Pure Desire Podcast 154 - Recovery Tools: Double Bind
Jun 16, 2020
Navigating tough choices is a universal struggle, especially in recovery from unwanted behaviors. The hosts explore the concept of double binds, where both options seem to lead to negative outcomes. They discuss how unrecognized double binds can hinder progress and share personal examples, highlighting emotional costs. Vulnerability surfaces as a double bind, too—risking connection or remaining distant. Practical insights include breaking down tasks and sharing struggles with trusted people to gain clarity and support in the journey to healing.
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What A Double Bind Really Is
- A double bind is choosing between two options that each carry a real cost.
- Naming both costs clarifies why you're stuck and helps pick the better painful path.
Translate Binds Into Weekly Commitments
- Use the double bind during group check-ins to link your Faster Scale to weekly commitments.
- Convert the identified bind into a concrete commitment to change for measurable progress.
Both Choices Can Be Painful
- People often see only the cost of change and miss the cost of staying the same.
- Realizing you choose pain either way allows you to pick the path that leads to growth.