159. I Should Have Gotten Divorced Before I Got Married: An Inspirational Divorce Story

In this episode of How Not To Suck At Divorce, Heather McGinley, Emmy award-winning author and founder of The Happily Never After, shares her powerful story of growing up in a fundamentalist Christian family with 21 siblings and how her unconventional upbringing shaped her approach to relationships and divorce. She discusses the mistakes she made during her divorce process, including not interviewing multiple attorneys and failing to file for temporary support, while offering hope that life's most difficult endings can lead to beautiful new beginnings.

What You'll Hear

• Heather's shocking revelation about growing up as the eldest of many children in a "quiverfull" fundamentalist Christian household (hit play to find out HOW many siblings 👀)
• How religious trauma and purity culture affected her ability to form healthy relationships
• The moment her therapist helped her realize she had shut down emotionally as a survival mechanism
• Why she says she "should have gotten divorced before getting married"
• Her biggest mistakes during the divorce process, including financial decisions that cost her $20,000
• Her experience working as a producer on Oprah's show and the valuable lessons about intention
• The "bathroom floor" moments during divorce and how to get through them
• How divorce became the catalyst for her personal growth and ability to love authentically

Questions Answered in This Episode

• How does childhood trauma affect relationship choices in adulthood?
• What are the biggest mistakes people make when hiring a divorce attorney?
• When should you file for temporary spousal support during divorce proceedings?
• How do you know when it's time to get divorced?
• Why does divorce often get harder before it gets better?
• What should be on your divorce support team?
• How can you maintain hope during the darkest moments of divorce?
• What role does personal growth play in the divorce process?
• How do you move from surviving to thriving after divorce?

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