Can you have boundaries with your narcissitic ex??? The million dollar question, right?? The answer is that boudaries live within YOU. You don't need someone else's cooperation or approval- you just need to enforce the boundaries you set (which is the hard part) So today we are chatting with Katherine McNichol, a Ontario based therapist who's here to teach us about setting and enforcing boundaries.  You might know Katherine from her hilarious IG account (http://www.instagram.com/katherinemcnichol.com) ! If you haven't checked out her account yet- GO! Her memes are so damn funny.  So what's the process for setting boundaries with a narc?? 1) Set the boundary by telling them "This conversation is to discuss _______________" 2) When they attempt to change the subject (even if it's by throwing a jab at your expense) you can say, "I hear the you want to discuss ________________ and we can do that at another time, but right now we are talking about ___________. 3) Set the boundary. "This conversation is to talk about ______________. If you keep bringing up ___________,I'm going to need to end this conversation." 4) When that boundary that you just set is crossed- END THE CONVERSATION. The boundary does not exisit unless you enforce it. If you're interested with working with Katherine, please visit: http://www.kiruwellness.com and remember to check out her IG page for daily tips!!  And now, a word from our sponsor: If you are in need of coparenting support you NEED to check out Our Family Wizard. They are here to make even the most high conflict situations a lot easier. Visit them at: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com And remember, we have private communites for you to join! If you need to listen to our episodes privately, please check out: http://www.patreon.com/hownottosuckatdivorce.com and don't forget about our private FB community! http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity

Hard fact: some coparents suck. Hard truth: there IS something you can do about it.  The coparenting app, Our Family Wizard, is a favorite tool for both parents and divorce professionals. Why? Becuase it offers a PLETHORA of options to help you NOT SUCK at coparenting with someone who...sucks. Now, you may be familiar with Our Family Wizard as a tool to have court monitored conversations with your high conflict coparent BUT DID YOU KNOW that: 1) Our Family Wizard is not JUST for high conflict coparents 2) There are a TON of additional features on Our Family Wizard (beyond the messaging) that will actually help you MORE than the court monitored messaging. (hint: the more you use these other features, the less you'll rely on the messaging feature!) You NEED to listen to this episode if you're stuggling with coparenting. Trust. It WILL help you. And also, if Our Family Wizard is good enough for celebrites to use (Angelina Jolie, Brad Pitt, Kelly Clarkson, Lala Kent, Jeff Lewis...just to name a few...) then it's good enough for YOU. You're welcome. Also, don't be the a$$hole who eats onion sandwiches on a train. Especially not around Morgan. And send snacks for Andrea's son, Oliver...he's still hungry and hiding all of this food under his bed.   And now, a word from our sponsor: Soberlink is here is assist families who are struggling with alcohol addicition that can be a danger during parenting time. To get help, please visit: http://www.soberlink.com/notsuck   And don't forget to join our private communites! To listen to Bonus Episodes and listen to all of shows without a record of you downloading them, go to: http://www.patreon.com/hownottosuckatdivorce.com And you're looking for a community, we've got a GREAT one for you to join! http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity Coparents might not, but you don't have to suck at dealing with them. You've got this...and we've got you. -Andrea and Morgan    

Not only did your marriage not work out, but now your divorce attorney isn't working out!! aaahhh!! What now?!? Well, on this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce we are going to talk you through how to switch divorce attorneys, so listen up! If you're googling: I hate my divorce attorney How to not lose all of my money in my divorce? Can you switch attorneys mid divorce? How to switch divorce attorneys? You want to listen to what we have to say!!   There's a checklist we are going to take you through to ensure that you know EXACTLY where you stand with your current counsel, what you SHOULD be getting from them, when to know if it's time to switch things up, and finally, HOW to do it!! To get your hands on our "Before You Swtich Attorneys" PDF, head to our IG page and visit our bio line! www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorce Meanwhile, Morgan is stil being tormented by people using speaker phone in public and Andrea is losing her mind over group text messages!!   And if you're stuggling with coparenting ON TOP of dealing with the headache of attorneys, take a second and visit Our Family Wizard. Our Family Wizard was created to help make coparenting easier- even in the most difficult cases. http://www.ourfamilywizard.com   And remember, support is just a click away! Join our private groups below! http://www.patreon.com/hownottosuckatdivorce.com http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity

It's the season FOUR premiere!!!  We are SO excited to bring you an AMAZING season of advice, divorce tips, and of course, a lot of LAUGHS. AND...we have a brand new segment! Forget "OBSESSED", and welcome to "OVER IT", our time to share what's driving us NUTS...it's sure to bring you some much needed humor!  Starting with Morgan's strong aversion to people using their speaker phone setting in public places...meanwhile, Andrea says, "bring in ON!", (just make sure your friend of family member enunciates).  Today's episode highlights the story of Jessica Frew's marriage, divorce, and her BEAUTIFUL life (and relationship with her ex), post divorce. If you don't yet know her, do yourself a favor and go follow her : www.instagram.com/heyjessicafrew . Jessica is the host of the popular, Husband in Law, podcast where she, her current husband, and her ex husband tell their story. We don't want to "spill the tea" here in the shownotes, so you're going to have to listen to this episode to hear all about Jessica's experience and how she so gracefully navigated the major changes in her life AND how she helps other women do the same.  Check Jessica's coaching groups out here: http://www.theboldlogic.com And, here are some shoutouts to our season 4 sponsors!! If you or your ex spouse is struggling with alcohol and you have concerns about being sober during parenting time, please visit: http://www.soberlink.com/notsuck for $50 off a device And please, if you are navigating a high conflict divorce and need a safe and effective way to communicate with your coparent, please visit http://www.ourfamilywizard.com As always, take deep breaths. Move your body, and find a way to laugh EVERY SINGLE FREAKING DAY.  You've got this, and we've got you.  Join our FREE community : http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity And to listen to our episodes PRIVATELY and get access to BONUS interviews, join us here: http://www.patreon.com/hownottosuckatdivorce.com        

This episode is HUGE and a MUST LISTEN if you are in the process of picking an attorney.    The joke is, why do so many spend more time debating on whether they're going to swipe right of left on someone on Tinder then they do picking their divorce attorney?!?!?   On this special RE AIR episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, we cover what you should be asking your prospective divorce attorney and what answers give you the GREEN light to move forward and what answers are a HUGE RED FLAG!!   To break it all down, we have Max Leinoff on the pod. Max is a family law attorney in Miami, Florida with Leinoff and Lemos, P.A. His firm was voted one of the Best Law Firms by U.S. News and World Report for 2021 and 2022. Max answers: What three things you must hear from your divorce attorney What should you do if your divorce lawyer disagrees with you? The importance of expressing your goals honestly with your divorce lawyer Who will you be working for when you hire an attorney? Is it a bad sign if they have other associates helping you? What questions should you ask divorce lawyers before deciding who to hire? These may surprise you. What is a no fault state when it comes to divorce? How can you work with your divorce attorney to move things along swiftly and smoothly? "When you're looking for an attorney, you don't want a yes man or a yes woman." - Max Leinoff If you're in Florida, here is where you can find Max Leinoff: Max@LLPA.com www.llpa.com (305) 661-1556 - office Also, Max shouts out his lovely wife, Katy, who is an incredibly talented, professional artist who has worked with Vans and was recenly featured on the Ralph Lauren website. You can see Katy's work on instagram @katyilana. We checked her out and now we're obsessed with her, too!   To join our private community, please visit http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity or  http://www.patreon.com/hownottosuckatdivorce.com   And please, follow us on Instagram for more tips and divorce entertainment!! http://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorce

You have  a horrible feeling in the pit of your stomach, but where is it coming from? Is it work? Friends? Kids? or is it your marriage?? DON'T BLAME YOURSELF!! Listen to this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce if you're feeling miserable or just unhappy in your daily life to learn where it could be possibly be coming from.  Listener fave Dr. Randy Heller is back with us today to discuss one of the most common questions we get: Is it my marriage that's making me miserable? Dr. Heller shares what people should do if they're feeling depressed, stressed and overwhelmed and an easy exercise to do to determine if it's the marriage that is the root of the problem. We also talk about how to start to feel better, regardless of the decision we make in our marriage. You can find Dr. Randy Heller here: thefamilynetwk@aol.com 646-717-6718 mycollaborativeteam.com   No matter what you decide, you got this and we got you. We love hearing from you so don't be shy. Message us on IG and join our private community! http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity  

You know her, you follow her, you love her, it's Gabrielle Stone joining us today on the season three finale of How Not Suck at Divorce.    Gabielle has been THROUGH it when it comes to heartbreak and divorce. After discovering that her husband was having an affair with a 19 year old, she quickly filed for a divorce...but that's just where her story BEGINS.  Gabrielle has experienced a lot of LIFE over the last decade.  And guess what?  She's HAPPY. She crawled her way through and on a life changing trip to Europe, she discovered herself.    It was really important to us to offer some light at the end of the tunnel for our Season Three Finale! We really hope you enjoy this conversation with two time best selling author, and podcaster, Gabrielle Stone.    To get your hands on her book, Eat, Pray #FML, head here: Eat, Pray, #FML To get your hands on her new journal, F*ck off, I'm Healing, head here: F*ck off, I'm Healing To listen to Gabielle's podcast, #FML Talk, head here: FML Talk   We love you all and we want you all to know that there IS light at the end of the tunnel for you.  You WILL get through this. This pain will NOT last forever.  Stick with us, we'll get you through it.    For more support, join our private communities: http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity http://www.patreon.com/hownottosuckatdivorce.com  

There's a growing trend to share your life with someone and NOT get legally married...which sounds great, right?!? No marriage = no divorce...so what could be bad?? Well, there's some things to consider...and on this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce we are chatting with Houston area attorney, Susan Myres, who's shedding light on the perils of playing house. So, if you're considering NOT getting remarried because, well, divorce SUCKS, we totally get it, but please listen to this episode FIRST so you're well aware of the pros and cons.  Things to consider: Tax benefits, medical rights, survior rights, pre marriage assets, just to name a few!! There are many, many ways to live a happy and healthy life with your partner, just be aware of your rights! Susan is availabe at https://www.thehoustondivorcefirm.com/our-team/susan-myres/ To join our private community, visit: http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity And to listen to our episodes privately, visit: http://www.patreon.com/hownottosuckatdivorce.com     

  Okay, WTF is a collabortive divorce and how would you know if you qualify for one? Today on our show, we have Austin attorney, Kris Algert, who is an EXPERT on collaborative divorces. A collaborative divorce is a dispute resolution process where both parties commit upfont that they will not go to court. Meaning, both parties are committed to being HONEST and WILLING to WORK TOGETHER to resolve issues.  If you've wondered: Can I get a collaborative divorce? What's the difference between a collaborative divorce and regular divorce? Then this episode is for YOU! A collaborative divorce offers a unique way to resolve a divorce without spending a ton of money: less court fees, less time. HOWEVER, and this is BIG however, you need to understand that a collaboritve process is NOT for every divorcing couple.  Make sure you listen to the episode to learn whether a collaborative divorce would be right for you.  If you're interested in learning more about a collaborative divorce, make sure you ask a prosepctive divorce attorney these questions: 1) What percentage of your work is in doing collaborative divorces? 2) What do you view the benefits and the risks are for my case? 3) Ask what the likelyhood of success for their case to be resloved with a collaboritve divorce?   To reach Kris Algert, please visit: Head here!   Make sure you check out our private communites! Patreon: if you need to listen to our episodes privately http://www.patreon.com/hownottosuckatdivorce.com Facebook: if you need more support http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity And make sure you're following us on Instagram!! http://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorce    

Child Support. You know it, you love/hate it. But what if you need to modify it?   How do you modify child support post divorce decree? How can you get more child support? How do you know if you're paying too much in child support?   Well, friends, we've got your answers right here on How Not to Suck at Divorce.  Here's what you need to consider: What has changed? (finanically, you need a 10% or more swing in either direction. Needs with the children also weigh in here. Consider the past/present and future! Get your facts STRAIGHT (see if it's worth it before you persue Get a full strategy (ask you attorney for guidance here!!) Let's lighten things up here with the link to Andrea's amazon sneakers!! Let's see these sneakers!! Remember friends, we are here for you and would love to support you in anyway we can.  For more support, please check out our private communities.  http://www.patreon.com/hownottosuckatdivorce.com  Patreon is for listeners who want extra BONUS episodes with private listening options, you can listen to our show without it being traced to your device! http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity Our Private Facebook community is for anyone who wants more support!   We love you all! Please message us with any questions and follow up on IG! http:www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorce