The ADHD Parenting Podcast

In this episode of the Mike and Ryan break down four widespread myths about ADHD that continue to circulate on social media, in parent groups, and even in professional settings. Using research-based evidence and clinical experience, they explain what’s accurate, what’s not, and why these misconceptions can be unhelpful for families.Find Mike @ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.grownowadhd.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find Ryan @ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.adhddude.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠{{chapters}}[00:00:00] Start[00:00:48] Mike’s Book Announcement[00:01:42] Ryan’s Certification Program[00:02:53] Myth One: Seven Types Of ADHD[00:06:45] Myth Two: Genetic Testing For Medication[00:10:29] Myth Three: AuDHD As A Diagnosis[00:14:08] Myth Four: Masking At School[00:15:15] Why ADHD Behavior Is Context Dependent[00:24:46] Final Takeaways And Closing Thoughts

Delve into the myths surrounding ADHD treatments and discover what evidence truly supports. Parent training and medication emerge as the top recommendations, while traditional talk therapy misses the mark. Learn how executive functions impact therapy effectiveness and the risks of focusing too much on emotions. Explore the limited effectiveness of play therapy and the unique challenges of ADHD, such as time blindness. This insightful discussion empowers parents to make informed choices for their children.

This is part 2 of "Your Child Is Not Your Co-Parent". Ryan and Mike continue examining why popular “gentle” and heavy emotional-validation parenting approaches often backfire for kids with ADHD. They break down the research, explain the leadership needs of ADHD brains, and outline why overtalking, overprocessing, and overnegotiating increase dysregulation rather than calming it.Find Mike @ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.grownowadhd.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find Ryan @ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.adhddude.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠{{chapters}}[00:00:00] Start[00:00:46] Rise of emotional-validation parenting[00:01:58] Why emotional processing overwhelms ADHD brains[00:02:48] ADHD kids’ need for clear leadership and hierarchy[00:05:20] How “armchair therapy” increases dysregulation[00:07:07] Why too much talking makes tasks feel bigger[00:08:29] Non-hierarchical relationships and rising anxiety[00:10:08] Impact of inconsistent leadership[00:12:26] Comfort-zone parenting and avoidance[00:13:58] The “four D’s” and building flexibility[00:15:48] How avoidance worsens anxiety and rigidity[00:17:13] How guidance—not rescue—builds confidence[00:18:16] Three core takeaways for ADHD parentsCitations:Baumrind, D. (1991). The influence of parenting style on adolescent competence and substance use. Journal of Early Adolescence, 11(1), 56–95.Chronis-Tuscano, A., et al. (2011). Parenting behavior and child conduct problems in children with ADHD. Journal of Clinical Child and Adolescent Psychology, 40(1), 44–57.Evans, S. W., Owens, J. S., & Bunford, N. (2014). Evidence based psychosocial treatments for children and adolescents with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. Journal of Clinical Child and Adolescent Psychology, 43(4), 527–551.Johnston, C., & Mash, E. J. (2001). Families of children with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. Journal of Clinical Child Psychology, 30(4), 479–495.Ma, I., van Duijvenvoorde, A. C. K., & Scheres, A. (2020). Cognitive rigidity in ADHD. Journal of Attention Disorders, 24(5), 707–718.Steinberg, L. (2001). We know some things: Parent adolescent relationships in retrospect and prospect. Journal of Research on Adolescence, 11(1), 1–19.

In this insightful discussion, Ryan and Mike reveal why treating children as co-parents can hinder those with ADHD. They highlight the advantages of authoritative parenting, emphasizing warmth paired with clear expectations. Research shows that structure fosters emotional regulation and better behavior, while consistent high expectations reduce a child's reactivity. The hosts also explore how too many choices can overwhelm ADHD kids and propose that routines can enhance executive function, boosting independence.

This re-release dives into the intricate balance between empathy and enabling behaviors for kids with ADHD. A powerful listener's comment sparks a discussion about how too much protection can lead to learned helplessness. The hosts emphasize that real confidence stems from experiences, not over-helping. They also outline daily stress points and provide actionable steps to replace verbal prompts with clearer expectations. The takeaway? High expectations combined with empathy can foster independence and executive function growth.

Dive into practical advice for parents tackling ADHD challenges! Discover insights on managing therapeutic classroom recommendations without backfiring, and navigate the complexities of a preteen’s political curiosity. Learn strategies to reduce prompt dependency during routines like meals and showers. Plus, explore effective ways to address lying and exaggeration in teens, with keen focus on their social and memory skills. Tune in for actionable tips that go beyond the surface!

The hosts delve into the concept of authoritative parenting, emphasizing warmth and structure to help children with ADHD thrive. They discuss the drawbacks of permissive parenting, linking it to increased ADHD symptoms and poor self-regulation. Key strategies include modeling calm behavior and setting clear, consistent limits. They also challenge social media's portrayal of permissiveness as nurturing, highlighting the long-term benefits of high expectations. Practical tips are provided to help parents foster responsibility and resilience in their children.

In this episode of the ADHD Parenting Podcast, Ryan sits down with the father of Rick, a 14-year-old navigating ADHD in the context of a blended family. The conversation explores the challenges of co-parenting across two households with different structures, managing dad guilt while maintaining boundaries, and helping a teen feel both supported and heard. They discuss practical strategies like front-loading transitions, maintaining consistent expectations, and giving kids more voice in decision-making. Rick’s father also shares how ADHD medication has significantly improved Rick’s school performance and home life. This is a candid and practical discussion for parents raising kids with ADHD.Find Mike @ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.grownowadhd.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find Ryan @ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.adhddude.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠{{chapters}}[00:00:00] Start[00:01:00] Introduction — Meet Rick’s dad and hear about life in a blended family with ADHD.[00:02:00] Feeling Singled Out — Rick’s struggles with rules and comparisons to siblings.[00:03:30] Structure and Consistency — Why clear expectations matter in ADHD households.[00:06:20] Two Homes, Two Rules — Navigating co-parenting across different households.[00:08:00] Dad Guilt and Boundaries — Balancing empathy with the need for rules.[00:09:50] Giving Teens a Voice — Collaborative problem solving and building trust.[00:13:30] Transition Trouble — Using front-loading to ease household changes.[00:16:50] Vigilant Care — Staying connected through texts and calls between visits.[00:19:50] Medication Success — How stimulants improved focus and behavior for Rick.[00:22:15] Closing Thoughts — Key takeaways, resources, and next steps.

Mike and Ryan dive into listener inquiries, addressing how to handle neighborhood exclusion for kids and the best practices for setting boundaries with young adults living at home. They also explore strategies for navigating chaotic social events, emphasizing the importance of preparation. Plus, they discuss supporting children's reading preferences, particularly engaging with graphic novels, and how these can enhance comprehension. Tune in for practical, relatable guidance on parenting in the ADHD landscape!

Hosts tackle pressing questions from parents of children with ADHD. They explore how to motivate kids for home therapy without rewards. Strategies for managing emotional outbursts in sports are discussed, especially during medication wear-off. The importance of setting clear boundaries is emphasized. Additionally, they address screen addiction and the need for community support. Real-life challenges and effective communication with teens round out the conversation, highlighting practical parenting tips for navigating ADHD.