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How Not To Suck At Divorce: Divorce Advice You Need To Hear

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Mar 28, 2025 • 56min

146. What You Need to Know About Divorce If you Have a Child with Special Needs

In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, we dive into the complexities of navigating a divorce when you have a child with special or higher needs. We’re joined by Cari Pines, an attorney in LA who specializes in family law and has personal experience with raising special needs children. Cari shares her expertise on how to manage the legal and emotional challenges that come with divorce when your child requires extra care and attention.What you’ll learn:How to communicate effectively with your attorney about your child’s special needsThe importance of gathering information about your child’s diagnosis, behaviors, and needs before you begin the divorce processThe role of a forensic expert and why this might be necessary in some casesPractical advice on managing disputes with your ex regarding your child’s medical care and therapyTips on using tools like Our Family Wizard to keep track of communications and medical expensesHow to take care of yourself while navigating the difficult path of parenting a child with special needs during a divorceOur Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicago
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Mar 21, 2025 • 1h 15min

145. What Happens When Your Children Needs Their Own Representation In Your Divorce

In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, we explore the complexities of hiring a Guardian ad Litem (GAL) or an Attorney for the Child (AFC), two roles that are often involved when there are disputes over parenting time or custody. Special guest Randi Karmel, a seasoned attorney based in New York, shares her expert insights on when and why these professionals might be appointed in divorce cases and how they can impact your case.What you’ll learn:The roles and differences between a GAL and an AFC, and how they advocate for children in custody casesHow to determine if you need an AFC or GAL, and the potential impact on your caseThe importance of honesty and transparency when communicating with an AFC or GALKey differences in how these roles work in different states, like New York versus IllinoisHow to prepare for interviews with an AFC or GAL and what to avoid doing during these interactionsOur Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicago
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Mar 17, 2025 • 1h

144. Does Your Divorce Need a Forensic Accountant?

In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, we dive into the world of forensic accountants and when you should—and shouldn't—bring one into your divorce case. Featuring expert Marie Ebersbacher, a senior managing director in forensic consulting, we explore how forensic accountants help uncover hidden assets, value businesses, and track income. We also share some wild, real-life stories, including one about a celebrity hairdresser's murder that has some SERIOUS financial implications! Hit play - you can't miss this one!What you’ll learn:When is it worth hiring a forensic accountant for your divorce?How to spot discrepancies in financial documents (and what to do about them)Real-life stories of financial shenanigans and how they played out in divorce casesTips on saving time and money during your divorce process without going rogueTune in for valuable insights and a little humor to make the divorce process juuuust a bit less overwhelming!Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck20Friends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicago
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Mar 7, 2025 • 45min

143. Listen BEFORE You File for Divorce

In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, the hosts discuss the right and wrong times to file for divorce with the help of expert family law attorney Jacqueline Newman. They break down seasonal considerations, personal financial situations, and how to recognize when emotional readiness plays a crucial role in deciding whether or not to take the plunge. Jacqueline shares her professional advice on when to act and when it might be wise to wait, all while offering insight on the emotional, financial, and practical factors that affect the timing of a divorce. The episode highlights how a strategic approach, involving patience and timing, can make a significant difference in the outcome of a divorce case.What Listeners Will Learn:The ideal time to file for divorce (hint: there actually IS an ideal time)Why it's important to wait for a stable financial moment or to avoid filing during difficult life circumstancesHow to determine if you're emotionally and financially prepared for the challenges of divorceThe importance of understanding the business and financial ramifications before making the decision to fileWhy it’s crucial to have a lawyer who asks the right questions to guide you through your divorce strategyPractical advice on navigating emotional and financial hurdles that can arise when thinking about divorceOur Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners AND save 20% on their essentials package! www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck20Friends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicago
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Feb 28, 2025 • 42min

142. Do I Need a Prenup? (Everything You Need to Know About Prenups to Avoid an Expensive Divorce)

In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, we dive into the world of prenuptial agreements (prenups) and why they might be something to consider for anyone entering a marriage, especially if you're coming into the union with significant assets or wealth. They cover everything from what goes into a prenup, who might need one, and how to navigate the conversation with your partner, to the importance of finding a good lawyer and ensuring fairness in the agreement. They also discuss some of the more unusual clauses that might appear in prenups and share tips on how to approach the topic with your partner in a way that is clear and non-confrontational.The burning questions you'll get answers to:Who typically needs a prenup?Are there any common clauses included in prenups, like those involving children or lifestyle?How much can you expect to pay for a prenup?Should both parties hire separate attorneys when creating a prenup?What should someone look out for if they are served a prenup?When is the best time to start discussing and signing a prenup before marriage?Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicago
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Feb 19, 2025 • 51min

141. What You Need to Know about Your Divorce Custody Agreement Before You Sign

In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, we dive deep into the dreaded parenting plans (also called custody agreements, parenting schedules, or allocation judgments). They break down what really matters in these complex documents, from decision-making on medical care and extracurricular activities to holiday schedules and the right of first refusal.Andrea shares her personal struggles with her own parenting agreement and offers tips on how you can avoid the mistakes she made. Morgan provides expert legal insight on how to negotiate a fair agreement that works for both parents and their kids.What You’ll Learn:The key components of a parenting plan: decision-making, holidays, medical care, and more.Why you need to be proactive and think about how decisions today will impact your future.How to work with your lawyer to create a flexible and fair plan for you and your kids.The importance of compassionate communication and why it's key when negotiating with your ex.Pro tips on how to handle tricky situations like school choice, summer camps, and the right of first refusal.Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicago
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Feb 10, 2025 • 57min

140. Divorce Anxiety: How to Handle the Inner Chaos and Uncertainty

In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, we dive into the overwhelming fear that often accompanies divorce and its impact on decision-making because lets face it - when we're fearful or scared we are NOT in our right minds. We’re joined by transformational coach Annmarie Chereso, who shares her expertise on how fear affects the brain and behavior during such a challenging time. Annmarie provides practical tools to manage fear, including a four-step method that helps individuals move from a place of fear to empowerment.You will learn:How fear impacts decision-making during a divorce and how to recognize when it is taking controlPractical steps to shift out of fear and into empowerment, including breathing techniques, physical movement, and self-compassionWhy it's crucial not to make decisions when in a heightened emotional state and how to effectively manage fearHow embracing the right mindset can help individuals navigate the emotional challenges of divorce, leading to a more balanced and positive outcomeCLICK HERE to grab the Best Parenting Schedules Advice Workbook Connect with Annmarie:Website: www.annmariechereso.meFree Resource: Out of YOUR Mind and Into Your Body! 5 Day Challenge to reconnect with your intuition and trust yourself: https://annmariechereso.me/trust/Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicago
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Jan 31, 2025 • 55min

139. Divorce Deposition PRO TIPS!!!

In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, we're talking about the often intimidating process of being deposed during a divorce. We break down what a deposition is, how it works, and the importance of preparation to ensure you present yourself as a strong witness. Morgan, a seasoned divorce lawyer, walks listeners through key strategies for handling a deposition, including how to answer questions succinctly, when to ask for a break, and why staying calm is crucial. They also discuss the role of the lawyer in preparing for the deposition, including the importance of honesty, not over-explaining answers, and how to keep your emotions in check, especially if you're feeling overwhelmed or manipulated!In this episode you'll learn:The purpose of a deposition in a divorce case and why it's crucial to the litigation processHow to prepare for a deposition, including working with your lawyer and understanding what questions might come upThe importance of staying calm, professional, and concise during a deposition.Why honesty and control over your emotions can make a significant difference in how you’re perceivedHow to navigate potential emotional triggers, and how to avoid major mistakes like over-sharing or losing your temperOur Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicago
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Jan 21, 2025 • 50min

138. How Getting Divorced Saved My Life

In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea opens up about her personal journey and how getting divorced legitimately saved her life. She shares her experiences of being in an unhealthy marriage, the physical toll it took on her, and the turning point that led her to take control of her life. Andrea also discusses the mistakes she made during her divorce process, including choosing the wrong lawyer and rushing into decisions without proper counsel. Despite these challenges, Andrea highlights the importance of having the right support and taking action to improve your life after divorce.In this episode, you'll learn:The emotional and physical toll an unhealthy relationship can take, and the importance of recognizing when it's time to make a changeHow to avoid common mistakes in the divorce process, such as rushing into decisions or hiring the wrong attorneyThe power of taking small steps toward healing, understanding that it takes time but can ultimately lead to a healthier and happier lifeThe importance of quality time with your children post-divorce and focusing on what truly mattersWhy finding the right legal representation and support system can make all the difference in navigating divorceThis episode is a raw, honest look at Andrea's experience and serves as a reminder that, though divorce is challenging, it CAN lead to personal growth and happiness.Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicago
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Jan 11, 2025 • 28min

137. Can I Pause or Stop my Divorce Process?!

In this episode, we dive into the complex decision of whether to pause your divorce process and explore the possibility of reconciliation. We discuss why some couples might reconsider divorce, the emotional and practical aspects to consider before making a decision, and the importance of having real, lasting change before hitting pause. We also touch on the legal steps involved in pausing or halting the divorce process, including options like the reconciliation calendar, and the financial and emotional risks that come with this decision. This isn't easy friend - but we've got you covered. In this episode you'll learn:The reasons why some people file for divorce but later reconsider, and how to recognize if reconciliation is truly possibleWhat steps to take if you're considering pausing your divorce, including discussing it with your attorney and understanding the legal implicationsHow to distinguish between temporary emotional moments (like a spontaneous romantic night) and genuine, long-term changes that could save your marriageThe importance of being aware of the risks, both emotional and financial, that could arise when halting the divorce processHow working through these decisions with proper guidance, both legal and emotional, can help you make the best choice for your futureOur Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicago

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