What are the most important questions couples should ask before getting married? In today’s episode, Allison Raskin and I explore everything to do with modern marriage, diving into the pressures of gender roles, whether or not we should normalize divorce, accepting your partner vs pushing for change, and more. We also tackle essential questions like: How does OCD affect relationships? What are the right questions to ask before saying “I do”? How do I voice my mental health needs in a relationship? Allison Raskin is a New York Times bestselling author and a leading voice in mental health advocacy, in addition to being an accomplished screenwriter and content creator. She co-hosts the popular podcast Just Between Us and created the Emotional Support Lady Instagram and Substack. Her latest book, I Do (I Think): Conversations About Modern Marriage will be released by HarperCollins in October, 2024. Connect with Allison Raskin:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonraskin/?hl=enI Do (I Think): https://www.harpercollins.com/products/i-do-i-think-allison-raskin?variant=41480971976738Emotional Support Lady Substack: https://emotionalsupportlady.substack.com/Just Between Us: https://www.youtube.com/justbetweenusOverthinking About You: https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/allison-raskin/overthinking-about-you/9781523513222/?lens=workman-publishing-companyDon’t forget to follow the show on Instagram: @sleepingaroundpod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode we delve into the complexities of gender and pleasure for all bodies. We explore gender fluidity and the balance between finding pleasure and dysphoria, while offering practical tips for gender expansion in solo and partnered sexual experiences.We also tackle questions like:- What is gender mercuriality?- Should we be aiming for gender euphoria?- How do we avoid the pitfalls of gender dysphoria when exploring sexuality? - What is muffing? Lucie Fielding, PhD, LPC, LMHC (she/they) is a queer, trans misogyny-affected (TMA) femme, and a therapist practicing in Virginia and Washington (on Monacan and unceded Duwamish land, respectively). In addition to being a therapist, Lucie is a sex and kink educator and the author of Trans Sex: Clinical Approaches to Trans Sexualities and Erotic Embodiments (2021), which was named a 2022 Lambda Literary Award finalist (in the Trans-Nonfiction category) and the winner of the 2022 AASECT Book Award (Book for Sexuality Professionals), the 2024 SSTAR Health Professionals Book Award, and the 2024 APA Division 44 Distinguished Book Award. You can find out more about Lucie at https://luciefielding.com or follow them on Instagram (@sexbeyondbinaries) or BlueSky (@sexbeyondbinaries.bsky.social).Don’t forget to follow the show on Instagram: @sleepingaroundpod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kate Moyle, a renowned Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist and author of The Science of Sex, dives into common concerns couples face in therapy. She discusses why 40% report dissatisfaction with their sex lives and the transformative power of sexual communication. Moyle explores the critical balance of stability and spontaneity in relationships, the need for positive conversations to reignite passion, and how to redefine intimacy beyond just penetration. Her insights aim to normalize discussions about sex, encouraging healthier relationships.

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