

HERself
Abby and Amy
As women and mothers of young children, it can be easy to compare ourselves to others. But your life isn't supposed to look like hers! Being your best self means standing firm in your decisions and always being willing to grow with a purpose. Are you wanting more ease in your marriage? Or more enjoyment as a parent? Are you looking for a strategy to the health challenges you have been facing recently? Do you feel like you have been staring at a stranger in the mirror since becoming a mother? Abby and Amy get vulnerable with topics around partnership, motherhood, health, and self improvement by interviewing authors, therapists, experts and everyday mothers. Our conversations will meet you with solutions and solidarity as you find a life path that feels aligned for you. If this sounds like you, hit play on your favorite episode title and make sure you're following the HERself podcast.
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Mar 29, 2021 • 38min
69. HERstory: Elicia Shepard on Closing the Gap Between Stay at Home Moms and Working Moms
Elicia Shepard joins the podcast again and brings a real take on her life as a stay-at-home mama. Her vulnerability with topics like isolation in the pandemic, sex and intimacy struggles in the early baby years, and finding purpose outside of motherhood were inspiring. This episode helps to build a bridge between mothers who work outside of the home and those who stay home with their children and we hope to continue to bridge this gap through conversations like this one.Thank you Elicia for your words and we hope you all enjoy the episode!MEET ELICIALet’s connect!HERself PATREONHERSELF INSTAGRAMMEET AMY MEET ABBYGoodr Sunglasses 15% off with code HERSELFBetterHelp Counselling 10% Discount

Mar 22, 2021 • 28min
68. Editing Your Life
As women, there are many areas where we can edit our life to become the best version of ourselves. The little things we do on a daily basis can add up to big changes over time. We all know the heavy feeling of overconsuming thoughts and being pulled into an unhealthy obsession at times. Pairing that with a need for multitasking and it can be a recipe for disaster.Today we discuss a few strategies that have worked for us to combat overwhelm and feel more centered in life. We hope it can help prompt some solutions for you, too.Let’s connect!HERself PATREONHERSELF INSTAGRAMMEET AMY MEET ABBYBetterHelp Counselling 10% Discount

Mar 15, 2021 • 51min
67. HERself Expert: Therapist Chasity Holcomb on Breaking Up with Mom Guilt and Letting Your Values Lead
Chasity from @momfully.you joins us on the podcast today. We dove into SO many important mom conversations. Chasity calls the link between self-care and mom guilt a "toxic relationship" and helps us understand why we need to make them break up and make sure we are caring for ourselves. She outlined what it looks like to operate from your values and achieve a "you do you" mentality. We dove into anxiety and how you can start to take anxiety's coat off. Many of the things covered are what mamas need to hear right now were covered and Chasity's information and delivery are like a big heart hug. You don't want to miss this one mamas! Xo. MEET CHASITYLet’s connect!HERself PATREONHERSELF INSTAGRAMMEET AMY MEET ABBY

Mar 8, 2021 • 28min
66. Toxic Positivity
We live in a culture that loves positivity- people tend to value, respect, and admire it. But what happens if we're too positive? It can become toxic.If we start to suppress or talk ourselves out of any negative emotion we come across- we aren't allowing ourselves the full human experience. Today, we dive into a lot of details about toxic positivity- what it is and why it can be a problem. We chat about the ways that we're working through it and what has helped us on that journey.Let’s connect!HERself PATREONHERSELF INSTAGRAMMEET AMY MEET ABBYBetterHelp Counselling 10% Discount

Mar 1, 2021 • 53min
65. HERself Expert: Cameron Rogers, Financial Advisor on Why Women Need a Seat at the Money and Investment Table When Money and Investments are Being Discussed
Today on the podcast we have financial advisor Cameron Rogers from @ellevest . This is an episode that you aren't going to want to miss. Cameron discusses everything from common financial mistakes that people make, to step 1 when it comes to investing, to whether you should be maxing out a 401K or investing elsewhere. This episode is jam-packed with investment information- and if you're thinking, "My husband handles our investments..." we made it with you in mind.The company she works for ( @ellevest ) is built by women, for women. They are on a mission- and along the way, providing free education like this podcast episode.Resources: Ellevest, NerdwalletPodcasts: Planet Money, Business Casual, WSJ What’s News), Daily Emails (Morning Brew, Robinhood Snacks, FinimizeCONTACT CAMERON at crogers@ellevest.comLet’s connect!HERself PATREONHERSELF INSTAGRAMMEET AMY MEET ABBYGoodr Sunglasses 15% off with code HERSELF

Feb 22, 2021 • 29min
64. Yellow Flags
In this episode, we discuss yellow flags. We all have them. Those moments in time when you aren't feeling yourself- maybe you're less patient with your kiddos, you're quicker to anger with your partner, you're feeling overstimulated to the point that you need to put on headphones.This continues to be a challenging time for women- in a lot of ways. So many of us are feeling stretched thin and without our normal support nets.Today, we focus on how to recognize your yellow flags and reactions in order to change course OR figure out what you need more or less of.Oftentimes- you aren't an angry partner or an impatient mother- you are just not getting the support or care that YOU need to function your best.We're right there with you and honored to bring this important conversation to light today. Let’s connect!HERself PATREONHERSELF INSTAGRAMMEET AMY MEET ABBYBetterHelp Counselling 10% Discount

Feb 15, 2021 • 52min
63. Bring on the Men: On Dad Life and How to Make Your Partner Feel Loved
Our husbands Drew and Colin make their fourth appearance on the podcast. We love having the men on because every story has two sides and our listeners always get to hear our take. We love their honesty and vulnerability as they tackle what is challenging about dad life and partnerships during this stage of having little ones. Our goal is to let other couples know that they aren't alone in their struggles- we all have them. Let’s connect!HERself PATREONHERSELF INSTAGRAMMEET AMY MEET ABBYBetterHelp Counselling 10% Discount

Feb 8, 2021 • 38min
62. HERself Expert: Vanessa Marin, Sex Therapist. All of Your Sex Questions Answered PART 2
Sex therapist Vanessa Marin ( @vanessamarintherapy ) is back on the podcast today. Her first episode (episode 21) was the most listened to episode of 2020...and in this one she brings the SAME goodness.Sex and intimacy are a big part of relationships, but this information can feel underserved for those in long-term relationships. Sometimes as couples, we can let this important piece fall to the wayside as we try to do ALL the things (motherhood, working, keeping up with the house, trying to make sure everyone is fed, etc. etc.).Today, Vanessa helps remind us why sex is important. Not just for your partner- but for YOU. She dives into questions about female sex drive, how to make sure intimacy doesn't just feel like another demand, and how to start to reconnect to this part of your relationship.You can join us for Vanessa's 30 day sex challenge HERE!MEET VANESSALet’s connect!HERself PATREONHERSELF INSTAGRAMMEET AMY MEET ABBY

Feb 1, 2021 • 45min
61. HERstory: Nina (Balkanina) on Gentle Parenting, Influencer Life, and Body Confidence
We're SO excited for this one. Nina ( @balkanina ) is on HERself today, sharing her taking on everything from gentle parenting, to influencer life, to body confidence.Nina leads her community in such an authentic way- she is going to share her take on things while also sharing vulnerable and imperfect moments along the way. She brought the same energy onto our podcast as we got to know her even better.MEET NINANina’s Gentle Parenting ResourcesLet’s connect!HERself PATREONHERSELF INSTAGRAMMEET AMY MEET ABBYGoodr Sunglasses 15% off with code HERSELF

Jan 25, 2021 • 36min
60. Minimizing Comparison to Maximize Your Life
Comparison is such a trap. In this week's episode we talk about comparison in parenting, possessions, body composition/body image, and relationships.Let's be real: we live in a swipe up world that can leave us always lusting over what we need to buy next. We scroll past diets and workouts galore all promising to shrink our bodies. We hear exactly how we're supposed to respond to tantrums and shame ourselves for how we raised our voices earlier. AND we read captions of couples that are only showing the best side of their relationships.It is no wonder that many of us struggle with comparison. But in today's episode we talk about what we can do to minimize focusing on other people's lives and really sink into living the one that feels the best for you. Hope you enjoy it! Let’s connect!HERself PATREONHERSELF INSTAGRAMMEET AMY MEET ABBYBetterHelp Counselling 10% Discount