On this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra dives into a topic that all of us have grappled with at some point or another: talking about the future with our partner. If you're struggling with a pace discrepancy with your partner, whether it's about becoming exclusive, moving in together, getting married, or starting any kind of new chapter, this conversation is for you.Get the Talking About the Future worksheet:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/futureSubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceit

On this special Love Stories episode, Dr. Alexandra is joined by Cathy and Todd Adams. They're husband and wife, co-hosts of the popular podcast Zen Parenting Radio, and so much more. Cathy and Todd open up about all aspects of their relationship, discuss how it's grown and changed over time, and explore how it connects with their work around parenting and personal growth.Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World by Cathy Cassani Adamshttps://bookshop.org/books/zen-parenting-caring-for-ourselves-and-our-children-in-an-unpredictable-world/9780306925207?gclid=CjwKCAjwx7GYBhB7EiwA0d8oe0Uh6rkzzhTRl6xTwMGtdHg26Uyp3BGgOsQW9awnt6nNZ8D8rXC5HhoCqvUQAvD_BwEZen Parenting Radio:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/zen-parenting-radio/id414414318Zen Parenting Website:https://zenparentingradio.com/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceit

Mark Groves joins Dr. Alexandra to answer a listener question about getting back together with an ex, and they discuss the personal growth and expansion that's possible when we allow ourselves to get honest and vulnerable with the people we love most, and with ourselves.Check out Dr. Alexandra's community on the Peanut App:peanut.app.link/ReimaginingLoveSubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Get the Relational Ambivalence worksheet from last week's episode:www.dralexandrasolomon.com/ambivalence

The Shrink Chicks—therapists Emmalee Bierly and Jennifer Chaiken—join Dr. Alexandra for a vibrant conversation about cultivating self-understanding in the context of relationships and family. They tackle two wonderful listener questions and share lots of laughs along the way.Check out Dr. Alexandra's community on the Peanut App:peanut.app.link/ReimaginingLoveSubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Get the Relational Ambivalence worksheet from last week's episode:www.dralexandrasolomon.com/ambivalence

In the second part of the "Should I Stay or Should I Go?" series, Dr. Alexandra continues the conversation about Relational Ambivalence and offers listeners eight things they can do to help them move from stuckness to clarity.Listen to Part 1 of this series:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000574755271Get the Relational Ambivalence worksheet:www.dralexandrasolomon.com/ambivalence"Should I Stay or Should I Go?" article by Dr. Alexandra:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/should-i-stay-or-should-i-go-relational-uncertainty/E-course for therapists & coaches: “Loving Bravely: Helping Clients who are Single, Dating, and Single Again”:https://catalog.psychotherapynetworker.org/sales/pn_c_afc001347_15_lovingbravely_email-105645Mark Groves Ted Talk:https://www.ted.com/talks/mark_groves_you_were_born_to_love_you_evolved_to_fit_in?language=enBook: Deliberate Practice in Emotion-Focused Therapy (Essentials of Deliberate Practice) by Dr. Rhonda N. Goldman:https://www.amazon.com/Deliberate-Practice-Emotion-Focused-Therapy-Essentials/dp/1433832852/ref=sr_1_1?crid=L7QAJ78C3X9T&keywords=rhonda+goldman&qid=1659051680&sprefix=rhonda+goldman%2Caps%2C104&sr=8-1Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274

Welcome back to Reimagining Love! On today's episode, Dr. Alexandra explores the complicated question that many of us have faced at some point in our lives: Should I stay in this relationship, or should I leave? If you're unsure of what the wisest path forward is, and you're hoping to proceed with compassion for your partner and yourself, this episode is for you.Check out Dr. Alexandra's community on the Peanut App:peanut.app.link/ReimaginingLoveGet the Relational Ambivalence worksheet:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/ambivalence/Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274

Dr. Alexandra's husband Todd joins her in the studio for a special and personal episode about their decades-long love story and marriage, sharing joyful moments and the lessons they've learned along the way.Check out Dr. Alexandra's community on the Peanut App:peanut.app.link/ReimaginingLoveSubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274

Dr. Alexandra is joined by Jayson Gaddis, founder of The Relationship School and the book "Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High-Stakes Relationships." They discuss Jayson's approach to conflict-repair, which focuses on calming the nervous system and bringing both partners to their baseline, where the potential for positive change is highest. Jayson and Dr. Alexandra answer a great listener question as well about broaching difficult topics in the context of an intimate partnership.The Family Institute at Northwestern University:https://www.family-institute.org/Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High-Stakes Relationships by Jayson Gaddis:https://bookshop.org/books/getting-to-zero-how-to-work-through-conflict-in-your-high-stakes-relationships/9780306924811The Relationship School:https://relationshipschool.com/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274

World-renowned author and therapist Terry Real joins Dr. Alexandra for a discussion about his career, his new book (Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship), men in relationships, conflict resolution, and more.The Family Institute at Northwestern University:https://www.family-institute.org/Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship by Terry Real:https://bookshop.org/books/us-getting-past-you-and-me-to-build-a-more-loving-relationship/9780593233672Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274

Dr. Alexandra explores the common underfunctioning/overfunctioning dynamic in long-term partnerships. She talks about why many couples fall prey to these roles, including cultural messaging and family-of-origin scripts, and she shares strategies for breaking free from this dance so that the relationship can feel more balanced.Get the companion worksheet for this episode:www.dralexandrasolomon.com/dynamicThe Family Institute at Northwestern University:https://www.family-institute.org/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274“Overfunctioning and Underfunctioning” by Dr. Will Meek:https://willmeekphd.com/overfunctioning-underfunctioning/“Women Aren't Nags—We're Just Fed” Up by Gemma Hartley (Harper’s Bazaar, September 2017):https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a12063822/emotional-labor-gender-equality/“I Live With a Woman—We're Not Immune to Emotional Labor:How LGBTQ couples navigate gender roles at home” by Trish Bendix (Harper’s Bazaar, October 2017):https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a12779502/emotional-labor-lgbtq-relationships/Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live) by Eve Rodsky:https://bookshop.org/books/fair-play-a-game-changing-solution-for-when-you-have-too-much-to-do-and-more-life-to-live/9780525541943?gclid=CjwKCAjwyryUBhBSEiwAGN5OCMpPV9pDU8oYDF4N2gccTwdOWo4hb8gHLsp3DfY1sTLi7IrxdD83YxoCGiQQAvD_BwE