encourages us to sit in the grief of a confusing ending and find strength amid the disappointment.Shop Dame Products (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)https://www.dameproducts.com/?gclid=Cj0KCQjw3IqSBhCoARIsAMBkTb0r5_iBQR_NRXogKj6fneSiDWl64rULQK1kh0RbSp-HWfzT9_dPZbgaAlRwEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.dsDr. Alexandra’s E-Course: Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit:https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceitWe Need to Talk About Ghosting - Worksheet:https://docs.google.com/document/d/1AdPotRUt94nPJ5i8-mDavCuzsmwecgRPrg4rqnjWmFg/edit?pli=1Share your feedback in the Reimagining Love Listener Survey:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/survey/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/

In celebration of her new novel, Love Marriage, acclaimed writer Monica Ali joins Dr. Alexandra for a vibrant discussion about writing love stories, exploring themes of sexuality and culture in fiction, and the things that creative writing and therapy may have in common. Love Marriage is a beautiful book that follows two cultures, two families and the secrets they keep, and is available for pre-order now (see below).Pre-order Love Marriage by Monica Ali:https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Love-Marriage/Monica-Ali/9781982181475Share your feedback in the Reimagining Love Listener Survey:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/survey/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Monica Ali's website:https://www.monicaali.com/

Dr. Alexandra is joined by Resmaa Menakem, a therapist and licensed clinical social worker who specializes in the healing of racialized trauma, for a truly transformative conversation about the somatic impacts of racism and how we can move towards reckoning and healing.Share your feedback in the Reimagining Love Listener Survey:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/survey/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Resmaa's website:https://www.resmaa.com/The Quaking of America: An Embodied Guide to Navigating Our Nation's Upheaval and Racial Reckoning by Resmaa Menakemhttps://bookshop.org/books/the-quaking-of-america-an-embodied-guide-to-navigating-our-nation-s-upheaval-and-racial-reckoning/9781949481747My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies by Resmaa Menakemhttps://bookshop.org/books/my-grandmother-s-hands-racialized-trauma-and-the-pathway-to-mending-our-hearts-and-bodies-9781942094470/9781942094470

Boundaries are front and center in this episode with guest expert Terri Cole, author of the book “Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free.” Dr. Alexandra and Terri talk about how the skill of setting boundaries is essential in relationships, and they answer two listener questions together that relate to this issue.Shop Dame Products (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)https://www.dameproducts.com/?gclid=Cj0KCQjw3IqSBhCoARIsAMBkTb0r5_iBQR_NRXogKj6fneSiDWl64rULQK1kh0RbSp-HWfzT9_dPZbgaAlRwEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.dsShare your feedback in the Reimagining Love Listener Survey:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/survey/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free by Terri Cole:https://bookshop.org/books/boundary-boss-the-essential-guide-to-talk-true-be-seen-and-finally-live-free/9781683647683Terri’s Boundary Quiz:https://boundaryquiz.com/Terri’s website:https://www.terricole.com/

In this two-part series, Dr. Alexandra shares ten essential skills for couples struggling with routine conflict in their relationship. Offering strategies from her couples therapy practice, Dr. Alexandra provides new language and ways of thinking about arguments that promote empathy and care, shifting couples into a "we" perspective so that they can move through hard times as a team.Listen to Part I of the Conflict series:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000555568444Get the companion worksheet for this episode:www.dralexandrasolomon.com/skillsSubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Couples therapy directories:https://gottmanreferralnetwork.com/http://www.iceft.com/http://therapist.comhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapistsDomestic violence resources:https://ncadv.org/resources

In this two-part series, Dr. Alexandra shares ten essential skills for couples struggling with routine conflict in their relationship. Offering strategies from her couples therapy practice, Dr. Alexandra provides new language and ways of thinking about arguments that promote empathy and care, shifting couples into a "we" perspective so that they can move through hard times as a team.Shop Dame Products (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)https://www.dameproducts.com/?gclid=Cj0KCQjw3IqSBhCoARIsAMBkTb0r5_iBQR_NRXogKj6fneSiDWl64rULQK1kh0RbSp-HWfzT9_dPZbgaAlRwEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.dsGet the companion worksheet for this episode:www.dralexandrasolomon.com/skillsSubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Couples therapy directories:https://gottmanreferralnetwork.com/http://www.iceft.com/http://therapist.comhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapistsDomestic violence resources:https://ncadv.org/resources

Dr. Alexandra is joined by renowned guest Dr. Mona Fishbane for a deep-dive into healthy relational habits, conflict resolution, and aging alongside one's partner.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Loving with the Brain in Mind: Neurobiology and Couple Therapy by Mona Fishbane, Ph.D.https://bookshop.org/books/loving-with-the-brain-in-mind-neurobiology-and-couple-therapy/9780393706536Keep Sharp: Build a Better Brain At Any Age by Sanjay Gupta, MDhttps://bookshop.org/books/keep-sharp-build-a-better-brain-at-any-age/9781501166730The Vulnerability Cycle (Dr. Mona Fishbane's article with Michele Scheinkman, CSW):https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1545-5300.2004.00023.xDr. Fishbane's website:Monafishbane.com

Today's episode is all about grief, featuring guest expert Megan Devine. Megan is a grief advocate, dedicated to helping us live through the things we never thought we’d face. Dr. Alexandra and Megan discuss what we all get wrong about grief, and they address a question from a well-meaning listener who wants to learn how to better support a friend who has suffered a painful loss.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274It's Ok That You're Not Ok: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand by Megan Devine:https://bookshop.org/books/it-s-ok-that-you-re-not-ok-meeting-grief-and-loss-in-a-culture-that-doesn-t-understand-9781622039074/9781622039074How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed: A Journal For Grief by Megan Devine:https://bookshop.org/books/how-to-carry-what-can-t-be-fixed-a-journal-for-grief/9781683643708Refuge in Grief: Megan's Online Community:https://refugeingrief.com/Connect with Megan:megandevine.coHere After, Megan's Podcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/here-after-with-megan-devine/id1595914505

Dr. Shefali Tsabary, New York Times bestselling author and parenting expert, joins Dr. Alexandra for a rich discussion about her new book, A Radical Awakening: Turn Pain into Power, Embrace Your Truth, Live Free, which explores the ways in which our patriarchal culture traps women into cycles and arrangements that keep them from living their fullest lives.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274A Radical Awakening: Turn Pain into Power, Embrace Your Truth, Live Free by Dr. Shefali Tsabaryhttps://bookshop.org/books/a-radical-awakening-turn-pain-into-power-embrace-your-truth-live-free/9780062985897

This solo episode focuses on the phrase “I love them, but I’m not in love with them.” Have you heard it in your own life? Dr. Alexandra unpacks what can lie beneath the surface of this phrase and explores the feelings, ideas, and commitments that the world “love” captures for different people.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274The Brain in Love (Helen Fisher, TED):https://www.ted.com/talks/helen_fisher_the_brain_in_love?language=enTaking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want by Dr. Alexandra Solomon:https://bookshop.org/books/taking-sexy-back-how-to-own-your-sexuality-and-create-the-relationships-you-want/9781684033461