The Better Man Podcast

Dean Pohlman
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Aug 15, 2025 • 55min

137: You Don’t Need More Motivation, You Need More Self-Connection with MFY Coach Patrick McKee

External motivation is a tricky and fickle thing that can make you consistent one week, only to feel defeated and deflated the next 3 weeks.    Why?   Because external motivation is a short-term band-aid that’s not only unsustainable over time, but actually makes it harder to be consistent with any goal you’re trying to achieve.    There’s a better source to fuel your energy in pursuit of your goals: Yourself.    Problem is, we’ve never been more disconnected from our true selves than ever before thanks in large part to social media. But something magical happens when you reconnect with yourself:   Your brain joins your team instead of constantly criticizing you.    This journey of self-connection isn’t always puppies and rainbows… but it’s possible. And today’s guest, MFY Coach Patrick, LCPC (who has 25+ years of experience as a mental health professional) understands this better than anyone, especially as it relates to your consistency with fitness.    Patrick battled depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem first hand, which led him to become a mental health specialist in the first place. And as the Motivation & Consistency Coach at Man Flow Yoga, he has a sixth sense for helping you understand how you hold yourself back on an emotional level. He also understands how to talk to your “inner world” in a way that reconnects you to yourself, and allows you to be consistent without relying on motivation.  Here’s what Coach Patrick shares in this episode:   How to give yourself permission to stop beating yourself up The “Monster in the Basement” trap of negative self-talk that flies under most guys’ radars  How to be kinder with yourself even when you’re not in a good place    And more, including these highlights:    Why advice that only tells you what to do falls flat (even if it’s good advice, it doesn’t empower you like Coach Patrick’s “Empowerment Therapy” coaching style) (4:46)  The weird way celebrating your wins, even if they’re small, prevents you from falling into the trap of self-sabotage (5:54)  How motivational YouTube videos can actually make you feel defeated and deflated (and the trick to stop relying on motivation completely without sacrificing your fitness goals) (10:12)  2 reasons why more men are unhappy today than we’ve ever been (13:02)  Do you feel disconnected from yourself? Here are 3 techniques that help you tune out the noise and understand yourself on a deeper level (17:09)  How to actually convince your brain to join your team instead of being your biggest critic (21:37)  How to point out your flaws and faults and failures in a kind way (31:01)  Why focusing your intrusive thoughts, anxieties, and insecurities to a specific body part can help you “digest” the emotion without spiraling (47:48)  The counterintuitive reason trying to ignore negative thoughts, emotions, and stories give them more power of you (49:41)  Listen now!   Resources mentioned on this episode:    1. 1-on-1 Coaching with MFY Coach Patrick: If you’re struggling with motivation and consistency, negative self-talk and self-sabotage, or another mental health problem, Coach Patrick has 1-on-1 coaching spots open. You can learn more about being coached by Patrick and sign up for 1-on-1 coaching here: https://manflowyoga.com/man-flow-yoga-one-on-one-coaching/    2. Group Coaching with MFY Coach Patrick: Or, if you prefer a group setting where you’re surrounded by other like-minded men who are struggling through similar problems as you, Coach Patrick also does group coaching. You can learn more about group coaching and sign up for group coaching with Coach Patrick here: https://manflowyoga.com/mfy-12-week/    Other important links:    Want to improve your sexual wellness, get stronger erections, and last longer in bed? Then join the FREE 7-Day Sexual Wellness Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/uA27H    Tired of doing a form of yoga that causes more injuries than it helps prevent? The cold, hard truth is men need yoga specifically designed for them. Well, here's some good news: You can start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga by visiting https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7   
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Aug 8, 2025 • 59min

136: Why Red Light Therapy is the Ultimate Proactive Health Tool with Co-Founder of RLT Home, Amit Verma

Red light therapy has been scientifically verified to help against at least 500 health conditions… and this number keeps steadily growing each time a new research study gets published.    I bought my first red light therapy device in 2016, and if I’m being honest, I was left highly disappointed. Marketing claims around red light therapy position it as a panacea that can remedy all disease.    But the technology wasn’t advanced or sophisticated enough to back up those panacea claims in 2016.    While red light therapy still isn’t a true panacea that can remedy all disease, the technology has gone through incredible advancements in the last 9 years. For example, it’s been scientifically proven to help with 500 various health conditions.    But it’s more effective as a proactive way to prevent serious health conditions (including age-related brain decline like Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s, age-related testosterone decline, and even stress-induced prostate inflammation) than it is as a reactionary tool against the 500 conditions it helps with.    In other words, red light therapy, when treatments begin early enough, unlocks the healing powers the body had in youth that deteriorate with age.    Recently, when I went searching for the best red light therapy devices on the market, I came across RLT Home. They had the best reviews, the best customer service, and the best devices. So I bought one at full price, and started using it at my office daily. (If you want a red light therapy device without paying full price like I did… click on this link and use code “ManFlowYoga” at checkout.)    That’s why I reached out to Amit and Arjun, the founders of RLT Home to share the various proven benefits of red light therapy with you.    This episode is chock-full of the impressive and almost unbelievable benefits of a regular red light therapy practice.    Here’s what Arjun shares in this episode:   Why not all wavelengths are created equal (and which specific wavelengths you need to conquer specific health problems)  How to tell the difference between proven red light benefits and the marketing myths surrounding them 3 reasons why all men over 40 should consider red light therapy    And more.    Other highlights include:   5 major reasons why people over 40 use red light therapy to look younger, curb their pain and inflammation, eliminate brain fog, improve their sleep, and even aid their weight loss journey (4:22)  The specific red light wavelength that’s brilliant for “transcranial healing” and protecting against future age-related brain conditions like Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s (6:44)  Why NASA uses red light therapy to grow plants and to fix astronaut’s wounds quicker in outer space (9:42)  Here is your cheat sheet for understanding the unique benefits offered at various red light wavelengths (10:55)  The weird “Mitochondrial Activation” mechanism behind near infrared rays that scientifically help your body produce energy (11:08)  Red light therapy has been studied for over 500 conditions: Here are the conditions it’s been proven to help with (13:03)  Why does almost everyone report wildly different benefits of using red light therapy? (15:59)  How red light therapy may be able to save your hairline if you start it early (and why it can’t completely regrow your hair once the follicles have died) (19:40)  Why red light therapy is the ultimate proactive health tool (and why it’s not nearly as effective as a reactionary technology) (22:09)  Why your body absorbs red light rays easier than it absorbs sun rays (27:25)  How red light therapy increases testosterone production, makes your Johson firmer and stronger, increases your libido, and skyrockets your sperm count (36:46)  Why RLT Home builds a free, highly personalized, one-to-one plan for all of their customers based on your unique goals (and it’s always free - no matter how many protocols you want built for you or your family) (42:30)  2 things you must know about a specific red light therapy device before you buy it (and why RLT Home is the most transparent red light therapy company in regards to these 2 crucial things) (45:06)  How red light therapy paves the way for your body to heal as quickly as it did in childhood (this also explains why using red light therapy to heal is very condition-specific) (49:33)    Listen now!   Resources mentioned on this episode:    1. Get a red light therapy device & a personalized protocol from RLT Home (and save up to 10% on your order with code “ManFlowYoga”) here: https://redlighttherapyhome.com/mfy    2. Get access to RLT Home’s free “Which Wavelength” spreadsheet, which contains 2650+ human studies and shows you the best wavelength for the specific health condition you’re trying to treat here: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1sit8qzZXOnU_AMAtYBINDdP2jvmme_LskqlTx-erS9U/edit?gid=622452041#gid=622452041      Other important links:    Want to improve your sexual wellness, get stronger erections, and last longer in bed? Then join the FREE 7-Day Sexual Wellness Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/uA27H    Tired of doing a form of yoga that causes more injuries than it helps prevent? The cold, hard truth is men need yoga specifically designed for them. Well, here's some good news: You can start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga by visiting https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7   
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Aug 1, 2025 • 53min

Ep135: How To Get Your Needs Met In Relationships with Dr. Corey Allen from Sexy Marriage Radio

Tough conversations are one of the hardest things to navigate in relationships. Especially when everyone carries some kind of emotional baggage that’s waiting to erupt without notice.    For example, a conversation about your health and fitness could be interpreted as a threat by your partner. They’re thrown into flight-or-flight. You feel like your needs are being neglected. A fight takes place. And you’re both left wondering what happened.    If this pattern keeps happening, you’ll drift apart.    So, what can you do?   I invited Dr. Corey Allen, co-host of Sexy Marriage Radio, to share how you can break destructive patterns, how to be okay with discomfort during conflict, and why you might not always need your partner’s agreement to get your needs met.   Here’s what Dr. Corey Allen shares in this episode:   How to have tough conversations with your spouse in a way that’s productive and brings you closer together  Why avoiding conflict makes it bubble beneath the surface  How to claim time for exercise and living a healthier lifestyle even when your partner isn’t 100% on board    And more.    Other highlights include:   How to be able to open the door to uncomfortable, but important conversations with your spouse in a less messy way (9:23)  Why you don’t always need your partner’s agreement when it comes to your fitness needs (17:23)  How to reframe a conversation about your needs when your spouse doesn’t agree (and why this happens more often than you might think) (21:00)  Why old wounds can be poked by new conversations with your spouse (and how to better navigate these troubled waters) (31:19)  The “Completed Conversation” mistake men make during conflict with loved ones that undermines healthy communication (32:42)  Do stories from your head (or your partner’s head) keep derailing conflict and causing intense outbursts? This book helps you talk about your emotions without the story attached (35:17)  How being too solution-focused in conflict can backfire on your marriage and make you grow further apart (42:45)      Listen now!   Resources mentioned on this episode:    1. Want more from Dr. Corey Allen? Listen to his show, Sexy Marriage Radio, wherever you listen to podcasts.    2. Buy Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships by Marshall B. Rosenberg, PhD (the book mentioned in this episode) on Amazon here: https://a.co/d/da58pfF    Other important links:    Want to improve your sexual wellness, get stronger erections, and last longer in bed? Then join the FREE 7-Day Sexual Wellness Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/uA27H  Tired of doing a form of yoga that causes more injuries than it helps prevent? The cold, hard truth is men need yoga specifically designed for them. Well, here's some good news: You can start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga by visiting https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7
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Jul 25, 2025 • 45min

134: The Overlooked Importance of Fitness Communities with MFY Yoga Coach & Community Manager, Jesse

Some people don’t need any kind of external motivation to exercise. They’re in a routine, and their day feels chaotic when they don’t do physical activity.    But the vast majority of men, especially men over the age of 40, need a little pick-me-up from an outside source every now and then. And that’s where having a fitness community can be the difference between achieving your goals and giving up.    And you know what?   The external motivation provided by a fitness community is only one benefit… and it might not even be the most important benefit either.    In this week’s show, MFY Coach & Community Manager, Jesse Lee, joins me to share some of the other overlooked benefits a fitness community can have. Jesse’s been “in the trenches” of the Man Flow Yoga Community Facebook Group since 2019 - so he’s seen it all.    Here’s what Jesse and I share in this episode:    The weird way a fitness community improves your “limbic system motivation”  Common mistakes men make when communicating with other men that can derail your fitness momentum  The most overlooked benefits of community particularly for men    And more.    Other highlights include:   The incredibly helpful, but severely neglected “Normalization” technique that helps men alleviate stress and overcome tough problems (5:46)  How to outsource some of the burden of working out to other people (and the weird way this makes you more consistent) (10:17)  Coach Patrick’s Jedi mindset trick that instantly helps you reframe negativity into an empowering sense of positivity (16:17)  The “limbic system motivation” secret of fitness communities (21:13)  Why creating distance from your emotions instead of talking through them can actually help you recover faster from ruminating thoughts (26:21) The most refreshing sentence you can tell yourself when you're dealing with tough emotions (29:23)  Simple ways to incorporate more exercise into your morning (and why this is a cheat code for consistency) (38:11)    Listen now!   Resources mentioned on this episode:    1. Subscribe to the We Got Balls Podcast hosted by Scott and Chris on YouTube here: https://www.youtube.com/@WeGotBallsPod    2. Buy Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing by Jay Stringer (the book mentioned in this episode) on Amazon here: https://amzn.to/3QRkif2     Other important links:    Want to improve your sexual wellness, get stronger erections, and last longer in bed? Then join the FREE 7-Day Sexual Wellness Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/uA27H    Tired of doing a form of yoga that causes more injuries than it helps prevent? The cold, hard truth is men need yoga specifically designed for them. Well, here's some good news: You can start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga by visiting https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7   
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Jul 18, 2025 • 43min

133: How Men Can Own Their Sexual Story Without Shame with Scott & Chris (We Got Balls Podcast)

Chris, co-host of the We Got Balls Podcast, shares valuable insights about the often-overlooked topic of men's sexual stories. He discusses how childhood experiences and cultural backgrounds shape these narratives, emphasizing the importance of understanding one's past for emotional wellness. The conversation dives into the complexities of trauma, addiction, and the healing power of authenticity and connection. Chris also urges men to confront their shame and engage in open dialogues to foster healthier relationships.
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Jul 10, 2025 • 44min

Ep132: The Permanent Way to Conquer Back & Knee Pain from Running (Member Interview: Matt A.)

A lot of people think they’re too old, too overweight, or too stressed to take their first step on their fitness journey.    But as today’s guest, Matt, so eloquently stated in the episode, if you don’t start today, you’re going to be that much older when you do start. Since we only get one shot of this game of life, why not start today?   And you know what?   That’s exactly what Matt did a decade ago. When he realized he couldn’t fit the airplane seatbelt over his body, he decided to make the simplest of changes:   He walked three quarters of a mile to Subway for a sub instead of driving. While this decision seems tiny, it was massive in hindsight.    Ever since that Subway walk, Matt dropped 50 pounds, started jogging, then cycling, then running 5ks, then half-marathons and marathons. And today, he’s completed a half-marathon or century bike race in 32 states (and plans to finish one in all 50 states by the time he turns 50).    No matter your age or what stage of your fitness journey you’re on, Matt’s episode will give you a dose of inspiration to conquer your next workout.    Here’s what Matt and I discuss on today’s episode:   Why tiny decisions can lead to significant changes (without overwhelm, burnout, or injuries)  Simple mindset tweaks that will help you finally take your fitness seriously  The trick for permanently conquering any kind of bodily pain    And more, including…    How Adam dropped 50 pounds by doing these 3 simple things that anyone can start doing (3:25)  Have you ever ended up in urgent care from lower back pain? Here’s how Adam conquered his back pain for good (he’s had zero instances of back or knee pain in the past 18 months!) (5:31)  Why Apple Fitness yoga pales in comparison to Man Flow Yoga (13:08) How outsourcing accountability to a community makes your weight loss journey less daunting, less overwhelming, and easier to stick with (even if you haven’t noticed results yet) (21:21)  The “Reframe Your Age” secret for setting new PRs as you grow older (23:58) The weird way a Man Flow Yoga habit will help you get over “gymtimidation” (28:30)  How to stop your mind from procrastinating on your fitness once and for all with the “put your shoes on” mindset shift (34:12)    Listen now!   Resources mentioned on this episode:    Strength Foundation Challenge: If you want to follow in Matt’s footsteps (literally), he started his Man Flow Yoga journey with the Strength Foundation Challenge - and you can too here: https://manflowyoga.com/strength_challenge-2/    Other important links:    Want to unlock more flexibility and strength, reduce your risk of injury, and feel your absolute best over the next 7 days? Then join the FREE 7-Day Beginner’s Yoga for Men Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/pTVc7    Tired of doing a form of yoga that causes more injuries than it helps prevent? The cold, hard truth is men need yoga specifically designed for them. Well, here's some good news: You can start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga by visiting https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7   
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Jul 3, 2025 • 48min

131: Sexual Health: The Most Neglected Part of Holistic Wellness with Scott & Chris (We Got Balls Podcast)

Men have a tendency to believe that their sexual health is an optional part of their overall health. But, as you’ll learn in this episode, it’s actually an essential part to holistic wellness.    Why don’t more men talk about it then?    Well, most of us were raised in a way that either neglected the role sexual health plays in overall wellness or completely stigmatized sexual desire as “bad.”    This mistake carries significant consequences for men: They feel intense shame around sexual desire, their sexual abuse cases go unnoticed, and the sexual harm they experienced (which is something every man goes through) never gets discussed.    In other words, neglecting and stigmatizing sexual wellness causes men to fall into destructive and self-sabotaging behaviors. At least that’s what today’s guests, Scott and Chris from the We Got Balls Podcast, have discovered since launching their raw and real community for men.     Scott and Chris have both battled sexual trauma and were left unimpressed and frustrated by the typical healing modalities. That’s what led them to create the We Got Balls Podcast as well as their own men’s group to help other men heal from their sexual trauma and become better men for it.    Here’s what Scott and Chris share in this episode:    Why is it so uncomfortable to talk about sex?  The difference between sexual abuse and sexual harm (and why they both happen more often than you think)  The alarming age when boys first watch porn    And so much more!    Other highlights include:   The controversial reason why men get sexually abused as much as, if not more often than, women (7:05)  How sexual trauma resurfaces in your adult life (and how to actually deal with deep pangs of shame before they undermine your marriage) (12:05)  Why a culture that’s generally hostile to masculinity creates toxic masculinity (and how to embrace masculinity without being toxic) (13:26)  Why it’s no longer possible to protect your child from pornography (and how to prepare them for it so they don’t get sexually harmed or worse) (25:39)  The single most neglected part of holistic wellness that’s silently sabotaging men’s lives (29:45)  Why even the best-intentioned religious teachings on sex backfire and create intense sexual traumas (33:04)  The “Identity Shift” secret for permanently changing your destructive behaviors (36:12)    Listen now!   Resources mentioned on this episode:    1. Subscribe to the We Got Balls Podcast hosted by Scott and Chris on YouTube here: https://www.youtube.com/@WeGotBallsPod    2. Buy Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing by Jay Stringer (the book mentioned in this episode) on Amazon here: https://amzn.to/3QRkif2     Other important links:    Want to improve your sexual wellness, get stronger erections, and last longer in bed? Then join the FREE 7-Day Sexual Wellness Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/uA27H    Tired of doing a form of yoga that causes more injuries than it helps prevent? The cold, hard truth is men need yoga specifically designed for them. Well, here's some good news: You can start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga by visiting https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7 
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Jun 26, 2025 • 46min

130: How to Better Conquer the Ups & Downs of a Weight Loss Journey with David (Member Interview)

If you’re trying to lose weight, do you have a plan for when you plateau? Or when you travel?    While these might be the last things on your mind at the beginning of your weight loss journey, they can sneak up on you. And having a plan can be the difference between keeping the weight off or putting it back on.    Today’s guest, David, knows all about the ups and downs of a weight loss journey. After his daughter was born, he ballooned up to 300 pounds. After realizing he had to be there for his daughter, he made some dieting tweaks and lost 50 pounds.    Problem is, he plateaued for years… until recently! Today, he weighs less than he ever had since his daughter’s been born… his aches and pains have vanished… and he’s far happier than he ever remembered being.    And you know what?    Since David travels frequently for work, he’s also cracked the code to maintain your weight while traveling.    If you’re struggling to lose weight, or just need a dose of inspiration from someone who’s been in your shoes, listen now.    Here’s what David and I share in this episode:    How to travel without gaining weight  Why it’s possible to lose weight and still feel crappy  How to create the right environment - in your home and at work - to make losing weight easier    And more.    Other highlights include:   How David lost 50 pounds after realizing he couldn’t pick up his daughter’s toys without losing his breath (and how he rekindled his weight loss journey after plateauing) (3:16) Why Man Flow Yoga eliminated David hip and lower back pain (when walking, other yoga classes, and even lifting weights didn’t help) (9:10)  How “bribing” yourself when you can’t find the motivation to start a weight loss journey can kick you into gear (18:20)  Why you need less time strength training than you probably think (23:36)  This simple “Worth It” mindset protects your health and fitness from spiraling out of control when you travel (24:51)  A simple and surprisingly effective way to calm your anxiety down (34:27)    Listen now!   Other important links:    Want to unlock more flexibility and strength, reduce your risk of injury, and feel your absolute best over the next 7 days? Then join the FREE 7-Day Beginner’s Yoga for Men Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/pTVc7    Tired of doing a form of yoga that causes more injuries than it helps prevent? The cold, hard truth is men need yoga specifically designed for them. Well, here's some good news: You can start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga by visiting https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7 
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Jun 19, 2025 • 48min

129: How to Improve Your “Health-Esteem” & Fitness Consistency with Carl Daikeler (Co-Founder of BODi fka Beach Body)

Everyone knows that working out consistently is one of the most important things you can do for your longevity, your health, and your mood.    But knowing this doesn’t make working out any easier. If that was the case, nobody would be overweight, have back or joint pain, or have low self-esteem.    Turns out, there are certain emotional saboteurs—in the form of limiting beliefs and insidious, subconscious mindsets—that wreck your “fitness quotient,” or FQ - before you even begin!    But perhaps nobody else on the planet understands the deeper, emotional causes of self-sabotage in fitness better than today’s guest: Carl Daikeler, co-founder of BODi (fka Beach Body).     Carl helped create some of the most popular workout programs of all time (P90X, Insanity, 21 Day Fix) by understanding the deeper reasons behind self-sabotage and inconsistency.    In today’s show, Carl shares some of the most powerful strategies to improve your “health-esteem,” your FQ, and become more consistent with exercise.    Here’s what Carl and I share in this episode:    How to “trick” your brain into looking forward to and enjoying exercise  Why nothing will motivate you more than visiting an assisted living facility  How to become aware of (and eventually conquer) the deeper, emotional barriers that keep you from being consistent    And so much more.    Other highlights include:   This story about an assisted living facility might just scare you enough to make fitness a top priority (even if you’ve been inconsistent in the past) (9:22)  The “explore life” secret for actually looking forward to working out (10:28)  Why your “FQ” may be more important for your longevity and wellness than IQ or EQ (14:00)  How to find ways to trick yourself into enjoying exercise (especially if it’s always the last thing you want to do) (15:02)  Why believing your fitness routine is selfish is an excuse to be lazy (17:19)  Why taking Ozempic or other GLP-1’s without combining it with strength-building exercise and protein consumption is a grave mistake (19:23)  A few dirt-simple tweaks to your lifestyle that make a significant impact to your “health-esteem” (20:14)   A deep, unconscious mindset that actively works against you to sabotage your fitness (and how to become aware of it… and conquer it) (25:22)  This Jedi mindset trick turns your negative limiting beliefs into empowering absolute truths (28:38)    Listen now!   Guest Bio:    Carl Daikeler is a visionary entrepreneur, and the CEO and co-founder of The Beachbody Company, leading innovator in the fitness and nutrition space. With a career spanning over four decades, Daikeler has been a trailblazer, pioneering unconventional and highly effective methods to help individuals reach their health and fitness goals. Daikeler co-founded Beachbody in 1998, now known as BODi, which has expanded into a powerhouse of fitness and nutrition tools under his leadership over the last 26 years. The brand is celebrated for its iconic programs such as P90X, Insanity, and 21 Day Fix, and its profound impact on millions worldwide.    Over the years, Daikeler has overseen the development of continued innovation resulting in massive growth, including the creation of Shakeology, the world’s first superfood nutrition shake that has sold over a billion servings. He also hosts "The BODi Experience" podcast, is a successful Broadway theater producer winning three Tony awards, and a tech investor. You can connect with Carl Daikeler more through his Instagram at @carldaikeler and LinkedIn.   Other important links:    Want to unlock more flexibility and strength, reduce your risk of injury, and feel your absolute best over the next 7 days? Then join the FREE 7-Day Beginner’s Yoga for Men Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/pTVc7    Tired of doing a form of yoga that causes more injuries than it helps prevent? The cold, hard truth is men need yoga specifically designed for them. Well, here's some good news: You can start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga by visiting https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7 
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Jun 12, 2025 • 49min

128: How An Identity Shift Can Make Fitness Exciting and Fun with Kevin (Member Interview)

Let’s be honest: Exercising isn’t always exciting and fun. If it were, consistency would be an afterthought instead of an uphill struggle.    But what if you actually looked forward to your next workout?    That’s what happened to Kevin, today’s guest…    Kevin, like myself and many other Members, was a theater kid growing up.  (You’ll have to listen to the episode to learn about which embarrassing play I acted in during my senior year…) Like many theater kids, Kevin had subconsciously boxed himself into the “theater kid” mentality for most of his life. So, he never felt like a fitness person: Not when he lost 15 pounds in 60 days Not when he overcame his “gymtimidation” and tacked on muscles that his wife noticed before he did And not even when he signed up for Man Flow Yoga, which raised his “fitness awareness,” improved everything he was doing in the gym, and led to him losing 40 pounds   Any one of these accomplishments on their own tells me that Kevin was an athlete or a fitness person. But it didn’t sink in for him until, well, he attended the Man Flow Yoga Weekend Workshop in Chicago last year.  In Chicago, he had a pivotal mindset shift that made him think of himself as a fitness person. Since then, he’s enjoyed (almost) every workout, crushed every goal he’s set for himself, and stopped falling into the deadly comparison trap.  Kevin shares several nuggets of wisdom in this episode that apply no matter where you are on your fitness journey. For example:  Why focusing on results sabotages an otherwise effective fitness plan  How changing your relationship with food can make weight loss feel effortless  The secret to seeing exercise as fun and exciting instead of like a chore    And more!   Other highlights include: 2 questions to ask yourself before your next meal that conditions you to eat healthier (5:13)  Why it’s easy to eat as many as 4,000 to 5,000 calories per day without even realizing it (and what to do if you catch yourself in this situation) (5:36)  How just walking can light a fire under you and inspire a snowball effect to your fitness (7:41)  Why it’s almost easier to start a weight loss journey when you’re bigger (hint: you can lose weight rapidly with just a few simple tweaks) (8:11)  The weird way thirst and boredom disguise themselves as hunger (9:55)  How yoga helped Kevin stop waking up with Charlie horses in the middle of the night (even after he lost 50 pounds and went to the gym consistently) (18:41)  How to convince your mind that you won’t be judged at the gym like it thinks (these 3 things will help you get over any “gymtimidation”) (22:16)  This mindset shift stops exercise from feeling like a chore and actually makes it exciting and fun (29:13)    Listen now!   Resources mentioned on this episode:    Man Flow Yoga Events: Want to experience an identity shift that makes you look forward to working out like Kevin did? Grab a ticket to our upcoming in-person events for 2025 below:  1. Chicago, IL: August 23-24 - Weekend Workshop. Grab your ticket here.  2. Phoenix, AZ: August 29-31 - Fit Father Project Live (I’ll be leading yoga sessions and running a booth at the event…). Grab your ticket here.  3. Washington, DC: September 13-14 - Man Flow Yoga Wellness Weekend with Coach Jesse & Coach Patrick. Grab your ticket here. 4. Austin, TX: October 18-19 - Weekend Workshop. Grab your ticket here.    Other important links:    Want to unlock more flexibility and strength, reduce your risk of injury, and feel your absolute best over the next 7 days? Then join the FREE 7-Day Beginner’s Yoga for Men Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/pTVc7    Tired of doing a form of yoga that causes more injuries than it helps prevent? The cold, hard truth is men need yoga specifically designed for them. Well, here's some good news: You can start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga by visiting https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7 

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