Better Sex

In this episode of Better Sex, host Jessa Zimmerman and guest Dr. Anne discuss the prevalence of erectile dysfunction (ED), its underlying causes, and various treatment strategies. They explore how lifestyle changes, such as diet and exercise, can significantly improve sexual health and why it's crucial to address the root causes of ED rather than just the symptoms. Dr. Anne shares her expertise on innovative treatments like stem cell therapy, shockwave therapy, and the use of Botox to enhance erectile function. This episode provides valuable insights for men and women alike on maintaining and improving sexual health.00:00 Introduction00:44 Understanding Erectile Dysfunction01:41 Personal Motivation and Approach05:28 The Importance of Sexual Health08:44 Prevalence and Modern Factors14:09 Lifestyle and Dietary Changes25:45 Innovative Treatments19:41 Differences Between ED and Performance Anxiety35:20 Final Thoughts and Contact InformationTake the quiz at https://www.sexlifequiz.comBio:Dr. Anne Truong has 25+ years of experience in anti-aging and cellular medicine. She is an expert in intimate health and a leader in biologic regenerative medicine. With her expertise as an author, podcaster, influencer, and entrepreneur, Dr. Truong has impacted millions of people. She is a board-certified physician who treated over 7000 men with ED. Dr. Anne is starting a men's sexual health revolution! Ditch the short-term fixes and dive deep into evidence-based solutions for lifelong sexual vitality naturally without medication or surgery.Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.More info and resources:Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcastSecret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcastHow Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.comThe Course – https://www.intimacywithease.comThe Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.comAccess the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

Join sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman in this episode of the Better Sex Podcast as she explores how otherwise happy couples can transform their sex lives. With 15 years of experience and working with over a thousand couples, Jessa shares insights on the importance of addressing sex and intimacy issues, understanding desire discrepancies, and removing the societal expectations that can hinder sexual satisfaction. She emphasizes the significance of mutual respect and love between partners, sharing practical advice and strategies for creating a fun, easy, and enjoyable sex life. Listeners are encouraged to embrace a new perspective on sex and use helpful exercises to achieve a balanced and fulfilling intimate relationship.00:00 Introduction to Better Sex00:49 Transforming Your Sex Life01:40 Understanding Relationship Dynamics02:53 The Vision for a Better Sex Life07:09 Practical Steps and Exercises08:11 Conclusion and Next StepsWant to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.More info and resources:Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcastSecret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcastHow Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.comThe Course – https://www.intimacywithease.comThe Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.comAccess the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes back Dr. Paul Abramowitz for a deep dive into vulnerability in men and its impact on their intimate relationships. They explore the different stages of male development and how vulnerability manifests, the importance of understanding and embracing this vulnerability, and strategies to enhance intimacy and connection. The discussion covers biological and psychological aspects, the role of pornography, and practical steps for couples to foster deeper connections. Key insights from notable experts like Brene Brown and Peggy Klein Platz are also highlighted.00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast00:45 Welcoming Dr. Paul Abramowitz00:56 Exploring Male Vulnerability in Sex02:12 Defining Vulnerability03:58 The Origins and Impact of Vulnerability09:56 Stages of Male Sexual Development14:50 Fluid Vulnerabilities and Their Effects20:22 Insecurity vs. Vulnerability25:10 Steps to Overcoming Insecurities25:56 Inviting Vulnerability in Relationships30:40 The Importance of Vulnerability in Relationships31:37 Creating Safe Spaces for Men to Express Emotions33:32 Steps Men Can Take to Foster Vulnerability35:35 Understanding Emotional and Sexual Hard Wiring36:47 The Role of Mentorship and Men's Groups38:18 Practices to Enhance Intimacy and Vulnerability39:25 The Impact of Porn on Relationships41:37 The Biological and Psychological Aspects of Male Sexuality45:00 The Transformative Power of Sexual Intimacy57:06 Final Thoughts and ResourcesInterested in desire discrepancy resources? https://www.desirediscrepancy.comBioAs a sex and intimacy therapist, Dr. Paul Abramowitz incorporates both Eastern and Western traditions. (Totality Therapy and a PhD in Human Sexuality) A child of a Gynaecologist and Sex Therapist, Paul fast became fascinated by the challenges in heterosexual relationships, including how sex hormones affect men's ability to form meaningful intimate and sustained relationships. Often, inner conflict and ambivalence arise because of our compulsive and habitual sex-oriented actions and behaviours that tend to disrupt our capacity for discernment, executive function, and intimacy, which can feel like a hijacking.Moving beyond this predicament and becoming more self-sexually empowered, his book SeXed-Hardwired by Nature - Evolving by Choice (a resource for-journey men and women and therapists alike) is offered as a map to better understand men’s often complex "hardwired for sex" nature, and as an antidote to old limiting sexual beliefs and behaviours, towards a more expanded and evolutionary way of being human and sexual. With more than 25 years’ experience in workshop and therapy space, using his own integrated methodology (The Abro Method), Paul works with men and women who long to experience more joy, ease and pleasure in partnership, intimacy, and sex. You can contact Paul at abrap@iafrica.comHis book can be found here: www.sexed.globalWant to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.More info and resources:Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcastSecret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcastHow Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.comThe Course – https://www.intimacywithease.comThe Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.comAccess the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman dives into the concept of questioning our thoughts, which she argues is crucial for enhancing intimate relationships. Using the acronym CT FAR (Circumstances, Thoughts, Feelings, Actions, Results), Zimmerman explains how our automatic thought processes affect our emotions, behaviors, and outcomes. She provides practical examples, like interpreting someone's actions in traffic or a partner's habits at home, to illustrate her points. Zimmerman emphasizes that our thoughts are often shaped by life experiences and unconscious training, making it pivotal to question their validity. She also explores the concept of perception filters and how shared realities in relationships can lead to misunderstandings. By being mindful of our thoughts and open to alternative interpretations, we can create deeper connections and improve our intimate relationships.00:00 Introduction to Better Sex00:47 The Power of Thoughts: Don't Believe Everything You Think01:12 Understanding CT FAR: Circumstances, Thoughts, Feelings, Actions, Results03:16 Real-Life Examples: Traffic and Relationships06:47 The Impact of Upbringing on Thought Patterns08:27 The Gorilla Experiment: How Our Brain Filters Information11:28 Questioning Reality: The Importance of Different Perspectives14:58 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsWant to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.More info and resources:Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcastSecret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcastHow Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.comThe Course – https://www.intimacywithease.comThe Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.comAccess the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman chats with urologist and women's sexual health advocate Dr. Kelly Casperson. They delve into the myths and fears surrounding hormone replacement therapy (HRT), particularly focusing on menopause and its implications. Dr. Casperson explains why many common concerns, such as the belief that HRT causes breast cancer, are unfounded. She also emphasizes the importance of individualized care, informed consent, and the numerous benefits of hormone therapy, including improved sexual function, mood, and overall quality of life. The conversation covers bioidentical hormones, testosterone for women, and the often overlooked role of progesterone. Jessa and Dr. Casperson aim to empower listeners with knowledge so they can make informed choices about their health and wellbeing.00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast00:53 Meet Dr. Kelly Casperson: Advocate for Women's Sexual Health01:09 Debunking Myths About Hormone Replacement Therapy01:52 The Impact of Menopause on Sexual Health02:54 Understanding the Role of Hormones in Women's Health10:04 The Controversy of the WHI Study17:38 Invitation to Share Your Story18:08 Addressing Myths and Misconceptions About Hormone Therapy21:32 Hormone Myths and Breast Cancer22:24 Individualized Hormone Therapy Decisions23:42 The Safety and Benefits of Estrogen26:34 Testosterone for Women: Myths and Facts35:41 Progesterone: The Overlooked Hormone40:26 The Future of Menopause and Hormone Therapy41:36 Conclusion and ResourcesInterested in sharing your personal story (anonymously!) on the show? Email us at info@intimacywithease.comDr. Kelly Casperson is a board-certified urologic surgeon, renowned public speaker, sex educator, and host of the top-ranking podcast You Are Not Broken. Dedicated to empowering women, Dr. Kelly blends humor, candor, and science to demystify sexual health, intimacy, and midlife wellness. Through her podcast and online courses, she tackles myths about desire and normalizes conversations around healthy, fulfilling sex. Her work also provides essential education on hormones and midlife health. Connect with Dr. Kelly on Instagram (@kellycaspersonmd) or visit kellycaspersonmd.com.Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.More info and resources:Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcastSecret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcastHow Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.comThe Course – https://www.intimacywithease.comThe Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.comAccess the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman delves into the topic of eroticism and the empowering act of writing one's own erotica. She discusses how writing personal erotic stories can help individuals explore their fantasies, reclaim power, and ignite their arousal. Jessa also introduces her new project, Women Writing Erotica, a community for women to share and discuss their writings in a safe and supportive environment.00:00 Introduction00:45 Exploring Eroticism Through Writing01:42 Benefits of Writing Erotica03:46 Jess' New Project: Women Writing Erotica05:57 Conclusion06:31 CreditsOpt in for Women Writing Erotica: https://intimacywithease.com/wweoptinWant to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.More info and resources:Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcastSecret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcastHow Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.comThe Course – https://www.intimacywithease.comThe Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.comAccess the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this episode of the Better Sex podcast, host sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses faith transitions and the impact on intimate relationships with guests Jeremiah Gibson and Julia Postema, co-hosts of the Sex Evangelicals podcast and founders of an international coaching business. They delve into deconstructing purity culture, gender roles, and high-control religions, sharing personal stories and professional insights. They emphasize the importance of communication, managing stress, and supporting each other through deconstruction processes. The episode offers valuable strategies for individuals and couples coping with these complex dynamics.00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast00:46 Introducing Guests: Jeremiah Gibson and Julia Postema01:47 Jeremiah's Journey: From Faith to Sex Therapy04:18 Julia's Story: Overcoming Purity Culture06:46 Defining Purity Culture and High Control Religion10:53 Deconstructing Harmful Beliefs13:30 Reconstructing Values and Desires17:15 Triggers for Deconstruction19:35 Managing Differences in Relationships23:05 Break and Resources from Jess23:45 Navigating Different Paces in Deconstruction25:02 Gender Dynamics in Deconstruction27:55 Challenges in Mixed-Faith Relationships29:22 The Role of Therapy in Relationship Dynamics31:35 Purity Culture and Its Long-Term Impact40:55 Resources and Support for Deconstruction42:18 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsWork with Jessa: https://www.intimacywithease.comBio:Julia Postema and Jeremiah Gibson are the co-hosts of the podcast Sexvangelicals: The Sex Education the Church Didn't Want You to Have. They are both Boston-based licensed psychotherapists and certified sex therapists. They have a relationship coaching practice called Let's Heal Together which helps couples with negative religious backgrounds discover sexuality and communication that works for their partnership. They enjoy traveling to places that tend to fly under the radar, long-distance hiking, cooking very spicy food, unexpected conversations, and introverted days filled with reading and drinking fancy tea.www.letshealtogether.orgSexvangelicals podcastwww.sexvangelicals.substack.comWant to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.More info and resources:Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcastSecret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcastHow Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.comThe Course – https://www.intimacywithease.comThe Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.comAccess the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman delves into the fun and crucial topic of eroticism. Building on her previous discussion of nine competencies necessary for a great sex life, Jessa focuses specifically on the ninth competency: exploring what truly turns you and your partner on. She defines eroticism as more than just physical acts but the subtleties and energies that arouse us. Jessa provides strategies to identify and discuss erotic preferences with your partner, encouraging a shame-free and understanding conversation. She emphasizes the importance of finding overlap in erotic preferences to enhance intimacy and enjoyment in intimate relationships. The episode includes valuable tips like sharing scenes from media and using a 'yes, no, maybe' list to navigate these discussions.00:00 Introduction to Better Sex00:47 Exploring Eroticism: The Ninth Competency02:20 Understanding Your Erotic Template05:21 Communicating with Your Partner07:04 Finding the Overlap and Playing Together09:50 Conclusion and ResourcesResource bundle, including Yes/No/Maybe list: https://www.intimacywitheasemethod.com/pl/2147554402Podcast with Michael Bader:https://bettersexpodcast.com/179Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.More info and resources:Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcastSecret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcastHow Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.comThe Course – https://www.intimacywithease.comThe Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.comAccess the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this episode of Better Sex, host Jessa Zimmerman discusses body acceptance, freedom from body shame, and the broader implications on sexual intimacy and pleasure with guest sex therapist Nikita Fernandes. They explore the sources and impacts of body shame, the unique challenges faced by diverse communities, and practical steps towards body acceptance and empowerment.00:00 Introduction to Better Sex00:46 Jessa's Intro on Body Shame01:52 Nikita's Background and Motivation04:32 Populations and Approaches in Therapy06:39 Low Sexual Self-Esteem and Intimacy Issues10:47 Sources of Body Shame26:37 The Role of Media and Queer Communities27:16 Closing and Contact Information28:41 Final Thank Yous and OutroNeed resources on desire discrepancy? https://www.desirediscrepancy.comBioNikita Fernandes (she/her) is a psychotherapist and certified sex therapist in New York City. She is an active member of the kink scene and brings her lived experiences to her work. Nikita's clinical identity lies in supporting people seeking culturally sensitive, poly & kink-friendly, and gender-affirming therapists. She works with individuals and people in relationships. Nikita prioritizes fostering self-compassion in the face of systemic oppression, rather than just numbing pain. Rooted in evidence-based techniques, her methods acknowledge the impact of trauma and embrace diverse cultural perspectives. Nikita graduated from New York University with a Master in Mental Health Counseling and is also an AASECT certified sex therapist.healingwithnikita.comnikita@texgibson.comWant to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.More info and resources:Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcastSecret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcastHow Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.comThe Course – https://www.intimacywithease.comThe Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.comAccess the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the significance of sex in intimate relationships. Addressing the common concern from lower desire partners who often feel misunderstood or inadequate, Jessa delves into why sex is more than just a physical act—it is a profound emotional connection. She explains how openness and vulnerability during sex create a unique bond between partners. By exploring these dynamics, Jessa offers insights and strategies for both lower and higher desire partners to improve their intimate relationships. The episode encourages open communication and understanding, highlighting the multidimensional nature of sexual intimacy.00:00 Introduction to Better Sex00:49 The Importance of Sex in Relationships01:15 Understanding Lower Desire Partners03:21 The Emotional Significance of Sex04:07 Vulnerability and Connection in Sex06:10 Communicating About Sexual Needs07:30 Conclusion and Listener EngagementWant to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.More info and resources:Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcastSecret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcastHow Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.comThe Course – https://www.intimacywithease.comThe Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.comAccess the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass