Sleeping Around Boundaries Are Not What You Think with Juliane Taylor Shore
Feb 11, 2025
Juliane Taylor Shore, a licensed therapist and author specializing in boundaries and neurobiology, dives deep into the often misunderstood concept of boundaries. She explores the different types, including physical and psychological, and discusses the importance of context. Juliane provides practical advice on how to set and prepare for boundaries, emphasizing compassion during the process. She highlights common challenges in relationships and offers techniques for discernment and acceptance, ensuring boundaries are respected and maintained.
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Catcalling Example Shows Context
- Juliane gives the example of a woman catcalled on the street to show context matters for boundary rigidity.
- Going rigid or smiling to escape could both be valid depending on safety and history.
Requests Versus Boundaries
- Separate direct requests (asks for others to change) from boundaries (what you will do to protect yourself).
- Boundaries are actions you take about your own behavior, not attempts to control others.
Find Your 'Oomph' Before Enforcing
- Prep before enforcing an external boundary: clarify your 'oomph' — why this matters enough to endure immediate pain.
- Recognize your brain will prioritize immediate pain and plan accordingly to follow through.
