Pure Desire Podcast

Today we talk with Dan and Jenn Howie about sharing their story of sexual brokenness with their adult kids. We talk about what to share, when to share, and why it's important to share with our kids, regardless of their age. GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter) Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Have you ever echoed the musing of the Apostle Paul, "For I do not do the good I want to do. Instead, I keep on doing the evil I do not want to do"? You're not alone! Many of us have this experience–feeling like there are different parts of us that want different things. Those feelings are not abnormal. On today's episode, we talked with Jenna Riemersma about Internal Family Systems–a revolutionary approach to understanding why we do things we don't want to do and have such a hard time doing what we want to do.RESOURCESFULL EPISODE VIDEO (YOUTUBE)ALTOGETHER YOU (JENNA’S BOOK)JENNAREIMERSMA.COM (JENNA’S WEBSITE)ATLANTA CENTER FOR RELATIONAL HEALING GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter) Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

So many men, women, and churches struggle with knowing where to start in the area of unwanted sexual behavior. How do we find freedom from the struggle? How do we experience healing from betrayal? How do we help our people navigate sexual brokenness? We have the answer: our new 8-week video course, Sexual Integrity 101!RESOURCESSEXUAL INTEGRITY 101 VIDEO COURSE GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter) Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Another relapse happens...what do you do? The Recovery Action Plan is a prepared course of action so you know exactly what to do, who to talk to, and what re-establishing trust will look like. Today we talk about how this tool not only gives us a post-relapse plan of action but also is an amazing deterrent for future relapse.RESOURCESRECOVERY ACTION PLAN (ADDICT)RECOVERY ACTION PLAN (BETRAYED) GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter) Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Have you ever heard the phrase, "An oldie but a goodie?" Though we live in a world of messaging and social media communication, there is tons of value in making a simple phone call. Today we talk about the importance of phone calls on the road to recovery. GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter) Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Many of us keep returning to those old unwanted behaviors. Why is that? Far too many of us just focus on what not to do instead of creating a plan toward what we want to do. The 3 Circles tool helps us identify what we want to stop, guardrails to keep us from it, and the healthy habits we need for change. RESOURCES3 CIRCLES TOOL GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter) Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Harry Flanagan, a clinician and co-author with Pure Desire Ministries, shares insights into the Commitment to Change tool. He discusses how brutal honesty and manageable weekly goals can foster real transformation. Personal stories illustrate the importance of accountability and breaking down challenges into achievable steps. Flanagan emphasizes that recovery is a marathon, encouraging listeners to compete with themselves, recognize triggers, and build relationships through shared commitments. Practical tips on setting meaningful commitments help guide listeners toward lasting change.

Navigating tough choices is a universal struggle, especially in recovery from unwanted behaviors. The hosts explore the concept of double binds, where both options seem to lead to negative outcomes. They discuss how unrecognized double binds can hinder progress and share personal examples, highlighting emotional costs. Vulnerability surfaces as a double bind, too—risking connection or remaining distant. Practical insights include breaking down tasks and sharing struggles with trusted people to gain clarity and support in the journey to healing.

Ashley Jameson, a regular contributor to the community, offers profound insights on recovery and healing from betrayal. She revisits the FASTER Scale, a tool for self-awareness crucial in navigating unwanted behaviors. The discussion highlights its use across various life roles, including communication between couples and parenting. Ashley emphasizes spotting emotional triggers and practical safeguards for long-term recovery. The conversation cleverly mixes personal stories with actionable advice, making the FASTER Scale accessible for everyone seeking to improve their relationships.

Leading addiction recovery groups can be challenging. Especially when leading women through them. Women struggle with unique levels of shame and hopelessness when it comes to love, sex, and relationships. That's why we talk through how to best lead women through Unraveled Groups. RESOURCESEPISODE 095 – UNRAVELED: MANAGING LOVE, SEX, AND RELATIONSHIPSEPISODE 120 – ONLINE GROUPSUNRAVELED KITJOIN A GROUPGROUP GUIDELINESREGIONAL GROUP ADVISORS GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter) Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.